Hi Guys, been back and forth on this forum have to admit haven't returned in a long time i had a LTR and then when that ended didn't mind much need to come back, the skills remained, i stuck to my standard rules and had plenty of fun. But i have recently hit a snag. I tend to have a golden rule about avoiding girls already with guys, i mean plenty more fish in the sea with less trouble if all you want to do is get to know them a little right....
Well i recently met someone online, we have a mutual friend on an social networking sight, i made a joke at this girls expense she looks gorgeous 10/10, so threw a little playful neg, to which she responded giving me some shit, i gave back it continued for a few messages till i sent her a private message, the convo continued, getting more playful and flirty etc, this continued till 2:30 in the morning till i left as i was sleepy.
Then myself and a group of friends including the mutual friend, where heading into town for cinema 2days later so invited her along (i no cinema wasnt the best but it was a less risky move for her as we are not alone easier to say yes, which she did) we continued to talk pretty much non stop by txt phone or online for 2 days, she even making playful jokes about making me breakfast
...and i suggested coming over to see my art work a passion we share which went down well anyway... Great time at cinema everyone had a laugh on way home she sits with me on train i start some playful kino and some testing to see if she will do things she does all going great....Walking back she is staying at a mates, and i make a joke while walking along side, about how she is dangerous ill have to avoid her and tell my guy mates she is trouble to which she responds "lucky i already have a bf then" ...needless to say i was stunned shocked and thought straight away fuck that, said good bye to her and the one friend that was left and said im gunna go grab some food, and hit the hay cya around. light hug and walked off....
Now normally that would be that, but sadly i did find myself regretting my decision as i quite liked her by this point was very interested and thought well, what the heck she hadnt mentioned him yet, and wouldnt of at all if it wasnt for my line so fuck it...
I messages the friend i knew she was staying with both female, said hey i cant eat a pizza to myself you wanna join me? she said sure why dont you head over here, obviously told the girl of interest as she then sends me a message yea come round sounds good!!
so i went around sat with her, had an amazing night just as much banter as always some other people turned up added to the fun, while we where charming down sat with her a nice foot rub told her to turn around she did pulled her back to lean into me she did and gave her a shoulder rub. I suggest about another party coming the following weekend even took her phone and put it in her calendar for her which she accepted.
Anyway i had to leave left around 2 am again, work in the morning on my way home get a text from her, "Thanks for a lovely night, Hope you get home safe, you will have to tell me more about the weekend party
, Night night smelly" we texted a little more banter and teasing till i crashed, talked all the next day, and all the next day to which point we got to no each other alot more found we have similar art backgrounds similar taste in food and cooking and more importantly, similar views on life and some real you no deep topics Proper connecting, with alot of banter thrown in. Found out she works around the corner from me till late so i offered to walk her home, this is when the first few signs of resistance kicked in. She originally said yes, then started with the "you dont have to" "it will just be hassel for you" to which i just teased and told her she should make up her mind its very boring 
She said well what do you want to do, i turned this playful and went " well i want to buy a nice house, hav a wonderful wife a few kids, one day retire get my dream car and travel Europe in it" she instantly called me a smart ass, and a sarcastic bastard and said u no what i meant so told her "i will walk you home cya outside at 10:00pm" ...now in this time she was at work a mutual friend of our txt me rather upset and down so i thought right gotta do something about this friends come first in my book...
So picked up the ladie after her work an asked her without saying why "Are you in a rush to go home, or have you got time" ..."she said she had time why?" but her body language straight away seemed very stand off ish she was walking very fast and a few steps away from me, i didnt point this out just walked at my own pace, as we passed my apartment i stopped her and said we are diverting ive left a window open
;)on purpose loltook her up shut the window showed her around pointed out some of my art work on the wall and then said "right your not going home yet "friend" is upset we are going over to see her" so we did again she walked fast almost ahead of me and very fast paced but i continued to walk at my speed and she slowed a little and stayed close, when we got to friends, i sat down (on floor facing friend on sofa, and she sat the other end of the room about as far as you could politely get and still talk -_- ...anyway i didnt care at this point, all attention went to friend talking chatting cheering her up, which i think spiked jealous mode as she threw a kids toy that was left out at me playfully, and then said after a few more minutes im gunna come sit with you so i can hear better and even though there was a free seat left on the sofa, she sat on floor next to me (winning again)...
Anyway we all went out for an evening walk to cool off relax its nice when its late and the street are empty, this time she stayed alot closer, we walked to town near mine again and "friend"mentioned needing some super glue, which i offered i had some at mine so second visit to the flat, we sat down stayed and chatted for half hour, she walked around by herself looking at the art work on my walls through bedroom and living areas etc i left her to it...
After we left mine back to walking home, she walked alot slower and closer now, even slightly cutting my friend out the convo while we had our own little giggle about things, dropped friend off and continued to walk her home all the way alot closer, and at my pace this time i sped up and slowed down at one point for a few seconds and she followed suit, some playful nudging etc...
Got to her, her mum is home light still on, but she points out some loving benches in the shared communal garden next to hers so i sat down at which point she stood in front of me and kept talking, i lent back locked in and carried on told her to sit and she did cuddled up i rubbed her back a little, and we had another deep talk till the early hours of the morning about our family and friends. At which point she brings up "i cant make it this weekend, (to the party i put in her calendar) im seeing my bf friday, and working late, sat, and seeing dad sunday"...(this is the second time in a week of nonstop talking she mentions him)
(please note your probably all if your still reading screaming why haven't you tried anything, as much as i want to be with her, i wont make her a cheater i feel strongly about that hate me if you will i don't care i have my code that is part of it, whether the rest of the community agree or not!!)
So we ended up talking till 3 am, friday is next day, nothing i didnt message her all day and i heard nothing from her... come saturday i sent her a message "Hey Banana, (nick name she gained i dnt like them
) drop me a message when your free sunday i have something interesting and cool to show you, have fun at work today lol "she responded rather fast i might add there was a 2 min gap..."oooo banana , not sure if im around sunday, might be staying at dads , if not ill definitely giv you a text, and best be good haha " and within a minute another txt that read "P.S. Make sure you have an awesome night, i expect you to party for the both of us, thank you v much " so i didnt respond to either of them i kinda got lost in the afternoon and then the party anyway, woke up late sunday lots to do but didnt send any response till a few hours ago, saying "when is it not good with me
u will enjoy it more than my massages haha and your bloody banana smoothie and was a good night, alot of friends alot of photos, you would of enjoyed it " ive had NO response, to that even though i can see she is pretty active online and that and im not sure how to move forward, I quite like her and althou there are moments of dis-interest on her part there are alot more IOI's than not...But what to do about the BF i dont no how to play it or continue, so far both times she has mentioned him i have continued on the conversation just kinda ignoring the fact it was said. :/
At this point ive made an awesome convo buddy, if i can make it more great if not oh well, but i would a least like to try learn something new after all try to always improve our skills right??!!
sorry for the long story but i feel its best you get the detail, any one help or advise???????
kind regards???
