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| Author: | jcbk003 [ Thu Apr 16, 2015 4:42 am ] |
| Post subject: | confused on what to do next when she went cold |
A little background me and this chick been talking for a while and she would usually initiate text me and send me snaps through out the day. We hung out a couple times with a group of friends and i could tell she was interested. So i finally Took this chick on a couple of dates with just us and after the last date she went cold. Everything was good on the dates we were laughing joking touching However at the end of the date i failed to make a move and since then she has gone cold. I know the problem is cause i didnt make a move. So when she went cold she stopped initiating texts and take hours before she would respond to mine so i stopped contact. When i did that she would initiatw again. I tried to ask her out again but she said she couldnt that day and said we can go next week and tutor her in finance at the same time. A friend of mine said im taking too long to make a move and shes losing interest and when i see her next week i should just tell her that i like her and lets stop beating around the bush. Which i agree with but i dont know if i should actually say i like you ive read mixed opinions on this i just wanted to see what everyones opinion is on it Before i get scrutinized for not making a move i know thats my fault but this asian girl was hard to read. Her personality seems shy and seems like the type that likes to be courted. I would say shes a traditional fob asian girl. She seemed interested but when it came to physical she was shy and distant. Anyways any help would be great Also should i still remain not contact with her until we meet up? |
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| Author: | WillEdward [ Thu Apr 16, 2015 5:32 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: confused on what to do next when she went cold |
You are correct that you needed to make a move. The best thing to do now is find out her schedule and set up a time to see her and then escalate and game normally. |
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| Author: | jcbk003 [ Thu Apr 16, 2015 6:09 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: confused on what to do next when she went cold |
well we are suppose to meet up next week. Do i keep no contact till then? And should i do as my friend suggest escalate game normally then just tell her i like her? Im confused on the like her part cause i normally see it as a bad thing to just straight out say it but my experience foreign asian girls like the more direct approach |
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| Author: | CESARE [ Thu Apr 16, 2015 8:25 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: confused on what to do next when she went cold |
Quote: well we are suppose to meet up next week. Do i keep no contact till then? And should i do as my friend suggest escalate game normally then just tell her i like her? Im confused on the like her part cause i normally see it as a bad thing to just straight out say it but my experience foreign asian girls like the more direct approach
Dude, don't tell her, but SHOW her. Make your move this time. KC. There is nothing else you have to do. If you don't do that, you can probably forget about her cause I don't think she's not gonna invest more time with you.And no, I think you should keep some contact. You said you would send snaps to each other, well, do that again sometimes, and keep it fun (no boring stuff like "look, there is the sun!"). Remember that even if she's asian, on a molecular level she still is a girl and will get turned on like any other girl. You are afraid that is better to TELL her than SHOW her you are interested? Well, I tell you this: in my experience, no girl EVER responded well when I TOLD them I liked them. |
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| Author: | jcbk003 [ Thu Apr 16, 2015 5:41 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: confused on what to do next when she went cold |
Quote: Quote: well we are suppose to meet up next week. Do i keep no contact till then? And should i do as my friend suggest escalate game normally then just tell her i like her? Im confused on the like her part cause i normally see it as a bad thing to just straight out say it but my experience foreign asian girls like the more direct approach
Dude, don't tell her, but SHOW her. Make your move this time. KC. There is nothing else you have to do. If you don't do that, you can probably forget about her cause I don't think she's not gonna invest more time with you.And no, I think you should keep some contact. You said you would send snaps to each other, well, do that again sometimes, and keep it fun (no boring stuff like "look, there is the sun!"). Remember that even if she's asian, on a molecular level she still is a girl and will get turned on like any other girl. You are afraid that is better to TELL her than SHOW her you are interested? Well, I tell you this: in my experience, no girl EVER responded well when I TOLD them I liked them. |
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| Author: | Eddie Fews [ Thu Apr 16, 2015 5:52 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: confused on what to do next when she went cold |
I like you, I hate you, I love you.. It doesn't matter. The only thing that matters is the emotion from within you are sub communicating when you say it. Its never so much about what you say as it is about "how" you say it. And the "How" is almost always a reflection of the frame you are projecting at that moment. I've told girls I loved them when I first met them and they loved me for it and I've told girls i loved them after 6 months of knowing them and it freaked them out. The only difference was the emotion that I was projecting at the moment I made those statements. The frame I was coming from. So based off your post you're not producing a frame that is going to make her receptive to anything you have to say at this point. Even if its " nice shoes". Just as you let her go physical before by not initiating, you need to let her go mentally. You're attachment and strong desire for her, mixed in with the beating yourself up over not moving "fast" enough is all counter productive to your ability to turn this situation in your favor. Theres still time bro and there is still a window to complete the seduction. Just chill. You don't have to rush to make a move, when you learn how to chill around chicks they'll usually open themselves up to you. Forcing this isn't going to work. Let her come to you. Let her initiate the text for now.. And she be easy. If you just be confidently patient you'll recognize the window to make your move when it presents itself. |
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| Author: | Eddie Fews [ Thu Apr 16, 2015 5:52 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: confused on what to do next when she went cold |
I like you, I hate you, I love you.. It doesn't matter. The only thing that matters is the emotion from within you are sub communicating when you say it. Its never so much about what you say as it is about "how" you say it. And the "How" is almost always a reflection of the frame you are projecting at that moment. I've told girls I loved them when I first met them and they loved me for it and I've told girls i loved them after 6 months of knowing them and it freaked them out. The only difference was the emotion that I was projecting at the moment I made those statements. The frame I was coming from. So based off your post you're not producing a frame that is going to make her receptive to anything you have to say at this point. Even if its " nice shoes". Just as you let her go physical before by not initiating, you need to let her go mentally. You're attachment and strong desire for her, mixed in with the beating yourself up over not moving "fast" enough is all counter productive to your ability to turn this situation in your favor. Theres still time bro and there is still a window to complete the seduction. Just chill. You don't have to rush to make a move, when you learn how to chill around chicks they'll usually open themselves up to you. Forcing this isn't going to work. Let her come to you. Let her initiate the text for now.. And she be easy. If you just be confidently patient you'll recognize the window to make your move when it presents itself. |
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| Author: | Jay (Majik) [ Thu Apr 16, 2015 8:00 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: confused on what to do next when she went cold |
Wow.. stop reading so deeply into every little response. My goodness. She initiated. You initiated. She did this. You did that. What does it all mean? Fucking relax man. Why don't you make a move and FIND OUT if she likes you? If she doesn't like it, she will tell you. But that's the only way you're going to find out. Quit being such a pussy and quit over thinking shit. Let your dick guide you. |
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