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Author:  jswift2k3x [ Mon Aug 31, 2015 7:20 pm ]
Post subject:  Help with new relationship
Hello all. I am new to the forum but have been following PUA material for many years. Need some help with a recent relationship. Ive been talking to this girl for almost a month now. We've went on four dates and have seen each other nearly every week. This weekend we were supposed to go to a local theme park. On Saturday afternoon we were talking about the weather and she said she was excited to go. Later that night I texted her about going for a ride on my motorcycle to which I received no reply. I sent her another message four hours later with a picture of my bike saying "I know a cute girl that belongs here". Still no reply. It was late at about 1:30am and still hadnt heard from her. Since we didnt discuss when we were going to meet the next day for the theme park, I told her to meet me at my house at 9am. No reply. In the morning a got a text saying she couldnt go. No explanation as to why. I asked why and even tried calling her but no answer. Sent her a message after an hour asking if she was ok and if something happened. No answer. Didnt receive any communication yesterday or today so far. I know she's attracted to me and our dates have been great. We kiss every time we see each other and she has mentioned several times how good of a kisser I am. What should I do? Thanks
Author:  Dragula [ Mon Aug 31, 2015 7:38 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Help with new relationship
Have you tried having sex with her after the dates?

4 dates that end with kissing only usually makes them bored because you're just not taking to the next stage (seduction) now she is probably met someone else by now who isn't afraid to make move. She hasn't even put you in the friendzone because she clearly wants you to fuck her so she might as well ignore you on the texts.

Less theme park dates and more "red wine, Netflix and chill" dates at your apartment...get it?

Read my sig link
Author:  jswift2k3x [ Mon Aug 31, 2015 7:44 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Help with new relationship
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Have you tried having sex with her after the dates?

4 dates that end with kissing only usually makes them bored because you're just not taking to the next stage (seduction) now she is probably met someone else by now who isn't afraid to make move. She hasn't even put you in the friendzone because she clearly wants you to fuck her so she might as well ignore you on the texts.

Less theme park dates and more "red wine, Netflix and chill" dates at your apartment...get it?

Read my sig link
I've been trying to get to the sex level a few times. Once after we were on my friends boat all day she came back to my place I asked her to stay and watch a movie. She said she needed to get home even after I grabbed her thighs and kissed her passionately.
Author:  Dragula [ Mon Aug 31, 2015 7:45 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Help with new relationship
Try again and again. Heard of LMR?

Was you planning on fucking her on the roller coaster?
Author:  jswift2k3x [ Mon Aug 31, 2015 7:53 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Help with new relationship
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Try again and again.

Was you planning on fucking her on the roller coaster?
Makes sense. How should I move forward with the situation? Should I wait a while then contact her and not bring up her flake?
Author:  Dragula [ Mon Aug 31, 2015 7:59 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Help with new relationship
You might have blew it.

You're texting her way too much. If it was me, I would go radio silence and see if she texts me. But you probably don't like the sound of that.

Here is a canned line that has saved my bacon a few times:

You never write, you never call, rent is overdue, our kids are worried about their mom, what shall I tell them? ;)

(Please don't forget the winky face)

If she responds healthily, I would say I would really to see her, I would tell her I want to cook her a nice meal and watch a movie, she will know what's up.

Candles, Give her a massage - love that shit, set the mood.
Author:  jswift2k3x [ Mon Aug 31, 2015 8:04 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Help with new relationship
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You might have blew it.

You're texting her way too much. If it was me, I would go radio silence and see if she texts me. But you probably don't like the sound of that.

Here is a canned line that has saved my bacon a few times:

You never write, you never call, rent is overdue, our kids are worried about their mom, what shall I tell them? ;)

(Please don't forget the winky face)

If she responds healthily, I would say I would really to see her, I would tell her I want to cook her a nice meal and watch a movie, she will know what's up.

Candles, Give her a massage - love that shit, set the mood.
Awesome! I appreciate your help. For future reference how should I have handled the situation when she first flaked?
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Mon Aug 31, 2015 8:24 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Help with new relationship
You never have to contact a girl more than once.

If she's interested in going, she would reply on the first contact and/or initiate conversation with you and ask where to meet or when to meet. This is a basic case of you liking the girl a bit too much and not balancing your pushes with your pulls. The door currently says pull.. but you keep pushing it expecting it to open.

Give her some time, let her come to you, and read this which will further elaborate on this topic: viewtopic.php?f=25&t=190620
Author:  Dragula [ Mon Aug 31, 2015 8:27 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Help with new relationship
Lead it to the bedroom. Always. Date 1/2/3 - always lead it to the next stage
Author:  DW-Heart-Charmer [ Tue Sep 01, 2015 2:06 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Help with new relationship
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You never have to contact a girl more than once.
Not true. Hang out with some hot girls and see how many texts they get in a day. Truth be told you do rise to the top if she likes you.
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No explanation as to why.
You were being a needy bitch, see the following:
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On Saturday afternoon we were talking about the weather
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Later that night I texted her about going for a ride on my motorcycle to which I received no reply.
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I sent her another message four hours later with a picture of my bike saying "I know a cute girl that belongs here"
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I told her to meet me at my house at 9am
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I asked why and even tried calling her but no answer.
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Sent her a message after an hour asking if she was ok and if something happened.
That's most of the neediness I can find. Dude calm it down.
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I know she's attracted to me and our dates have been great.
Re-think this. Your dates haven't been great. The two of you haven't even had sex after four dates. She also is not attracted to you anymore. You blew it. There is nothing more you can do with this girl.

For the future calm it down and play it cool. Why are you texting her at night on a Saturday? Wouldn't a very attractive man such as yourself have plenty of plans, other friends or women to hang out with?

Get more girls and realize a woman likes you because you don't need her, but want her. This girl was probably thinking holy shit what did I do to this guy? We haven't even had sex and he can't live without me.
Author:  jswift2k3x [ Tue Sep 01, 2015 2:59 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Help with new relationship
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Lead it to the bedroom. Always. Date 1/2/3 - always lead it to the next stage
Ok great sex, sex, and more sex. I get it. But that didnt really answer the question. What should I have done when she flaked?
Author:  Dragula [ Tue Sep 01, 2015 3:56 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Help with new relationship
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Lead it to the bedroom. Always. Date 1/2/3 - always lead it to the next stage
What should I have done when she flaked?

I just told you. The reason why she flaked is because she wanted to fuck you.

In other words. Next you find yourself in the same situation, don't do the same thing. Learn from the mistake.

I'm telling you to prevent it. Not cure the problem.
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