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Author:  blackpanther94 [ Sun May 17, 2015 7:30 pm ]
Post subject:  Girl with 2year relationship.
Watsup people,

Let me shortly introduce myself, im a 23 year old typical gym lad that spends most of his time at school and with his friends. Most of the stuff i learned from pick up came from the game, rsd julien's pimp, etc... I'm curently still going more in the theoritical part of the game.
But between this something came up, i am used to having contact with lets say a handfull of girls. One of them was emma a girl with a 2 year relationship. After some months of talking from time to time we both found time and she came over to my place, nothing really happend just more of a perfect date with alot of laughing and being phisical but never escelating (cause i still respect the fact she has a boyfriend i guess).
But after the date i fell hard for her, but things got weird and i ended up just not talking to her for a while cause i wanted to gain control off the situation again. After some weeks she hit me up again rather mad that she doesn't wanted to lose me and shit, so i acted normal to her again but some days later she ignored me again. So now a week later she texted me but i briefely reacted like i didnt care. This situation is confusing as fuck for me cause i normaly don't get feelings for girls. I am clearly friendzoned SPAM cause she cares for her boyfriend clearly. But on the other side i'm pretty sure if he wasn't in the way i would have a big chance. I really do care for the girl and wanted to ask you guys advice on how to handle the situation correctly and be at the cause again not the effect, the buyer not the seller. And if you guys have good beginners books/video's for beginners pickup, pickup routines, etc always welcome!
Sorry for the bad english!
Author:  Noone [ Sun May 17, 2015 10:27 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl with 2year relationship.
Respect their relationship and find another girl.

Seriously. You might like this girl.. but some other guy has invested 2 years with this girl and chances are his feelings for her surpass your own desire.

What happens if you persist, push, something happens, then you get her and its all thrill of the chase? Then you helped destroy a relationship for something you don't really want?
Author:  R.C [ Mon May 18, 2015 5:46 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl with 2year relationship.
Don't be an idiot. You "respect" she has a boyfriend? the fuck? at least be honest with yourself and admit you were scared.

Anyway, being in a relationship is irrelevant. So what she has a bf? for all you know he can be abusing her every day or not giving a flying fuck about her what so ever while fucking 3 girls on the side.
Go for what you want. By doing so you propose a change. If she thinks a change in her life is in order, she'll take it. Aka if she's happy with her relationship there is nothing you can do to change that. "Cheating" is her choice, not yours. So let her make it.
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Mon May 18, 2015 7:24 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl with 2year relationship.
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Don't be an idiot. You "respect" she has a boyfriend? the fuck? at least be honest with yourself and admit you were scared.

Anyway, being in a relationship is irrelevant. So what she has a bf? for all you know he can be abusing her every day or not giving a flying fuck about her what so ever while fucking 3 girls on the side.
Go for what you want. By doing so you propose a change. If she thinks a change in her life is in order, she'll take it. Aka if she's happy with her relationship there is nothing you can do to change that. "Cheating" is her choice, not yours. So let her make it.
+1

I'm with R.C. with the exception of the "cheating is her choice thing". The more and more one understands attraction the more they will understand how little of a choice attraction is on apart of the female.

But either way, Alpha males get to choose first. Everyone else picks from amongst whats left. So I second the advice. Just be aware that the tables in life can turn. Just as your feelings came out of no where, so can the tables turn out of no where. So if you can handle it being done to ya, go for it.
Author:  R.C [ Mon May 18, 2015 7:35 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl with 2year relationship.
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I'm with R.C. with the exception of the "cheating is her choice thing". The more and more one understands attraction the more they will understand how little of a choice attraction is on apart of the female.

But either way, Alpha males get to choose first. Everyone else picks from amongst whats left. So I second the advice. Just be aware that the tables in life can turn. Just as your feelings came out of no where, so can the tables turn out of no where. So if you can handle it being done to ya, go for it.
Never said attraction was a choice. Acting on it is. Aka if she wants to put a dying relationship out of it's misery or preserve a flourishing one.
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Mon May 18, 2015 7:49 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl with 2year relationship.
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Quote:

I'm with R.C. with the exception of the "cheating is her choice thing". The more and more one understands attraction the more they will understand how little of a choice attraction is on apart of the female.

But either way, Alpha males get to choose first. Everyone else picks from amongst whats left. So I second the advice. Just be aware that the tables in life can turn. Just as your feelings came out of no where, so can the tables turn out of no where. So if you can handle it being done to ya, go for it.
Never said attraction was a choice. Acting on it is. Aka if she wants to put a dying relationship out of it's misery or preserve a flourishing one.
I know what you meant bro.
Author:  blackpanther94 [ Mon May 18, 2015 8:17 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl with 2year relationship.
Quote:
Don't be an idiot. You "respect" she has a boyfriend? the fuck? at least be honest with yourself and admit you were scared.

Anyway, being in a relationship is irrelevant. So what she has a bf? for all you know he can be abusing her every day or not giving a flying fuck about her what so ever while fucking 3 girls on the side.
Go for what you want. By doing so you propose a change. If she thinks a change in her life is in order, she'll take it. Aka if she's happy with her relationship there is nothing you can do to change that. "Cheating" is her choice, not yours. So let her make it.
I see where you are coming from, and i understand.
But i wasn't scared, the thing is and it might have been a wrong kind of mindset, but i thought if i let her cheat while she is in a relationship and win her over what kinda groundwork for a relationship of ours makes that. But anyway SPAM in the friendzone for sure, and im not sure how i can get a girl away from her first real love, she doesn't know better then that dude and is just in her comfortzone. But maybe i'm just making excuses for myself i threw everything on the table weeks ago she knows what my point of view on this shit is. But maybe i should just let go and focus on improving on my game instead of going for one girl. Hard part is that i didn't develope feelings for a girl in four years. So this shit is confusing for me and i'm defenitly not handling things clearly when i'm around her.
Author:  blackpanther94 [ Tue May 19, 2015 9:00 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl with 2year relationship.
Quote:
Don't be an idiot. You "respect" she has a boyfriend? the fuck? at least be honest with yourself and admit you were scared.

Anyway, being in a relationship is irrelevant. So what she has a bf? for all you know he can be abusing her every day or not giving a flying fuck about her what so ever while fucking 3 girls on the side.
Go for what you want. By doing so you propose a change. If she thinks a change in her life is in order, she'll take it. Aka if she's happy with her relationship there is nothing you can do to change that. "Cheating" is her choice, not yours. So let her make it.
Update just ran a few routines on text game on her, just random stuff and only texted her back every few hours.
She called me this evening and she admitted that if her boyfriend wasn't in the picture there would be something. I asked her what she felt after the date she said i cant tell u... i have a boyfriend. So appearently she knows something was growing and it was two sided, but she loves her boyfriend (like i said comfortzone probebly).
What do i do now? Advice needed!
Author:  R.C [ Wed May 20, 2015 4:50 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Girl with 2year relationship.
Ignore the fact that her boyfriend exists and treat her like any other girl.
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