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| Author: | bartm [ Wed Apr 15, 2015 5:55 am ] |
| Post subject: | how to get rid of needy guy? |
I guess this is the other side of the coin. my sister used to hang out with a guy just as friends. This went on for like 3 months. they went to a lot of places together, like concerts and clubs. this is your typical friendzoned situation. she believes they are just friends, he believes they have something more. the guy is a loser and a complete liar. he has been living in the US for 10 years, yet he speaks zero english. he claims he is a pharmacist. he claims he went to a top pharmacy school in the US. I dont know how someone could become a pharmacist not knowing any english. he is needy, bought an expensive gift for her birthday, bought another expensive gift for valentines day. at some point, he tried to kiss her or something (dont know the details) and she got upset. so she tried to cut off contact with him. she kept telling him she is busy, she has exams, she has work. but he won't give up. more recently, she started ignoring all his texts and calls. She even blocked his number temporarily because she was getting sick of him calling all the time. but then he messaged her on facebook. he is turning into a stalker. he calls 20 times a day. He leaves voicemails, saying "call me" or "we need to hang out" or he sets up situations where they have to meet. for example "I bought 2 tickets for this event for next Thursday, we need to go together. call me" At this point, she is getting scared, saying "This guy is acting like those stalkers on TV" Honestly, I feel bad for the guy because I can see his point of view: he is trying to get pussy like the rest of us. but he is making her scared for her safety. How can she safely get rid of him? |
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| Author: | CountRedRover [ Wed Apr 15, 2015 6:13 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: how to get rid of needy guy? |
"If you text my sister or me again, we are going to cal the police. This is your first and last warning. You are scaring us." |
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| Author: | Ghost. [ Wed Apr 15, 2015 11:02 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: how to get rid of needy guy? |
Have your sister explicitly LJBF him and ask him to leave her alone. If she doesn't stop, you ask him to leave her alone. If he still persists, break his legs. Or something more peaceful, whatever you find more appealing. |
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| Author: | Eddie Fews [ Wed Apr 15, 2015 4:32 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: how to get rid of needy guy? |
Quote: "If you text my sister or me again, we are going to cal the police. This is your first and last warning. You are scaring us."
Its this simple.
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| Author: | neo87 [ Wed Apr 15, 2015 5:31 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: how to get rid of needy guy? |
Here's the thing...your sister used a guy who liked her. She took the 2 expensive gifts and let him pay for shit. Nothing wrong with that, but that was her choice so let her deal with the annoyance. She took the benefits so she should take the consequences. And some annoying texts and calls are no big deal in 2015. Let her be a big girl and tell him off, take the minute to block his calls and block him on facebook. These things take less that a minute to do. Heck, if she wants to be a good person she can mail him his shit back and pay back half of what she took from him. But don't get involved. She played a game with the guy, so let her finish the game. You getting involved just jeopardizes you. She can go to the cops if it gets dangerous and she can stop him in a million ways from calling her. If he shows up somewhere, she can go to the authorities. But dont get yourself cleaning up her mess. Because then she'll just use some other guy and have you bail her out with talking to the dude. When she learns that she has to be inconvenienced by downloading apps the block calls, or calling the phone company, then she will not know a guy likes her and use his money and gifts. |
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| Author: | CESARE [ Wed Apr 15, 2015 6:20 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: how to get rid of needy guy? |
Quote: "If you text my sister or me again, we are going to cal the police. This is your first and last warning. You are scaring us."
Or just directly call the police. Getting a warning by them is scarier
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| Author: | bartm [ Wed Apr 15, 2015 11:04 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: how to get rid of needy guy? |
Thanks guys. in my sister's defense, she always paid for her own shit everywhere they went. she didn't try to use him. but she did lead him on by her behavior, I kind of knew this would happen because unfortunately us guys interpret everything as "she is sexually into me" |
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| Author: | CESARE [ Thu Apr 16, 2015 8:10 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: how to get rid of needy guy? |
No need to defend her. The only thing is that a bell should have rang in her head when he bought her those expensive gifts. At that point she had to do "you are like my brother" talk, thing she didn't, am I right? |
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| Author: | R.C [ Thu Apr 16, 2015 12:45 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: how to get rid of needy guy? |
I don't really see any issue in accepting expensive gifts. Demanding them is one thing, receiving them is another. I mean if the fool is naive enough to think he can buy his way into his pants, accepting the gifts and offering nothing in return is pretty much exactly what he deserves. |
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| Author: | neo87 [ Thu Apr 16, 2015 1:12 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: how to get rid of needy guy? |
Quote: I don't really see any issue in accepting expensive gifts. Demanding them is one thing, receiving them is another. I mean if the fool is naive enough to think he can buy his way into his pants, accepting the gifts and offering nothing in return is pretty much exactly what he deserves.
Yeah nothing wrong with it. Likewise if she is naive enough to think that a guy buying gifts for her isnt going to call her 20 times a day she's getting what she deserves. She has many avenues to take for the annoyance of some unwanted notifications. She should just block him and if he comes somewhere in person and persists, SHE should call the cops. There's a difference between defending your sister from a threat and jumping into her drama. If she were that scared she would have blocked the guy completely by now. And lol, if she was scared that the guy is doing stuff like those stalkers on TV, she shouldve seen that the gifts were a red flag and not accepted them. Cause those stalkers on TV start with giving gifts right? Funny that bell didnt ring then when she accepted them. It's easy for her to deal with this herself
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