Here is what happens:
-- I meet a girl via social circle, great rapport, IOIs from her side, etc. We agree that I'll find her on FB.
-- A day or two later I add her on FB and write something like: "It was nice meeting you. Cool photos ". Usually no or very short response from her side follows.
-- A couple of days later I write an invite: "Hey, I am going to a new sushi bar this Friday. You should join.". Her response is either null or "No".
-- Later I visit her page or try to txt her again and discover that she's already blacklisted me. WTF?
-- If I meet her in the social circle she actively avoids me at all costs.

The situation happens with me so frequently that I am thinking of labeling it a 'sticking point' by now.

I am really puzzled, guys - esp. by such over-the-board reaction to seemingly harmless txts that I send. And I am sure I don't come up as creepy during both offline and online conversation - I try to keep it light and funny. I though maybe there is some list kind of "Beware PUAs" and have tried to find if I am in such a list - nothing.

What the hell is this? Have any of you encountered such reaction?

What on earth made you want to seek to speak with her again after the blatant "no" ?

And why did you get her Facebook vs getting her number or trying to take her back to your place on the day you met her? Did you try?

David D

Problem identified.

You know what, if its happening this frequently you may need to just bite the bullet and ask one or two of these girls when you see them.

What's wrong with David D?

Here is what happens:
-- I meet a girl via social circle, great rapport, IOIs from her side, etc. We agree that I'll find her on FB.
-- A day or two later I add her on FB and write something like: "It was nice meeting you. Cool photos ". Usually no or very short response from her side follows.
-- A couple of days later I write an invite: "Hey, I am going to a new sushi bar this Friday. You should join.". Her response is either null or "No".
-- Later I visit her page or try to txt her again and discover that she's already blacklisted me. WTF?
-- If I meet her in the social circle she actively avoids me at all costs.

The situation happens with me so frequently that I am thinking of labeling it a 'sticking point' by now.

I am really puzzled, guys - esp. by such over-the-board reaction to seemingly harmless txts that I send. And I am sure I don't come up as creepy during both offline and online conversation - I try to keep it light and funny. I though maybe there is some list kind of "Beware PUAs" and have tried to find if I am in such a list - nothing.

What the hell is this? Have any of you encountered such reaction?

You know what, if its happening this frequently you may need to just bite the bullet and ask one or two of these girls when you see them. Make it clear that youre not angry or offended (even tho u probably are) but you just want an honest answer. It may be the only way to get to the bottom of this. It may be a bit embarrassing, i know, but in the interest of moving forward and changing things for the better, it will be worth it.

So I asked one of the girls why did she blacklist me. She said that it seemed to her kinda weird that I waited for her after a lecture to walk her to a bus stop, she also got offended by a obviously silly joke of mine, plus she said she felt uncomfortable because I txted her on FB late in the evening (around 11 pm). Now I think that she is either nuts, or hardcore shit testing me (she is a model, you know).