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We had sex. Hung out 2 days later.. and then Flaked
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Author:  norbs [ Fri Aug 28, 2015 7:31 am ]
Post subject:  We had sex. Hung out 2 days later.. and then Flaked
So I met this girl at a friends house and we started talking blah blah one thing led to another and the next day were having sex. couple days later I inviter hang out with me again, she comes by, she lives about 30 minutes away and she drove to my place. We hung out for about an hour she was talking about how she wanted us to be together and I said we would see how that goes. Then a few days go by and I invited to come over again and she said she couldn't come over buecause she was busy. How can I tell if she's losing interest or if she was genuinely busy??
Author:  Dragula [ Fri Aug 28, 2015 7:52 am ]
Post subject:  Re: We had sex. Hung out 2 days later.. and then Flaked
Invite her over again.

There could be a possibility that she might have other things she likes to do with her time that isn't you.

If she flakes again I would just stop texting her. Have like a 2/3 flakes and she is out rule.

If she wants to be with you, she would be texting how your day is everyday and stuff, Is she doing that?
Author:  norbs [ Fri Aug 28, 2015 12:33 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: We had sex. Hung out 2 days later.. and then Flaked
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If she wants to be with you, she would be texting how your day is everyday and stuff, Is she doing that?

Before the flake she would text me things like I just thought of you and this and that.. but after the flake its been 2 days of no contact.
Author:  Dragula [ Fri Aug 28, 2015 1:13 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: We had sex. Hung out 2 days later.. and then Flaked
Doesn't look good but you never know. Don't react, chase more girls and if she is interested in you she will get back to you. DON'T REACT.

This girl one time flaked that she was in a car accident, I felt like texting her "haha yeah yeah I believe you, stop wasting my time" but I just stopped texting her instead...3 months later she texts me saying that she is able to be mobile in crutches and landed myself a hot girl in crutches date lol - you never know.

But it seems like you have put all your eggs in one basket with this girl. Live abundantly.
Author:  Tom Hunt [ Fri Aug 28, 2015 2:01 pm ]
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Yeah I reckon go out find some more girls then give her a ring in a couple of weeks when you aren't so outcome dependant :)
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Fri Aug 28, 2015 4:45 pm ]
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You chill, sit back, wait, and see what happens. :roll:

There is no need to begin second guessing yourself ever. With time and patience what you want to find out will eventually be revealed to you. Just keep it cool. And focus on other areas of your life in the meantime.
Author:  Jay (Majik) [ Fri Aug 28, 2015 5:32 pm ]
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Dude... she likes you.

You've gotta realize that a girl will tell you she's "busy" because she's got a pimple and doesn't want to see you like that or she smells a little funny cause she was working all day. Whatever. She is still in the phase where she wants to look her absolute best for you.

I've had girls meet up with me after a "day of shopping" and show up in a dress and heels. Really? You wore that all day? To go shopping? Or is it you're trying to look cute for me?

It took me some time to figure out but that's how girls are man. They want to "impress you" and "not fuck it up" just as much as you are trying to do the exact same thing. Loosen up man. She likes you.

Don't try and force a relationship either. Let it happen organically. You'll be much happier that way.
Author:  norbs [ Fri Aug 28, 2015 6:23 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: We had sex. Hung out 2 days later.. and then Flaked
Thanks for the replies they make perfect sense. I havent reacted at all after that day all I said to her text was "thats cool".. Ill just work on my game in the mean time and if she texts me then cool. Thanks for the help
Author:  Karlb [ Fri Aug 28, 2015 10:20 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: We had sex. Hung out 2 days later.. and then Flaked
She probably feels awkward about the sex right away and now she's flaking and playing stupid games and self-sabotaging. Tell her you want to see her. If she flakes then move on. Some women are all about getting some D and bolting but based on what you said I feel like she likes you but feels like you're judging her - even if it's not true/based in reality lots of women think and act this way after having sex soon after meeting because they feel like they messed things up.
Author:  DW-Heart-Charmer [ Sat Aug 29, 2015 2:19 am ]
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Why didn't you have sex with her the second time you guys hung out?
Author:  n2thevoid [ Sat Aug 29, 2015 8:58 am ]
Post subject:  Re: We had sex. Hung out 2 days later.. and then Flaked
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So I met this girl at a friends house and we started talking blah blah one thing led to another and the next day were having sex. couple days later I inviter hang out with me again, she comes by, she lives about 30 minutes away and she drove to my place. We hung out for about an hour she was talking about how she wanted us to be together and I said we would see how that goes. Then a few days go by and I invited to come over again and she said she couldn't come over buecause she was busy. How can I tell if she's losing interest or if she was genuinely busy??
Stop trying to see where you stand with this girl, that's the chicks job and a complete turn-off. U'll certainly fuck things up if she senses you're doing this.

Just be cool, wait a few days and get her out again. Assume she was busy, don't assume the worse assume FULL attraction and that she just couldn't come over at that time - a logistics thing nothing more.
Author:  wilyone [ Sat Aug 29, 2015 6:04 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: We had sex. Hung out 2 days later.. and then Flaked
There is another possibility here besides genuinely being busy or losing interest. She may be playing hard to get or feeling like you are treating her like a booty call.

She was obviously extremely interested. She had sex with you right away, drove 30 minutes to see you again and said she wanted you guys to be together.

Then your next invite was another last-minute booty call for her to drive 30 miles again. I think you should try inviting her out a few days in advance and see if she responds better.

Also, if a girl says she's busy, "that's cool" doesn't seem like the best response. Seems inauthentic and immature. How about "Bummer. Another time perhaps."
Author:  norbs [ Sat Aug 29, 2015 8:28 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: We had sex. Hung out 2 days later.. and then Flaked
@Karlb: Makes sense, Ill keep that in mind for any future thing like this. Thanks
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@DW-Heart-Charmer: We were about to have sex but her brother kept blowing up her phone so she ended up leaving.
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@n2thevoid: I never show that I'm trying to see where I stand with these girls, so in that sense I have the upper hand. Thanks
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@wilyone: You make a good point. Also you're right that probably wasn't the best text to send. Thanks
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In general how do you guys think I should go about inviting her out again. Its been a week of no contact and I've been hanging out with other chicks but I like this girl, not crazy about her but she seems like someone cool to be with (My type of girl). So whats the best way to re-approach?
Author:  n2thevoid [ Sat Aug 29, 2015 9:09 pm ]
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@Karlb: Makes sense, Ill keep that in mind for any future thing like this. Thanks
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@DW-Heart-Charmer: We were about to have sex but her brother kept blowing up her phone so she ended up leaving.
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@n2thevoid: I never show that I'm trying to see where I stand with these girls, so in that sense I have the upper hand. Thanks
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@wilyone: You make a good point. Also you're right that probably wasn't the best text to send. Thanks
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In general how do you guys think I should go about inviting her out again. Its been a week of no contact and I've been hanging out with other chicks but I like this girl, not crazy about her but she seems like someone cool to be with (My type of girl). So whats the best way to re-approach?

Bullshit. This completely speaks to the contrary:

" How can I tell if she's losing interest or if she was genuinely busy??"
Author:  norbs [ Sat Aug 29, 2015 9:23 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: We had sex. Hung out 2 days later.. and then Flaked
@n2thevoid Lol :lol: Im asking you guys the questions to improve my game that's what this forum is for. I rarely show signs of beta to these girls and when I do I catch it and fix it right away.. this questions and ideas that I have are just posted/expressed here. Of course asking "How can I tell if she's losing interest or if she was genuinely busy" Comes off as needy and over invested, but the purpose of the question is to see different poitns of view. and I agree with yours :D
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