So I've been through a bad breakup starting a month ago. I met my last gf online. I've tried to regain confidence after this breakup so I've started approaching women and trying to follow the advice of Corey Wayne. I approached one woman at a bus stop didn't work out and last night I approached 4 women some were probably attracted but a couple chicks started hitting on other guys and left and I believe the 4th woman was maybe attracted but her bf was there at the bar too and had to go. I'm getting better with accepting rejection but am I doing something wrong? How many women should should I approach? Is 4 a lot in one night at a bar?

Listen, sorry to hear about the break up... It sounds like that you went out as an emotional reaction to the break up. So please be true to yourself. Are you doing this be good with women in general or are you just still pissed about the break up?

Let me be frank with you, when you 1st get into this stuff. Be prepared to get rejected 100's and 100's of times before getting anywhere with this. Making this thread after only approaching 5 girls is not enough yet. Perhaps add 2 zeros on the end of 5.

Watch some infield stuff, have fun with it. Rejection is part of the process so don't take it personally. It's all part of it.

This stuff works. I can testify to that. But my ego had to crumble and had some serious low points of my life during the process. You have to be immersed, you need to think about it when you're in bed at night. You need to take the red pill.

Baby steps, learn one thing at a time...

Look your best, body language, look for peeps to go out with, Google for an opener, approach girls after girl after girl and make a move..

If you are not approaching 40 girls a week, (getting MOSTLY rejected, getting the odd makeout, phone numbers and you might even get laid).

If you are not ready for that at the very least, then there isn't much the community can do for you.

I agree with you guys entirely 40 women a week is going to take some work for me so I'm starting small. That said my problem is I see a lot of beautiful women but I don't know what to say once I see them without being awkward. In other words at a bar it's more "appropriate" to ask them how their night is going and strike up a conversation but if I see a hot women in the mall I never know how to start the conversation. I guess openers are an issue with random women where the only opener I can think of is some complement which is usually a bad thing. How can I work on finding better openers for day gaming or is that even worth doing?

I agree with you guys entirely 40 women a week is going to take some work for me so I'm starting small. That said my problem is I see a lot of beautiful women but I don't know what to say once I see them without being awkward. In other words at a bar it's more "appropriate" to ask them how their night is going and strike up a conversation but if I see a hot women in the mall I never know how to start the conversation. I guess openers are an issue with random women where the only opener I can think of is some complement which is usually a bad thing. How can I work on finding better openers for day gaming or is that even worth doing?

You thinks this came natural to me too?

There is tons of methods to learn, tons of opener at the click of a mouse click.

It requires whatever that needs to be required. Baby steps.

Enough with the defeatist mindset

4 isn't much in the grand scheme of things. You may have to approach thousands.

It all depends now where you are emotional. Approaching women and getting rejected is about building your emotional muscles. So they're going to rip when you work them out and they'll grow back even stronger just like physical muscles.

Now the amount of approaches you'll need to do to get to where you want to be depends on your emotional condition. Are you 700 pounds emotionally trying to get down to 180 pounds or are you 250 trying to get down to 180 pounds. One of those will take a lot more effort and time.

You want to to keep working out and build the emotional state you desire.

Concentrate your approaches too. Its better to approach 5 women within the same 20 minutes than it is to approach 10 women in 2 hours. You have to give yourself a small window to heat up. The guys that talk themselves up for 20 minutes before every approach never get hot. The "hotter" you become, the better your frame and the more women will be receptive to you. Compare it to baking a chicken for 5 mins every hour for 10 hours opposed to baking it for 40 straight minutes. It'll never get done with the 5 mins. You need a concentrated window to cook.

Good to see you getting out there though. The majority of the guys here aren't approaching, and/or they approach a bit and then get stuck on one girl and come here for oneitis advice.

So salute.

Are some nights just like that?

Update guys. I went out with a friend tonight. There were plenty of beautiful women around but somehow at the bars and clubs not one of them seemed approachable even when compared to a couple nights ago when there were more women around by themselves. Tonight it seemed like every gal I would need interested in approaching had a bf already with them out nearby. What is up with that? Are some nights just like that?

Update guys. I went out with a friend tonight. There were plenty of beautiful women around but somehow at the bars and clubs not one of them seemed approachable even when compared to a couple nights ago when there were more women around by themselves. Tonight it seemed like every gal I would need interested in approaching had a bf already with them out nearby. What is up with that? Are some nights just like that?