I've been frequenting this forum for a month, and just getting a little bit of positive and "negative" feedback has been tremendous. It's also been helpful for me to write a field report journal and read back through it weeks after.

But I still have so many questions, and I'd appreciate any help that can be offered.

The biggest question I have now is...with a willing attitude to reinvent myself and a determination to achieve things I've always wanted, what's the best way to go about it? What's the best way to play the game for me?

About me...I've never had a problem with approach anxiety, and throughout the years I've had dozens of one-night stands but a terrible track record with relationships. When my game works on beautiful or half-beautiful women, it's a random, short-term thing.

When I need to be, I can be very confident, assertive, aggressive, and dominant towards the opposite sex. Hell...I love being that way. But often my life demands a certain amount of what I call 'stop, slowdown, and shutup' because sometimes I can be too assertive and even abrasive. So I tend to dial it back quite a bit and that always feels uncomfortable for me. I also don't feel comfortable chasing women even though I'm "forced" to do so quite a bit, and I don't like the whole "cocky/funny" thing because to be honest, I'm not that funny. When you try to be funny and you're not, it comes off as forced. I like my humor to come out as natural and dependent on the situation.

I want to be more interesting, because it seems as though women lose interest in me quickly. I also love to read/write (I do it for a living) and I'm not into sports. I love to travel, though.

I'd appreciate any insight...what's the best way for a guy like me to play the game?