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Author:  hollo321 [ Sat Nov 14, 2015 11:17 am ]
Post subject:  trying to set up 1st date, what went wrong here?
hey guys ive been gaming this girl met online and while trying to set up the date things took a bad turn apparently because of venue choices! :roll:
cant get my head around is it something i said or she is just nuts, what u guys think:

me: meet me at "beach bar"
her: why? what did you have in mind?
me: relax around the beach for a bit, gotta take advantage summer almost over
her: um...by the the beach?not loving this plan. hmm, myb lets meet another day actually.
me: just chill some drinks and friendly conversation.
me: if u like " this other place" also nice
come to "cafe"
u know where it is?
her: yes i know where they both are
sorry im just not feeling keen anymore, i dont want to sit by the beach in the wind and cold maybe meet another day.
me: yeh no worries we can go somewhere inside. i know a really nice pub we can go"pub"
her: im sorry to sound complicated but im not sure im understanding what your into anymore. that pub great place-pick up bar with loud music. really sorry im not feeling this anymore.
me: it doesnt really matter where we go whats important is we meet...
u got any place u recommend?
her: look my prefrence for meeting is not outside by the beach in the cold, and not in a loud pick up bar..that summerises it and seeing how u suggested them first i dont feel keen.
me: i also suggested "cafe". with me best coffee u ever had :)
her: for ur benefit, i ignored that suggestion as a meeting place rather than an actual suggestion. im sorry. im not into meeting anymore. hope u have a great weekend!

i didnt reply.. thoughts?
Author:  Arch Stanton [ Sat Nov 14, 2015 11:41 am ]
Post subject:  Re: trying to set up 1st date, what went wrong here?
Tell her you need to buy an expensive tool set in order to meet up with her because she's such high maintenance.

Then ignore her unless she contacts you again. She tested you to see if she could push you around. You should have held ground with the first choice. It wasn't the venues she didnt like, it was your caving to her bitchy whims.
Author:  hollo321 [ Sat Nov 14, 2015 12:10 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: trying to set up 1st date, what went wrong here?
Quote:
Tell her you need to buy an expensive tool set in order to meet up with her because she's such high maintenance.

Then ignore her unless she contacts you again. She tested you to see if she could push you around. You should have held ground with the first choice. It wasn't the venues she didnt like, it was your caving to her bitchy whims.
thanks for the suggestion mate. yeh makes sense, need to just hold my ground next time.
Author:  hollo321 [ Sat Nov 14, 2015 3:37 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: trying to set up 1st date, what went wrong here?
and with that line and some other messages demanding the coffee shop and telling her but not tonight i made other plans, got her interested again. but dont understand y she or any girl plays these stupid games/tests. crap like this kinna makes me resent them..
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Sat Nov 14, 2015 3:45 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: trying to set up 1st date, what went wrong here?
Way too pushy man.

You have to learn how to read between the lines with women. Don't get so wrapped up with what she says more so that what she means by what she's saying. The girl doesn't care where she's meeting, its all about the level of comfort she has for you at the time you ask. So when she says " Another day" all she's really saying is that she isn't comfortable enough with you to meet you yet.

You can get a girl to come to your house on the first date if establish the level of comfort with her necessary. Which can usually be done after in 30 mins to and hour on the phone depending on your conversational skills.

So in the future when a girl says "another day" just back the conversation up a bit. Do some more fluff talk - I personally pick up the phone and call them. And after some talk you ask again and her answer will change so long as her emotional state has changed.

She's expressing her feelings, not her truth. So not meeting is not what she wants, its just how she feels. It can change.

Read this: pua-lounge/topic190620.html and give her some time. If she comes back on her own you handle it from there. If not, cut your losses and rinse and repeat the next time you find yourself here.

Change a womans feelings, don't try and change her mind and you'll be a lot more successful.
Author:  hollo321 [ Sat Nov 14, 2015 4:28 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: trying to set up 1st date, what went wrong here?
Quote:
Way too pushy man.

You have to learn how to real between the lines with women. Don't get so wrapped up with what she says more so that what she means by what she's saying. The girl doesn't care where she's meeting, its all about the level of comfort she has for you at the time you ask. So when she says " Another day" all she's really saying is that she isn't comfortable enough with you to meet you yet.

You can get a girl to come to your house on the first date if establish the level of comfort with her necessary. Which can usually be done after in 30 mins to and hour on the phone depending on your conversational skills.

So in the future when a girl says "another day" just back the conversation up a bit. Do some more fluff talk - I personally pick up the phone and call them. And after some talk you ask again and her answer will change so long as her emotional state has changed.

She's expressing her feelings, not her truth. So not meeting is not what she wants, its just how she feels. It can change.

Read this: pua-lounge/topic190620.html and give her some time. If she comes back on her own you handle it from there. If not, cut your losses and rinse and repeat the next time you find yourself here.

Change a womans feelings, don't try and change her mind and you'll be a lot more successful.

thanks eddie yeh guess she was just making up excuses saying it was the place when she wasnt ready to see me and i mispercieved it as the place was the problem which is why i didnt back down. We have only been talking about a week so yeh comfort level was pretty low but she asked what i was doing this weekend which i thought was a good time to ask and she said she was free tonight..I usually never call girls because that is my weak point, i get extremely anxious and always screw it up on the phone. I usually do great on texting and dates so i always ask for date on text which often gets me into similar games n such but i think better chances than phone for me. thanks also for the link imma read up.
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