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Author:  stevedtat [ Fri Nov 13, 2015 2:56 am ]
Post subject:  got myself into a weird situation at work...

Let me start off as saying that I'm an AFC to the PU game, but not to women. I've always had the ideas that you guys teach in the back of my head, but thanks to my reads and your guys' help, I understand them much better now. But here's my situation...

I work in marketing and today I was having a discussion with my boss and a coworker. We were discussion salesmanship and human nature. I used a little of my know-how to demonstrate some of the ways it can be used to help make more sales for the business. As my boss and I were talking, we got on the subject of sports (he's a guy BTW) and Tennis. I explained that when used in the right context, tennis can actually be very sexual and enticing to women.

now, my coworker is a very cute 8 with nice curves and big breasts. As she was listening to me, I noticed IOIs out the ass. she was eyeing me, she shyed away when I looked at her, her body language was pointed towards me, and when I was explaining the way tennis is dance between two people and the sexual tension of trading energies back and forth I swear she orgasmed right there...she wanted me BAD.

I believe my boss saw it too, he looked at her then at me and started laughing.

Now, my question...should I pursue this or drag it out and play with it? Is it professional to get into this with a coworker, or safer to just let it go?

thanks for any advice, I appreciate it.

Author:  CharlesFinley [ Fri Nov 13, 2015 3:22 am ]
Post subject:  Re: got myself into a weird situation at work...

It's not professional. It's more trouble than it's worth and you're asking for awkwardness somewhere down the road if you pursue this...

I think you already know the answer to this question.

Author:  spectastic [ Fri Nov 13, 2015 8:20 am ]
Post subject:  Re: got myself into a weird situation at work...

I'm in a similar predicament at my work place. she's a solid 8, and I see her sneaking peeks at me when I'm working with customers. We're a small shop, and the bosses aren't even here most of the time. I'm not going to make any moves, even though I could feel the tension. If she wasn't in a seriously relationship, I would totally ask to hang out with her outside work.

I think it depends on the workplace. a stuck up corporate SPAM is a big no no. a laid back work environment is totally fine, in my opinion.

Author:  RockstarPUA [ Fri Nov 13, 2015 8:46 am ]
Post subject:  Re: got myself into a weird situation at work...

It really all depends on how it finishes to be honest. If you start something with her, be sure to be clear on your intentions. If you just want her as a fuckbuddy, then make sure she knows that, so theres no pressure. It's when people have a conflict of emotions that things get difficult. Ive had sexual relations with a few co-workers, and all of them now are just friends, no awkwardness, because we all knew the score. Just handle it right. You never know, she may be of the same mind, your both professional adults.

Author:  R.C [ Fri Nov 13, 2015 9:13 am ]
Post subject:  Re: got myself into a weird situation at work...

You can do it.

Just make sure she's not batshit crazy. Then if you have a little tact you're all good.

Author:  stevedtat [ Sat Nov 14, 2015 4:09 am ]
Post subject:  Re: got myself into a weird situation at work...

Thanks a bunch for the replies guys. I'm gonna take your advice and let things cool off with her. I think it's better that I just go find women elsewhere, rather then take the risk. it's not worth the headaches and chance to lose my job...besides, I can do better and have. If she was a 10 and super worth it...now, that would be much more worth it.

Author:  Eddie Fews [ Sat Nov 14, 2015 3:02 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: got myself into a weird situation at work...

The work thing ain't ever a good idea man. Unless of course you see something long term in the picture. After a lay, someone is often left with the shorter end of the stick. And that can create some environments that aren't the most comfortable to dwell in.

Not to mention, those type of things are best if capitalized off of in that moment. Had you asked her out, got her number, or escalated shortly after that moment you would be in position to make something of it. It was a passing moment, take the lesson, enjoy the attention and keep on building yourself into the person you want to be.

Author:  neo87 [ Sat Nov 14, 2015 4:21 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: got myself into a weird situation at work...

Quote:
You can do it.

Just make sure she's not batshit crazy. Then if you have a little tact you're all good.

This.

Also OP, I love how the story is about you talking about SEX...... at WORK...... to your BOSS and in front of your FEMALE COWORKER..... yet now we're talking about what's PROFESSIONAL. Lol. Now, if she had gone to HR and said she felt uncomfortable she'd be in the right. If your workplace is this chill that you can do that, you probably have nothing to worry about it. If you really are concerned about being professional and not losing your job, keep those conversations out of the workplace.

Now, that hypocrisy out of the way....if you sleep with a chick at work and dump her, she's not going to go to HR and say "Steve was fucking me...fire him." She can't, plus girls are smart and not going to mess their own shit up. If your workplace has a policy against dating coworkers, then don't. If you plan to fuck over this woman, then don't. Even so, you could get with this woman, abuse her, dump her, and most likely she still wont go to managers about that shit because most women prefer to avoid conflict.

There can be awkwardness if things end, and thats up to you if you can live with that. But for me, personally, I don't care. There's awkwardness when I date the bartender at my favorite bar for a few months and I see her there every time I go. There's awkwardness when I see an ex out. There's awkwardness when I ask the drive thru chicks out and I go to McDonalds for breakfast and see them again. I've banged many chicks at work, and see them almost every day...it's not awkward because I never led them on or acted lovey dovey when I wasn't. Also, I don't know about you guys, but I'm active in my career, as are the women at work. In a year, I may not be in the same department and probably promoted again. I may move to a better position oustide the company. She may get promoted. She may go back to school. I really dont care about the awkwardness because its not like I'm going to around the same woman for 2 years anyway at a company.

Anyways, if your workplace is so lax that you can talk about sex like that to your boss, and have a coworker near orgasm...relax. And if it's not that laid back, then don't have that conversation again. I can say, I WON'T have had that conversation with my boss in the open, and if I did in earshot of a female, he'd probably tell me wtf I was doing talking about sex in a female coworker's vicinity.

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