PUA Forum :: No contact for 3 weeks, ex replies right away.

Who broke up with who? If she broke up with you, which sounds like the case, then you have to deny all impulse to contact her further. She should be the one reaching out to you not the other way around.

Find other girls and stop talking to your ex.

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Find other girls and stop talking to your ex.

Or just learn to be cool being with yourself FIRST, rather than using women to fill your addiction to not feeling alone.

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Find other girls and stop talking to your ex.

Or just learn to be cool being with yourself FIRST, rather than using women to fill your addiction to not feeling alone.

Any reason why the two statements have to be mutually exclusive?

To me it sounds like she would of contacting you on her own had you just waited a another day or so. The point of no contact in m experience is for you to move on, leaving them to remember on their own what they missed and reach out to you. If you break it, you haven't followed the rule. Its left to them to break. You're suppose to be too busy standing on your own two feet again to be looking for the attention of someone in your past.

Also, don't be so quick to think that just because you received an immediate response that all is now right with the world. Girls reply back to their orbiters and even initiate contact with them at times and those guys don't stand a chance.

What condition was this relationship in before you decided to go no contact? And how do you feel about the girl now? Because I could give you a text to send her, but I can't have the entire conversation for you and even if I did, I won't be there when it becomes time to meet up with her and display that you have in fact grown beyond the past experience.

Reaching back is a signal of stagnancy. You haven't elevated from where you were and so you've reaching back in
hopes that you can get what you once had and feel "up" again. A woman doesn't want to be leaned and depended on. She wants someone she can lean on.

My advice to you is to just cut your ties. Don't even reply. Continuing moving forward and let her reinitiate contact if she feels the desire.

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21, 30 and 45 days is the rule I read, I waited about 22 days. Maybe I should have waited, but nobody can tell for sure.
There were some words and emotions, don't know if it was because she cared or if she was a complete bitch.
Ffter the first texts, I ended the conversation. I started it up again with some kinda interesting text and she replied in an instant.
I waited an hour to reply and again she texted me straight back after that.
My feeling for her went down considerably, I've been reading the 48 laws of power and I'm about to start the art of seduction, also I've been doing research on this forum and the internet.
I got back in to working out and talking to other girls/friends.

Good for you for doing these things, staying busy is important. But make sure you are doing them because you want to and not because you think it will ultimately get this girl back. I think it's pretty clear from your posts that you do in fact want her back and if those feeling come through on a few posts online to a bunch of strangers then what do you think your ex will be able to deduce from your interactions. Move on and when you stop thinking and caring about her then she might reach out to you.

Author:	Vandeee [ Thu Jun 25, 2015 8:54 pm ]
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Hi, I went no contact with my ex for 3 weeks and I send a text today. me: hey, i just saw an episode of the walking dead and it made me think of the good times we had. Hope you're doing well. Her: I though about you the past 2 days her: thats strange.. How do I take it from here guys?

Author:	odyn [ Fri Jun 26, 2015 2:57 am ]
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Who broke up with who? If she broke up with you, which sounds like the case, then you have to deny all impulse to contact her further. She should be the one reaching out to you not the other way around.

Author:	Mr. Assertive [ Fri Jun 26, 2015 3:15 am ]
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don't do it man...but if you do...don't hand her your balls...

Author:	n2thevoid [ Fri Jun 26, 2015 6:26 am ]
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Quote: Who broke up with who? If she broke up with you, which sounds like the case, then you have to deny all impulse to contact her further. She should be the one reaching out to you not the other way around. This

Author:	R.C [ Fri Jun 26, 2015 6:38 am ]
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Find other girls and stop talking to your ex.

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Author:	Dragula [ Fri Jun 26, 2015 7:16 am ]
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this is a pick up forum. Not a "how to get my ex back" forum

Author:	n2thevoid [ Fri Jun 26, 2015 8:18 am ]
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Quote: Find other girls and stop talking to your ex. Or just learn to be cool being with yourself FIRST, rather than using women to fill your addiction to not feeling alone.

Author:	Eddie Fews [ Fri Jun 26, 2015 3:23 pm ]
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To me it sounds like she would of contacting you on her own had you just waited a another day or so. The point of no contact in m experience is for you to move on, leaving them to remember on their own what they missed and reach out to you. If you break it, you haven't followed the rule. Its left to them to break. You're suppose to be too busy standing on your own two feet again to be looking for the attention of someone in your past. Also, don't be so quick to think that just because you received an immediate response that all is now right with the world. Girls reply back to their orbiters and even initiate contact with them at times and those guys don't stand a chance. What condition was this relationship in before you decided to go no contact? And how do you feel about the girl now? Because I could give you a text to send her, but I can't have the entire conversation for you and even if I did, I won't be there when it becomes time to meet up with her and display that you have in fact grown beyond the past experience. Reaching back is a signal of stagnancy. You haven't elevated from where you were and so you've reaching back in hopes that you can get what you once had and feel "up" again. A woman doesn't want to be leaned and depended on. She wants someone she can lean on. My advice to you is to just cut your ties. Don't even reply. Continuing moving forward and let her reinitiate contact if she feels the desire.

Author:	R.C [ Fri Jun 26, 2015 3:29 pm ]
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Quote: Quote: Find other girls and stop talking to your ex. Or just learn to be cool being with yourself FIRST, rather than using women to fill your addiction to not feeling alone. Any reason why the two statements have to be mutually exclusive?

Author:	n2thevoid [ Fri Jun 26, 2015 5:12 pm ]
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Quote: Quote: Quote: Find other girls and stop talking to your ex. Or just learn to be cool being with yourself FIRST, rather than using women to fill your addiction to not feeling alone. Any reason why the two statements have to be mutually exclusive? Yes, and No (as with most things in life). If you had a drug problem, say cocaine, do you think the best remedy would be to simply switch to another drug? So you may no longer be addicted to cocaine, but now you're addicted to meth, or ecstasy. The underlying addictive tendency is still there, it's just now with something else. Same goes with women. A lot of guys delude themselves into thinking that the best remedy to get over a girl is to find 10 (or 1) other. These same guys, in most if not all cases are doing this because they are suffering from addictions themselves - the addiction of filling their lives with distraction, in this case women, so they never have to really sit with themselves and do the work. MOST of these guys also have convinced themselves they need the validation of a woman to feel worthy, AND actually try to connect to themselves through these women (which is impossible) and as a result are extremely needy. Make no mistake, jumping to another woman is not unlike any other addictive behavior. You're going through a breakup - which is a hard thing - there's an open wound that needs heeling. Do you think its best to simply jump into something else without letting that wound sufficiently heel? So now you're dating someone else and drawing constant comparisons to 'her' - is that fair either to both this new person and yourself? Most guys who do this are looking for the quick fix - they are completely out-of-touch with themselves, and are afraid of sitting with those hard feelings that come along with loss. Sitting with these feelings is actually GOOD, it allows the person to process through them and the wound to repair so he is ready for something else down the road. Put another way, if you burned your hand badly, how are you going to deal with it? Are you going to put some neosporon on it and bandage it up, keep it clean and let it heal? Or are you going to continue using it and completely disregard how painful it is and allow it get even worse? Same goes with your heart - are you going to ignore the pain inflicted upon it and start putting yourself out there for other women when clearly you haven't entirely grieved the relationship and learned to be vulnerable with yourself first, or are you going to take the time to reflect, fill in the holes yourself, DO YOU, and THEN start looking for a potential new partner? The guys who do the real core identity work learn that loneliness is ok, that being by themselves is 'ok' and sometimes even desired. And when they get involved with a new girl, they aren't afraid to take time to themselves AND realize "hey, u know what I'm cool being with just myself" so if things go awry in the relationship he isn't afraid to end things knowing that he's cool just the way he is and can always find somebody new even if it means waiting a bit. This is and of itself is a byproduct of living out of abundance (rather than scarcity from which the needy guy operates from). You relationships will always be better because you truly know that you are cool with yourself and you will remain more congruent with your values and intentions toward others. You will also not sit there and pine about pleasing the woman but knowing that if she starts making unreasonable requests or is a total freak (aka validation whore) or whatever then you will walk, and this will also be subcommunciated to her. A win/win in my book.

Author:	Vandeee [ Fri Jun 26, 2015 8:07 pm ]
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Quote: To me it sounds like she would of contacting you on her own had you just waited a another day or so. The point of no contact in m experience is for you to move on, leaving them to remember on their own what they missed and reach out to you. If you break it, you haven't followed the rule. Its left to them to break. You're suppose to be too busy standing on your own two feet again to be looking for the attention of someone in your past. Also, don't be so quick to think that just because you received an immediate response that all is now right with the world. Girls reply back to their orbiters and even initiate contact with them at times and those guys don't stand a chance. What condition was this relationship in before you decided to go no contact? And how do you feel about the girl now? Because I could give you a text to send her, but I can't have the entire conversation for you and even if I did, I won't be there when it becomes time to meet up with her and display that you have in fact grown beyond the past experience. Reaching back is a signal of stagnancy. You haven't elevated from where you were and so you've reaching back in hopes that you can get what you once had and feel "up" again. A woman doesn't want to be leaned and depended on. She wants someone she can lean on. My advice to you is to just cut your ties. Don't even reply. Continuing moving forward and let her reinitiate contact if she feels the desire. 21, 30 and 45 days is the rule I read, I waited about 22 days. Maybe I should have waited, but nobody can tell for sure. There were some words and emotions, don't know if it was because she cared or if she was a complete bitch. Ffter the first texts, I ended the conversation. I started it up again with some kinda interesting text and she replied in an instant. I waited an hour to reply and again she texted me straight back after that. My feeling for her went down considerably, I've been reading the 48 laws of power and I'm about to start the art of seduction, also I've been doing research on this forum and the internet. I got back in to working out and talking to other girls/friends.

Author:	n2thevoid [ Fri Jun 26, 2015 8:21 pm ]
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Quote: Quote: To me it sounds like she would of contacting you on her own had you just waited a another day or so. The point of no contact in m experience is for you to move on, leaving them to remember on their own what they missed and reach out to you. If you break it, you haven't followed the rule. Its left to them to break. You're suppose to be too busy standing on your own two feet again to be looking for the attention of someone in your past. Also, don't be so quick to think that just because you received an immediate response that all is now right with the world. Girls reply back to their orbiters and even initiate contact with them at times and those guys don't stand a chance. What condition was this relationship in before you decided to go no contact? And how do you feel about the girl now? Because I could give you a text to send her, but I can't have the entire conversation for you and even if I did, I won't be there when it becomes time to meet up with her and display that you have in fact grown beyond the past experience. Reaching back is a signal of stagnancy. You haven't elevated from where you were and so you've reaching back in hopes that you can get what you once had and feel "up" again. A woman doesn't want to be leaned and depended on. She wants someone she can lean on. My advice to you is to just cut your ties. Don't even reply. Continuing moving forward and let her reinitiate contact if she feels the desire. 21, 30 and 45 days is the rule I read, I waited about 22 days. Maybe I should have waited, but nobody can tell for sure. There were some words and emotions, don't know if it was because she cared or if she was a complete bitch. Ffter the first texts, I ended the conversation. I started it up again with some kinda interesting text and she replied in an instant. I waited an hour to reply and again she texted me straight back after that. My feeling for her went down considerably, I've been reading the 48 laws of power and I'm about to start the art of seduction, also I've been doing research on this forum and the internet. I got back in to working out and talking to other girls/friends. Recognize this is all your attachment talking. Why be with somebody who clearly doesn't think you're up to snuff for them, and beyond that approach them? You know the healthy thing to do, lead and your ass will follow.

Author:	odyn [ Fri Jun 26, 2015 8:40 pm ]
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Good for you for doing these things, staying busy is important. But make sure you are doing them because you want to and not because you think it will ultimately get this girl back. I think it's pretty clear from your posts that you do in fact want her back and if those feeling come through on a few posts online to a bunch of strangers then what do you think your ex will be able to deduce from your interactions. Move on and when you stop thinking and caring about her then she might reach out to you.

Author:	n2thevoid [ Fri Jun 26, 2015 8:43 pm ]
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Quote: Good for you for doing these things, staying busy is important. But make sure you are doing them because you want to and not because you think it will ultimately get this girl back. I think it's pretty clear from your posts that you do in fact want her back and if those feeling come through on a few posts online to a bunch of strangers then what do you think your ex will be able to deduce from your interactions. Move on and when you stop thinking and caring about her then she might reach out to you. This is paramount. Intentions are everything, be honest with yourself. If it's coming out of the energy of winning her back, reflect on yourself and figure out the "why". You'll gain far more from that then ever trying to win her or any girl over.

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Author:	Vandeee [ Fri Jun 26, 2015 8:52 pm ]
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Interesting points of view! I will be putting myself first like I've been doing since the break-up. Even tho I got hurt as fuck this actually brought me to a level that I wanted to work on me, and improve who I am. Why I reached out to her? Because the NC said so and,if I get a chance to get her back yea I will grab it. Do I have a chance? IDK, I already got a NO, I can get a yes. She doesnt owe me. It's sad to say, but her telling me she thought about me put her value down and gave me satisfaction. Is that messed up?