Basically, there's this girl that has been giving me constant smiles during our college lectures and would say hey/wave if I saw her around campus. I never bothered approaching as I had a girlfriend and she eventually stopped even acknowledging me. Recently, I broke up with my girlfriend and got our mutual friend to give her my social media info, so she could follow me (I am on vacation, so couldn't do it myself).

Anyway, I sent her a message after she followed me on Wednesday and we started talking for a bit. Eventually the conversation topic went to this big college Christmas Eve party which is coming up in our city. Basically, all colleges in our state have come together to throw this massive party in the city.

We got to talking about how we both plan to go, but that we will probably end up going there solo due to our equally flakey friendship groups. She said that she will probably go with a family member as they won't flake and I joked that even my family members are flakes. She said, "Well if all fails you could always go with your girlfriend. I'm sure she would enjoy it." (She heard I had a girlfriend). I told her that I recently split up with her, she asked why, I said she just wasn't the right one for me. Then she said, "I understand. Well, if Team Flake are up to their flakey ways again, (I feel your pain), you could hang out with me at the party if you want to." I joked that I have high standards to uphold and that if she wants to hang with me at a party she has to be able to do a mean Cha Cha, since that's my forte. She said, "Lol. Cha Cha at this type of party? I can't make any promises but I'll try my best to keep up with you."

I told her I had to go to the gym and ended the conversation after that and we haven't spoke since. Would you say she's interested or was just being friendly? Should I message her before the party on Thursday, or just say nothing and see her there?

Push back and see if she will lean on you too or you knock her down. (That's a metaphor. Don't actually push her.)

You've gotta show interest in her. If she likes you, she'll show more interest back. If not, she'll go cold.

Stop being such a pussy. You've gotta take a risk.

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Why are you making repeat threads?

Like I mentioned on that post, ASK HER OUT. Forget about friends and social circles. Invite her for a drink, ONE ON ONE.

If she makes excuses, she isn't interested.

Please respond to your threads and at least TRY the advice before making new ones, ka peesh?

Hey, still doesn't work! Anybody?!

I was actually going to post this question in that thread, but I couldn't find it and forgot what I named the thread so I couldn't search it either, therefore, I just decided to start a new one.

If the party goes well then I will ask her out on a one-on-one date. Asking her out on a date before the party has even happened, which she asked me to hang out with her at, seems needy to me. Let's get round 1 out of the way before planning round 2, right?