@Eddyfews Of course we had sex everytime. I didnt write it cos I thought thats clear when I call it FWB.

I know I have to make her chase instead of chasing her but I have no idea how when she never calls, only calls backs when I call. I know learn to let go and walk away can lead to amazing results. But you risk you just walk away without her returning to you. And unfortunately I have the feeling this would happen.

If you genuinely want to push to the next level in which you won't have to do that, you're going to have to be "willing" to give something up.

How would I do this? Simply continue not calling? One problem is so many men are into her.

@Jackzero I only did not contact her to make her miss me and contact me, which didnt work. Isnt it fair to expect that everyone of two people initiates 50% contact?

So far I have had 3 nights with my new friends with benefits. She is 30, I am a couple years older. I like her a lot, she emphasized more than once how wonderful our first date was and also said last time that she is happy with our dates. Besides sex we also cuddle, talk about intimate stuff, hold hands in bed while watching tv, have breakfast. However, she also said (without me asking) this is only fun for her and I shouldn't worry because she wont fall in love. (I didn't say I would worry before). I was a bit shocked, but played cool and simply didn't reply anything.

The thing is I initiated all 3 dates. She agreed, sometimes enthusiastically, and we texted each other every other day. But now, our last date was a week ago and we haven't heard from each other since then.

I didn't contact her since cos I thought I will lose attraction when I always initiate (Generally she isn't too shy) and do not give her the opportunity to invest. Unfortunately she does not. No contact for a week now, which never happened before. I only see that she is (like me) active on the dating website where we met (but this also happened the weeks before). We haven't talked about exclusiveness or the other having other fwb yet. I date others and guess she does too.

I feel trapped: I feel like I am losing her if I don't ask her for another date, but also feel like I am losing her if I do ask her for the fourth time in a row for a date because I would start to come off as needy. I would love to talk with her openly about the topic, but I think it would also look needy and desperate if I ask her why she doesn't call or suggest a date.

Maybe I am also starting to like her a little bit too much. I am unsure if she has realized this by me initiating touching (but on the other hand I joked that I am into younger girls than her).

Did I do something wrong? How should I react? Just ask once again for a date as if nothing happened? Ask her "Are you okay? Haven't heard anything from you last week"? Or ask again for a date and ask her at this date if I did something offensive?