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| Author: | dasmooth [ Mon Apr 13, 2015 4:34 am ] |
| Post subject: | When to answer questions? NEVER?! |
Gonna try n make this quick. Been wondering when to answer an hb's questions during a pu. I've read some aticles on it. Some say never with a direct response, a joke /flippant answer then a real answer to demonstrate to her tht you're a guy tht dnt take the interaction seriously; you're a guy with humor who's not afraid to joke around n have fun. Other articles lke the one from pua school ( c1 ) says give long drawn out answers with the direct response at the end. It also says to not answer questions in the beginning of the interaction/etc. Read another article tht every one of her questions are hoops trying to get me to qualify myself along with her getting compliance from me n killing attraction. Going out I've just been answering her question with another question reguardless if it relevant or not to the conversation. Then she answers giving me compliance. Then n only then after the fact tht I get compliance from her do I answer her question thus jer gaining compliance from me. So its lke her complying before I comply to her hoops. I have no clue if this is the ethical way of answering questions. Honestly though I feel lke a dick reframing the question with another question to control the thread. Anyond know about this? Really hate doing tht all the time feelin lke a dick. Thanks |
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| Author: | ASmooth90 [ Mon Apr 13, 2015 5:21 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: When to answer questions? NEVER?! |
The principle that these articles are trying to teach is that you should never be reactive. The girl should be reacting to you for most of the conversation, not vice versa. If you let her ask too many questions, you inherently start reacting to her. Girls want a man who will lead, you lead her by making her react to you. The answer here is going to depend on which stage of the interaction your in. If you've already generated massive attraction, then you should transfer to comfort and rapport. Attraction Phase In the beginning of the interaction, the girl should be reacting to you. You should be leading the interaction. In terms of percentages, you should be doing 90% of the talking, and she should be doing 10%. Everything that she says in this phase is a reaction to something that you've said. Preferably, you should be saying things that are: (1) amusing and funny to you, (2) bringing the party to her, and (3) challenging her. Therefore, in this phase, she should be asking minimal questions ("what's your name?"). You can probably blow off a question in this phase as long as what you have to say brings value to the interaction. Comfort/Rapport Phase Once you have her hooked, you need to start building comfort and rapport. In this phase, you can ease up on the motor mouth, and let her participate in the interaction. In terms of percentages, this should look like a 50-50 split. Sometimes, you can even just let her talk for a while, as long as she's talking about a topic that produces positive emotions. Don't be a weirdo. If she asks you questions in this phase, then she's clearly attracted to you and trying to find out more about you. You should keep the conversation light, don't allow it to become a resume exchange, and say things that you find funny. If you think that she's asking too many questions and it's becoming an interview, you can change the topic or begin the escalation phase. It's really up to you. Long story short, there's nothing wrong with answering questions. In fact, she'll probably think you're weird if you completely ignore her questions or try to "reframe" them. |
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| Author: | dasmooth [ Mon Apr 13, 2015 10:14 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: When to answer questions? NEVER?! |
Agreed. It is too weird to not answer any questions. For me I was doing one of a few things. It was either -ignore it -answer it with another question so I get compliance first -giving a funny answer before giving a direct one. I though feel tht doing this doesn't help me move through the interaction or escalate faster. To me its just dumb to challenge the hbs question with another question trying to have lke a frame control battle of who's leading the conversation. Been trying to find out to escalate things further throughout the interaction. It was always though important to not answer all her questions directly cause it can be boring doing tht. But it is important to me to figure out to move further in a pu |
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| Author: | dasmooth [ Fri Apr 17, 2015 3:34 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: When to answer questions? NEVER?! |
Was also curious to finding out when is the best time to answer questions since I feel tht she's qualifying me if she's asking questions about me. Really confused on this matter |
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| Author: | Mr. Assertive [ Fri Apr 17, 2015 4:23 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: When to answer questions? NEVER?! |
I answer questions once i know she has become invested. Say she is talking 40% and you are talking 60%. Once I know we are at a good place, I start to unleash. |
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| Author: | dasmooth [ Fri Apr 17, 2015 4:58 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: When to answer questions? NEVER?! |
Honestly just thank god lol. My thought before was as long as I have compliance from her or at least if we both have an equal amount of compliance u can answer questions. Not many updated articles on this topic. Most articles tht I find say "dnt answer any questions because then she's controlling the frame of the interaction", but, eventually at some point u have to because she'll just notice tht your not answering or "reframing" every one of her questions. She can just ask lke "dude why ain't you answering me". Just would lke to add tht right now tht everything im learning in pu is geared towards jon sinn's material n haven't found anything tht he has on this. Follow other guys but mainly him tho |
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