But you're not going to keep doing the same thing over and over while expecting something different to eventually happen.

so i have been dating this peculiar girl for the last few month.she never flakes every time i ask to meet her and when we do we spend a lot of time together.we are in some sort of a relationship but she never initiates contact or plans.i have to do everything and frankly it is bothering me.is she stringing me along?does she have so many orbiters who text her that she forgets about me?she says she loves me but i doubt that.How do you know a girl really loves you?

Why does it bother you?

By your logic, she's receptive to hanging out with you whenever you ask ... yet you feel she may be stringing you along because ... you have to initiate contact???

Again. What's really bothering you? Lots of self-doubt here ... I know the answer, I just want you to think and reflect, and hear you come to the conclusion yourself.

it bothers me because i would like her to contact me much more.it is kinda confusing cause this girl gives u all her time but rarely contacts.i just want to feel more wanted by her.

For God's sake, answer R.C --- it's relevant.

So she won't reach out to you, but will go out with you reach out to her...

The logical thing to assume (to me anyway) is that she's lukewarm on you... doesn't mind you, and will go out with you, but won't go out of her way to set something up.

You do the work, she'll go along... Sounds extremely fulfilling to me! (this is sarcasm)

Ya because not contacting a person is far more indicative of their level of commitment than actually spending time with them...

Projecting your insecurities onto this guy, and likely making him even more confused. Good job...(this is sarcasm).

LOL - what?

What crawled up your ass, n2?

Maybe ask her why?

Nothing. Just proving a point. You're talking about her level of commitment towards him (which in your mind is presumably low) based solely on her lack of initiating contact. Yet the reality is she's giving him her time by hanging out with him in person - which is, the last time I checked far more of a commitment than any lack of initiating a phone conversation.