PUA Forum :: Meeting new girls when I'm shy?

where should I be approaching these girls? how do I open to them? I've only ever opened on a night out after having a few drinks. I didn't realise it would be this tough.

Well I'm 30 and most of my friends are married or in couples. They don't go out much like they used to. I'm finding it really difficult to meet new girls I'm really shy too which doesn't help. I use online websites but it doesn't seem to be going anywhere. When I ask a girl out online they just vanish. I've met quite a few girls online in the past but it's never worked out. I'm looking for new ways it's really getting me down I just don't feel like I'll ever meet anyone.

I would say I'm a pretty good looking guy who also works out but can't seem to get anyone. Any tips would be useful.

Come on mate, you want me to stick your penis in them for you too?

where should I be approaching these girls? how do I open to them? I've only ever opened on a night out after having a few drinks. I didn't realise it would be this tough.

Author:	Moose185 [ Thu Jun 25, 2015 10:21 am ]
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Well I'm 30 and most of my friends are married or in couples. They don't go out much like they used to. I'm finding it really difficult to meet new girls I'm really shy too which doesn't help. I use online websites but it doesn't seem to be going anywhere. When I ask a girl out online they just vanish. I've met quite a few girls online in the past but it's never worked out. I'm looking for new ways it's really getting me down I just don't feel like I'll ever meet anyone. I would say I'm a pretty good looking guy who also works out but can't seem to get anyone. Any tips would be useful.

Author:	Dragula [ Thu Jun 25, 2015 12:01 pm ]
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My advice is to get in the trenches like the rest of the people who are no longer shy. Stop using online game as way to beat approach anxiety. Jump in the deep end and earn it. Tell me you're shy once you have approached and escalated on a 1000+ girls... Hate or love cold approaching. It's a raw. It's uncomfortable. This is where you will grow. Once you nail this, your online game will almost seem too easy. Right now, you're using those electric ab machines that don't work as opposed to eating correct and lifting heavy in the gym. You're 30 years old. You're gonna die one day. get it done. I'm not even speculating because I was EXACTLY where you were a few years ago. But I am under no illusion that I could hack game and concentrate on online only. Meet up with wings, get immersed. Get ready to feel uncomfortable. The best things in life don't come easy. Get it done. Do whatever that is required. If you're not approaching 10+ girls a week sober you're probably wasting your time. You might get lucky with the odd plain tinder girl...but I doubt you would be happy.

Author:	Moose185 [ Thu Jun 25, 2015 4:11 pm ]
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where should I be approaching these girls? how do I open to them? I've only ever opened on a night out after having a few drinks. I didn't realise it would be this tough.

Author:	masterm1ne [ Thu Jun 25, 2015 4:14 pm ]
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Quote: where should I be approaching these girls? how do I open to them? I've only ever opened on a night out after having a few drinks. I didn't realise it would be this tough. Come on bro. Get Paul Janka's e-books on daygame for free online. Girls are everywhere, restaurants, malls, parks, etc. He covers everything... it's ok to approach at night when drinking but don't drink too much to where you're coming off as "I need to be drunk to talk to you." Sends really bad subliminal messages... The only limits are in your head!

Author:	JackZero [ Thu Jun 25, 2015 4:18 pm ]
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You approach them in designated pickup areas. j/k You can approach girls wherever there is at least one girl.

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Author:	Dragula [ Thu Jun 25, 2015 4:19 pm ]
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Quote: where should I be approaching these girls? how do I open to them? I've only ever opened on a night out after having a few drinks. I didn't realise it would be this tough. Come on mate, you want me to stick your penis in them for you too? You can meet them anywhere... Grab your life by the balls already. You're on a pick up forum. Search for advice. Use google. Purchase an ebook/book and follow it or something...Or you can have the odd Tinder date and continue to scare girls away due to you not making a move on them..,

Author:	n2thevoid [ Thu Jun 25, 2015 4:30 pm ]
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Quote: Well I'm 30 and most of my friends are married or in couples. They don't go out much like they used to. I'm finding it really difficult to meet new girls I'm really shy too which doesn't help. I use online websites but it doesn't seem to be going anywhere. When I ask a girl out online they just vanish. I've met quite a few girls online in the past but it's never worked out. I'm looking for new ways it's really getting me down I just don't feel like I'll ever meet anyone. I would say I'm a pretty good looking guy who also works out but can't seem to get anyone. Any tips would be useful. Online's a challenge these days. A lot of guys are far more brazen online than they are face-to-face, and I firmly believe its far easier to 'game' women offline and better to for a variety of reasons (you see them right away rather than get an idea of how they look through photos which can easily be manipulated, you can feel if the vibes there or not, it takes more balls to approach a woman offline which makes you look more attractive and polarizes them more quickly, etc). Attractive women get flooded with messages from all sorts of guy online, sometimes well over 50 an hour - I know because my female friends show me the proof. Lotta creeps, douches, needy guys, VERY few guys who are engaging and grab their attention - that said you need to put some sorta effort into your message that'll pull her in, and often times yes conversation just hit dead ends or the girl drops off. Its like a cat with all these shiny toys, its attention is getting pulled every which way - this is not how it is offline unless you're in a club and she's getting attention by every guy in the place - but whatever I'm hoping you're past the club phase as its very rare to meet a quality girl in a club. It's fine if you're shy, and frankly who isn't afraid of rejection. The difference between those who succeed with women vs those who fail is that the successful guys don't get bogged down by rejection - they don't personalize it (she doesnt know you so she can't reject you, really). Rejections a part of life, listen to any famous person's story and you'll find that they'd failed time after time but constantly got back up and learned from their mistakes until they succeeded. Don't throw yourself in the lions den with respect to approaching women. Use a step ladder approach. W What I mean by this is if you aren't approaching, then just make a point this week of engaging 10 women with "hello", or ask them what the time is and move on. Then next week ask them how their day is going, etc. Right now your sole focus should be approaching, not getting caught up in would have/could haves. Remember, you're screening HER to see if she's cool enough to hang with you so you can get to know her better. Do this and before long you'll have no problem approaching women. Ya you'll still feel so fear, but you will realize rejection is NOTHING and that fear won't immobilize you as you'd let it in the past. God speed.

Author:	masterm1ne [ Thu Jun 25, 2015 4:35 pm ]
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Quote: Come on mate, you want me to stick your penis in them for you too? Can you stop with these hilarious comments I'm in a library!!! xDDDD

Author:	R.C [ Thu Jun 25, 2015 4:45 pm ]
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Don't mistake shyness for being a gigantic pussy. You went on 10 dates with a girl and never made a move. That's not being shy, that's letting your fears lead your life. Take a chance for once.

Author:	Eddie Fews [ Thu Jun 25, 2015 5:34 pm ]
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Quote: where should I be approaching these girls? how do I open to them? I've only ever opened on a night out after having a few drinks. I didn't realise it would be this tough. With all the time that you been around this forum you dare ask such a question? This forum, many other forums and the internet is full of information on this topic. Online is cheat sheet for the guys who have actually developed their skills in person. So if you can't come close to getting laid without online it's damn near useless. You have to put the work in it. You have to look foolish and deal with temporary discomfort to grow. No growth comes without resistance. You don't work out despite how you FEEL, and you don't develop muscles. You don't get out there and approach women despite how you FEEL and you don't develop the social skills necessary to elevate you from your problems. No one said this would be easy, its not suppose to be, but you have to get out there and do it anyway.

Author:	Jay (Majik) [ Thu Jun 25, 2015 9:10 pm ]
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Maybe stop being so shy...? It's something you're going to have to work on. There is no secret. And it's not going to happen over night. Just stop making excuses.

Author:	Moose185 [ Sat Jun 27, 2015 10:14 am ]
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Thanks for all the advice, yeah not escalating with a girl after 10 dates was complete stupidity but I think it shows just how shy I am. Even if a girl strongly chases after me I don't make a move. I know I would never make that mistake again but I've never been given the opportunity again been on lots of dates not met any nice girls. I was thinking approaching girls in different places would help.

Author:	Dragula [ Sat Jun 27, 2015 10:14 pm ]
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You can make opportunities by going to a night club tonight and escalate on a bunch of girls. You can do that. Today

Author:	J.Daniels [ Sat Jun 27, 2015 11:30 pm ]
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Look for the newbie mission. Go to a shopping centre, do the mission. Simple enough.

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Author:	dtrak [ Sun Jun 28, 2015 12:44 am ]
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You need to tighten up your game, cant meet new girls without game. Start with the basics - Open any cute girl you see. How ? Come up with an excuse , if you're not smart enough to learn how to open a woman then you have other problems you might want to look into. Get comfortable with that then learn how to attract - hook - let her invest and close. And no you wont learn game from your couch. Stop furiously masterbating and go take action. I'm shy too, but i don't let it stop me from achieving my goals. Meeting girls may seem complicated to the inexperienced guy, but the truth is, is incredibly easy once you get the fundementals down. All it comes down to is manning the fuck up and eliminating bitch behaviors from your mindset. Can you do that?