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Author:  Williscleave [ Sat Jun 13, 2015 7:39 am ]
Post subject:  Girl in a relationship is acting like she wants me
To keep this short and simple, I met a girl I work with and we started texting recently. I was telling a joke and she thought I was hitting on her and said she had a boyfriend. I clarified it was a joke and since then she has been texting me a good bit, came over to my place to smoke one afternoon, invited me to go hiking, etc.

I feel like there's a real connection between us and I have a suspicion that she isn't too happy with her boyfriend. When we are together she makes intense eye contact, faces me, gets close, and kinda flaunts herself to me. Now she has talked about her boyfriend a little and the only stories she tells me are ones that make it sound like the relationship isn't going to work out.

I'm not putting too much effort into a taken girl, but I do think we have some great chemistry and she is into me. Obviously I could ask her but I'm not ready to play my cards until I get some outside opinions and advice. What are some other signs I could look out for in this situation? And feel free to ask questions. Thanks bros :)
Author:  Crystalyst [ Sat Jun 13, 2015 3:47 pm ]
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To keep this short and simple, I met a girl I work with and we started texting recently. I was telling a joke and she thought I was hitting on her and said she had a boyfriend. I clarified it was a joke and since then she has been texting me a good bit, came over to my place to smoke one afternoon, invited me to go hiking, etc.

I feel like there's a real connection between us and I have a suspicion that she isn't too happy with her boyfriend. When we are together she makes intense eye contact, faces me, gets close, and kinda flaunts herself to me. Now she has talked about her boyfriend a little and the only stories she tells me are ones that make it sound like the relationship isn't going to work out.

I'm not putting too much effort into a taken girl, but I do think we have some great chemistry and she is into me. Obviously I could ask her but I'm not ready to play my cards until I get some outside opinions and advice. What are some other signs I could look out for in this situation? And feel free to ask questions. Thanks bros :)
The way you talk sounds like you're looking for a relationship. Can you ever trust some girl who's willing to sleep around while dating someone? My advice is to push it as far as you can, but don't trust her or let your guard down until you truly have gotten to know her. Even then, will you ever be able to fully trust her? She may just be looking for something on the side. You never know. Don't treat her like a girlfriend. Just treat her like someone you find sexy as fuck and keep escalating whenever possible. Some girls with boyfriends just enjoy the validation and flirt with other dudes like crazy but won't do anything. See how far she's willing to take it and then re-evaluate from there.

When she mentions her boyfriend, don't even acknowledge it. Change the subject. Talk about something on your mind. Her BF doesn't fucking exist as far as you're concerned, all that matters is getting her to do sexual stuff with you so you can evaluate your chances from there. Otherwise just assume it's a tease if she's not willing to reciprocate with stuff such as make-outs and whatnot.
Author:  J.Daniels [ Sat Jun 13, 2015 4:21 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl in a relationship is acting like she wants me
She's great for a fuck buddy, nothing more.

Trust me, it's the truth - you'll probably tell yourself "No, it'll be different with me, I'll keep her happy" ...there's always a guy who can keep her happier. Plus. why should you have to live on your toes like that?
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Mon Jun 15, 2015 1:23 pm ]
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Why do you have to ask her anything?

Make your move.. If you objects in a ill manner you'll know whats up. You don't have to ask her a thing. Its better to ask for forgiveness than it is to ask for permission man. Remember that.
Author:  R.C [ Mon Jun 15, 2015 1:26 pm ]
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Just go for it already. No such thing as a "taken" girl.

Also +1:
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Its better to ask for forgiveness than it is to ask for permission man. Remember that.
Author:  breedlove465 [ Mon Jun 15, 2015 1:30 pm ]
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She has a bf but she's coming over to smoke at your place?

Yea she wants it, lol. No need to play your cards.

Don't ask her out on a date. Get her back to your place and escalate. Bring her to your room and show her some funny videos, get high together and just start kissing her.

Just don't date her.
Author:  R.C [ Mon Jun 15, 2015 1:35 pm ]
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Just don't date her.
Oh enough of this already. Date her if you want OP. "Cheating" is not a psychological problem a woman is exposed to. It's a decision she makes based on the quality of her current relationship/boyfriend.

Stop creating unpatternable patterns.
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Mon Jun 15, 2015 1:43 pm ]
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Just don't date her.
Oh enough of this already. Date her if you want OP.
+1

Say it again man. Say it again.

Her cheating on him is no reflection of her cheating on you.

Just because a mans quits his job at mc donalds doesn't mean he'll quit his job at google. It's about the quality of the position.
Author:  J.Daniels [ Mon Jun 15, 2015 9:34 pm ]
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The people on this thread are genuinely ignoring the facts and statistics behind cheating. Cheating ones, multiplies your chances of cheating again by 4. I usually wouldn't argue, but this is your life. This girl clearly has no integrity. Do not date this girl. I fucking promise you, do not take this girl, ever. If you do, be prepared to get left behind when a guy with better game comes along.
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Mon Jun 15, 2015 9:42 pm ]
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The people on this thread are genuinely ignoring the facts and statistics behind cheating. Cheating ones, multiplies your chances of cheating again by 4. I usually wouldn't argue, but this is your life. This girl clearly has no integrity. Do not date this girl. I fucking promise you, do not take this girl, ever. If you do, be prepared to get left behind when a guy with better game comes along.
Lol
Author:  J.Daniels [ Mon Jun 15, 2015 9:49 pm ]
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The people on this thread are genuinely ignoring the facts and statistics behind cheating. Cheating ones, multiplies your chances of cheating again by 4. I usually wouldn't argue, but this is your life. This girl clearly has no integrity. Do not date this girl. I fucking promise you, do not take this girl, ever. If you do, be prepared to get left behind when a guy with better game comes along.
Lol
9 times out of 10 I respect the accurate advice that I see you giving, but you can't ignore that. I'm talking from experience, and providing evidence... standards are standards... if she cheats WITH this guy, then why the fuck would she respect him enough to not cheat ON him? But he'd deserve it, for fucking her when she has a guy. Out of order.
Author:  R.C [ Mon Jun 15, 2015 9:59 pm ]
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The people on this thread are genuinely ignoring the facts and statistics behind cheating. Cheating ones, multiplies your chances of cheating again by 4. I usually wouldn't argue, but this is your life. This girl clearly has no integrity. Do not date this girl. I fucking promise you, do not take this girl, ever. If you do, be prepared to get left behind when a guy with better game comes along.
Lol
9 times out of 10 I respect the accurate advice that I see you giving, but you can't ignore that. I'm talking from experience, and providing evidence... standards are standards... if she cheats WITH this guy, then why the fuck would she respect him enough to not cheat ON him? But he'd deserve it, for fucking her when she has a guy. Out of order.

That logic is so flawed I don't even. I can't even even. I don't want to even.

You suffer from self fulfilling prophecies .
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Mon Jun 15, 2015 9:59 pm ]
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The people on this thread are genuinely ignoring the facts and statistics behind cheating. Cheating ones, multiplies your chances of cheating again by 4. I usually wouldn't argue, but this is your life. This girl clearly has no integrity. Do not date this girl. I fucking promise you, do not take this girl, ever. If you do, be prepared to get left behind when a guy with better game comes along.
Lol
I'm talking from experience, and providing evidence...
So am I.

And your conviction is too deeply connected to your personal experience to convince you through a chat. Believe as you wish.

I just completely disagree.
Author:  J.Daniels [ Mon Jun 15, 2015 10:14 pm ]
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Well then we'll have to agree to disagree. OP, if you do give this girl a chance, remember me.
Author:  neo87 [ Tue Jun 16, 2015 11:45 am ]
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As RC said she's not necessarily going to cheat on you if you get with her. If you make her happy, maybe she wouldnt. But, if you stop making her happy, expect her to cheat. If someone steals at a walmart job, they may not steal at the Microsoft job. But when the pay starts to suck at the Microsoft job like the Walmart job, expect them to steal just the same.

However, take it slow I guess. You dont know what her reasoning is for "cheating." Plus, you sound close to one-itis already for this girl which leads to neediness which leads to her more likley getting tired and repeating the process.

It's funny though, if you get her, can she ever really respect you? I mean, if you accept her, what does that say about your options if a girl in a relationship was your best option? It's like accepting a girl in a wheelchair and then thinking she will ever believe that you could do better. Getting with her requires more faith in her than the average girl. Whatever you decide, just dont rush into anything.
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