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Author:  alic [ Sun Nov 15, 2015 11:43 am ]
Post subject:  Is this an IOD or otherwise
Hi,

I've been chatting to this girl I met on Tinder. 8/10 looks etc...

I've been running some game but she can be a bit fiesty. I set a date for us to go out for a hot chocolate (which I have been leading up to), and mentioned:

"Friday is good......And if you behave really well or look super good, I may even buy you that hot chocolate! :)"

She replied:

"OK :)
"I dont like hot chocolate"

Now we had been talking about this for a while and all of a sudden this. I had mentioned chocolate before and she gave no disinterest. She is a nutritionist as well.


IOD?

How do I handle it?

Thanks,
Alex
Author:  Dragula [ Sun Nov 15, 2015 11:51 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Is this an IOD or otherwise
BE NORMAL

her- 'I don't like hot chocolate'
you- 'We will figure something out, let's meet at x place at x time'

So Alex, Mr one post. Now that you got some advice. Will you be contributing to the forum or will you disappear now that you got your answer?
Author:  alic [ Sun Nov 15, 2015 1:32 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Is this an IOD or otherwise
Thanks Dragula. Nice answer!

And who can say - all depends on the way the river of life flows...
Author:  Dragula [ Sun Nov 15, 2015 1:39 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Is this an IOD or otherwise
Quote:
And who can say - all depends on the way the river of life flows...
Now THAT ^ is an IOD

Hope she see's you for the value taking douche that you are
Author:  alic [ Sun Nov 15, 2015 3:01 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Is this an IOD or otherwise
No, no IOD intended. Just a non committal response as I'm not online much.

As I said, I appreciate your answer.
Author:  R.C [ Mon Nov 16, 2015 9:22 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Is this an IOD or otherwise
Lol.

Yeah, clearly and IOD.


Man.. here's an "IOD":

"Friday is good......And if you behave really well or look super good, I may even buy you that hot chocolate! :)"

She replied:

" I HAVE A GOD DAMN BOYFRIEND

There's an IOD for you.
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Mon Nov 16, 2015 11:49 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Is this an IOD or otherwise
You're overthinking, and over invested in a chick that it appears you haven't even met yet. Slow down. You keep this attitude up and you'll be talking yourself out of the date before it happens. This is one of the reasons flakes are so common.

You let the girl saying she doesn't like chocolate after saying "ok" with a smiley face push you into making a forum post to ask for help? Come on man.

When a girl says something you don't like, just don't reply. Let her reinitiate. If the conversation was solid prior they often will. They'll start to question whether or not they said something stupid and send you another message to make sure they still have a shot. Don't bail her out, let her come to you.
Author:  R.C [ Mon Nov 16, 2015 11:52 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Is this an IOD or otherwise
Quote:
When a girl says something you don't like, just don't reply. Let her reinitiate. If the conversation was solid prior they often will. They'll start to question whether or not they said something stupid and send you another message to make sure they still have a shot. Don't bail her out, let her come to you.
Exactly.
Author:  R.C [ Mon Nov 16, 2015 3:54 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Is this an IOD or otherwise
Quote:
" I HAVE A GOD DAMN BOYFRIEND

She wanted to see where the date would go without feeling like a "slut" I presume. You made her feel uncomfortable with your text. Your text is OK but it had more to do with the lady than you, see? There was a better way to handle this. Alternatively, not sure what kind of women you screen for. Perhaps you like affairs, but moving right along;
Quote:
When a girl says something you don't like, just don't reply.
I would just like to remind you that "in-action" is still action. What does doing this hope to achieve? I get the idea but I worry that people err on the side of misapplied "freeze-outs" already. Lack of participation in "BS" is a fine decision to make when appropriate, as you insinuate. But sometimes (and a lot of the time) a good conversation or sentence at the right time can make all the difference, too. Let's not forget that, please. Because we always do.
Not sure whether you realized or not, I was re-iterating OP's conversation, showing him what an "IOD" looks like. That's not actually real.
Author:  Arch Stanton [ Mon Nov 16, 2015 7:44 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Is this an IOD or otherwise
Quote:
"Friday is good......And if you behave really well or look super good, I may even buy you that hot chocolate! :)"

She replied:

"OK :)
"I dont like hot chocolate"

How do I handle it?
It wasn't the hot chocolate. It was you sounding like her grandma.

Just redirect and don't talk to her like she's a stroke victim or a 4 year old.
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Mon Nov 16, 2015 8:40 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Is this an IOD or otherwise
Quote:
" I HAVE A GOD DAMN BOYFRIEND

She wanted to see where the date would go without feeling like a "slut" I presume. You made her feel uncomfortable with your text. Your text is OK but it had more to do with the lady than you, see? There was a better way to handle this. Alternatively, not sure what kind of women you screen for. Perhaps you like affairs, but moving right along;
Quote:
When a girl says something you don't like, just don't reply.
I would just like to remind you that "in-action" is still action. What does doing this hope to achieve? I get the idea but I worry that people err on the side of misapplied "freeze-outs" already. Lack of participation in "BS" is a fine decision to make when appropriate, as you insinuate. But sometimes (and a lot of the time) a good conversation or sentence at the right time can make all the difference, too. Let's not forget that, please. Because we always do.
LOL.
Author:  neo87 [ Tue Nov 17, 2015 7:04 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Is this an IOD or otherwise
Quote:
BE NORMAL

her- 'I don't like hot chocolate'
you- 'We will figure something out, let's meet at x place at x time'

So Alex, Mr one post. Now that you got some advice. Will you be contributing to the forum or will you disappear now that you got your answer?

Lol. It's as simple as this ^ She's just telling you she doesn't like hot chocolate for a date.
Author:  R.C [ Tue Nov 17, 2015 8:47 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Is this an IOD or otherwise
Quote:
Quote:
Not sure whether you realized or not, I was re-iterating OP's conversation, showing him what an "IOD" looks like. That's not actually real.
How did I misread that? Oops. I didn't notice that you wrote that actually, RC. I still think the OP can benefit from the post if it is a re-iteration, anyway.
Happens, it's all good.
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