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Author:  itisme [ Mon May 18, 2015 10:24 pm ]
Post subject:  Telling her about your feelings sometimes helpful?
Hey,

what if pushing the right buttons with a lady backfires?

Happened to me with this one girl, she started presuming that I was a "player", since I was "easy-going", "fun to be around with", etc...
She then TOTALLY broke off contact and ended that little fling we had, telling me that she was sure I'd also be flirting with numerous other girls...

Last I heard from her is that she texted me telling me that everything was "easy for me" but not for her, etc...

1. Would it under such circumstances be a good idea to tell her how you feel about her?
2. Is it wise to tell a lady to her face that when you sleep with her, there'll always be emotions involved? (Sounds pretty heavy to me...)
3. Is it wise to tell her that it's not as easy as it appears to be?

4. If yes, what would be the best, non-neediest strategy to do so (without being able to built rapport IN PERSON)?

Cheers,
me.
Author:  JackZero [ Tue May 19, 2015 12:16 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Telling her about your feelings sometimes helpful?
Quote:
Last I heard from her is that she texted me telling me that everything was "easy for me" but not for her, etc...
1. What made her say this?
2. Is this the same girl that you fucked in the hotel while she had a boyfriend?
3. If #2 is true, no need to answer question #1.
Author:  itisme [ Tue May 19, 2015 2:50 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Telling her about your feelings sometimes helpful?
Quote:
Quote:
Last I heard from her is that she texted me telling me that everything was "easy for me" but not for her, etc...
1. What made her say this?
2. Is this the same girl that you fucked in the hotel while she had a boyfriend?
3. If #2 is true, no need to answer question #1.
Hey,
thanks for your reply ;)
No, that's another girl. I actually dunno what she meant by saying that everything was easy for me, she was a bit cryptic about that...
All in all, she's acting quite strange, as I wrote, doing the right things BACKFIRED.
Made me suspect that there might be some other guy in the background, which is why I'm very sceptical about "sharing my feelings"...
On the other hand, she doesn't seem to be a bitch, so maybe she was just intimidated and needs some reassurance (hence my thoughts about telling her how I feel towards her)

Any thoughts?
Author:  odyn [ Tue May 19, 2015 2:57 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Telling her about your feelings sometimes helpful?
If you think there is another guy Definitely wouldn't mention the feelings. Actually if she isn't hitting you back or in contact I wouldn't mention anything about feelings. What you normally do didn't work. This doesn't mean you abandon ship and confess your undying love for her. This is certainly not the way to win her over.
Author:  JackZero [ Tue May 19, 2015 3:02 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Telling her about your feelings sometimes helpful?
I think one of two things are happening

1. She's not interested and trying to let you down without hurting your feelings,or
2. Wanting reassurances from you.

Either way, instead of trying to figure out if you should just say something with the single purpose of keeping her around, ask her what she means. You may find out a simpler solution.
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Tue May 19, 2015 4:03 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Telling her about your feelings sometimes helpful?
She may just be looking for a bit of emotional security.

Women do seek security. You don't want to be so nonchalant that they feel insecure.

How did you respond when she said "this is easy for you" ?
Author:  ILoveLaura [ Tue May 19, 2015 6:31 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Telling her about your feelings sometimes helpful?
Quote:
How did you respond when she said "this is easy for you" ?
It is hard for me. Do you know how much time I put into my studied seductive techniques?!
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Tue May 19, 2015 7:42 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Telling her about your feelings sometimes helpful?
Quote:
Quote:
How did you respond when she said "this is easy for you" ?
It is hard for me. Do you know how much time I put into my studied seductive techniques?!

Second account?
Author:  Versalis [ Tue May 19, 2015 8:27 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Telling her about your feelings sometimes helpful?
I'm inclined to think Eddie is right here. Most girls want to feel like you actually like them. No, they don't want a puppy dog, dry humping their leg and desperate for attention. But she wants to feel special. It sounds to me, like this girl feels like she's just another hole to fill for you.

I'd say you would be well inclined to tell her you care about her - over phone. Don't lay it on overly thick, but I think she left because she didn't feel special to you.
Author:  ILoveLaura [ Wed May 20, 2015 3:01 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Telling her about your feelings sometimes helpful?
Quote:
Hey,

what if pushing the right buttons with a lady backfires?

Happened to me with this one girl, she started presuming that I was a "player", since I was "easy-going", "fun to be around with", etc...
She then TOTALLY broke off contact and ended that little fling we had, telling me that she was sure I'd also be flirting with numerous other girls...

Last I heard from her is that she texted me telling me that everything was "easy for me" but not for her, etc...

1. Would it under such circumstances be a good idea to tell her how you feel about her?
2. Is it wise to tell a lady to her face that when you sleep with her, there'll always be emotions involved? (Sounds pretty heavy to me...)
3. Is it wise to tell her that it's not as easy as it appears to be?

4. If yes, what would be the best, non-neediest strategy to do so (without being able to built rapport IN PERSON)?

Cheers,
me.
It's interesting, because ultimately I don't just want sex, but I want to feel that I got the sex because the girl in question liked who I really was. You might think what's the difference. I know it's not possible, but I'd love to be able to tell a girl how I yearn deeply for, and seduce her by doing so. And in the process I'd have gotten those feelings off my chest!
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