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| Author: | Mr. Assertive [ Mon Mar 16, 2015 10:20 am ] |
| Post subject: | How do you handle running into targets in a small city |
I ran into a couple of my girls the past couple of days because it was st patties weekend...lets say I wasn't alone...and some of them got mad lol. Anyway, is this a bad on my part? I mean i can't control these situations but how do I recover? |
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| Author: | R.C [ Mon Mar 16, 2015 10:31 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How do you handle running into targets in a small city |
You don't have to. Anything is fair game unless you're exclusive with someone. So don't be if you don't intend to. |
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| Author: | Mr. Assertive [ Mon Mar 16, 2015 10:51 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How do you handle running into targets in a small city |
Quote: You don't have to. Anything is fair game unless you're exclusive with someone. So don't be if you don't intend to.
Fair enough...how about the jealousy ? That's probably what I should have said in my post. These girls get jealous...and start acting weird. I am trying to do MLR |
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| Author: | R.C [ Mon Mar 16, 2015 10:57 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How do you handle running into targets in a small city |
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I am trying to do MLR
I'm not familiar with that term.However, them getting jealous is not something you can control. Damage control is the best you can do if you wanna keep them around. All in all it's still like I said, as long as you're not exclusive with someone, they should know everything is fair game. |
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| Author: | Onoma [ Mon Mar 16, 2015 12:03 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How do you handle running into targets in a small city |
Quote: Quote: You don't have to. Anything is fair game unless you're exclusive with someone. So don't be if you don't intend to.
Fair enough...how about the jealousy ? That's probably what I should have said in my post. These girls get jealous...and start acting weird. I am trying to do MLR It doesn't sound like you are doing that. You're lying to a few women, or at least hiding the truth. If you were actually seeking long-term relationships with them, they would have already known you were dating other girls because you would have told them and everyone would have agreed to an open relationship. If you really want multiple long-term relationships, you should seek out advice on polyamory forums rather than pua forums. This place is mostly about getting the girl, polyamory forums are about how to have good MLTRs. |
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| Author: | Mr. Assertive [ Mon Mar 16, 2015 1:11 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How do you handle running into targets in a small city |
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I am trying to do MLR
I'm not familiar with that term.However, them getting jealous is not something you can control. Damage control is the best you can do if you wanna keep them around. All in all it's still like I said, as long as you're not exclusive with someone, they should know everything is fair game. Multiple long term relationships. I missed the t. Damage control blows...or I can just brush it off...if that's a thing |
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| Author: | Mr. Assertive [ Mon Mar 16, 2015 1:15 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How do you handle running into targets in a small city |
Quote: Quote: Quote: You don't have to. Anything is fair game unless you're exclusive with someone. So don't be if you don't intend to.
Fair enough...how about the jealousy ? That's probably what I should have said in my post. These girls get jealous...and start acting weird. I am trying to do MLR It doesn't sound like you are doing that. You're lying to a few women, or at least hiding the truth. If you were actually seeking long-term relationships with them, they would have already known you were dating other girls because you would have told them and everyone would have agreed to an open relationship. If you really want multiple long-term relationships, you should seek out advice on polyamory forums rather than pua forums. This place is mostly about getting the girl, polyamory forums are about how to have good MLTRs. I'm not hiding anything. I'm not lying either. I am getting to a point where the girl assumes I am seeing other girls. I try not to do long term things such as seeing them more than 2 times a week. There are some guidelines I am following right now that I found on this forum. This place isn't a single serving thing. Some of the guys here are in multiple long term relationships. That's why I post here...But I should check those forums out |
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| Author: | R.C [ Mon Mar 16, 2015 1:56 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How do you handle running into targets in a small city |
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Damage control blows...or I can just brush it off...if that's a thing
Well yeah but when you're in a relationship with multiples women, they're either cool with that or not. Besides hiding, once you get caught damage control is pretty much your only option. Brushing it off is a form of just that.I'm not really qualified to give a proper answer since I don't do that. I will date multiple women until I decide I want to be exclusive with one, but they all know what's up. |
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| Author: | Mr. Assertive [ Mon Mar 16, 2015 2:25 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How do you handle running into targets in a small city |
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Damage control blows...or I can just brush it off...if that's a thing
Well yeah but when you're in a relationship with multiples women, they're either cool with that or not. Besides hiding, once you get caught damage control is pretty much your only option. Brushing it off is a form of just that.I'm not really qualified to give a proper answer since I don't do that. I will date multiple women until I decide I want to be exclusive with one, but they all know what's up. so you guys recommend me just saying it flat out in the beginning? I get called a player jokingly, so to me that's an unsaid "hey I understand you talk to other chicks". And I just go with that |
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| Author: | R.C [ Mon Mar 16, 2015 2:39 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How do you handle running into targets in a small city |
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so you guys recommend me just saying it flat out in the beginning? I get called a player jokingly, so to me that's an unsaid "hey I understand you talk to other chicks". And I just go with that
Not necessarily flat out. I mean not in an asshole kind of way.I'll let her know I rarely get into relationships because quality is hard to find. She can date whoever she wants, I can date whoever I want. If for some reason we decide we're a good match and things between us naturally converge to something more, great. However, she will be aware that I may or may not be seeing other girls until that happens. |
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| Author: | Onoma [ Mon Mar 16, 2015 9:58 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How do you handle running into targets in a small city |
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I am getting to a point where the girl assumes I am seeing other girls.
Obviously not. Quote:
I try not to do long term things...
But you are trying to do "Multiple long term relationships."Plus you want that whole "relationships" part too. So, here's my guess as to what's going on: You only see each girl a couple times a week. When you see them, you act in a manner that communicates _more_ than just casual sex. Girl starts to assume you're developing feelings towards a relationship (which you claim to want, but with more than one woman.) Most women assume the growing relationship part goes along with the monogamy part. Now, you need to figure out what you really want. Do you want actual loving, caring relationships with multiple women? Or do you want several fuckbuddies? If you want the former, you need to communicate and be up-front. If you want the latter, you need to make sure you're keeping things casual and not unintentionally communicating any deeper feelings. Also don't expect that to be long-term, they'll eventually find a guy who wants more and go for him. Quote:
such as seeing them more than 2 times a week. There are some guidelines I am following right now that I found on this forum. This place isn't a single serving thing. Some of the guys here are in multiple long term relationships. That's why I post here...But I should check those forums out
No, this place isn't "single serving." However it is focused on attaining sex. There's a relationship forum because, surprise, many of us end up in relationships... but that doesn't mean most of this community is in any way an expert on relationships.Then there's all the differing viewpoints on what things mean... like MLTR. That's why the first part of my reply is basically trying to get you to clarify what you're actually going for. One guy here might think of MLTR as having a dozen fuckbuddies that stick around for more than a month each. Another guy, who might actually be more polyamorous, might think MLTR is having three women living with him for years. Meanwhile, there are forums specifically dealing with polyamory... these tend to lean towards the relationship side of things more so than the getting laid part. Here you'll see advice mostly geared towards fucking lots of women. Nothing wrong with that, but if you want anything that can be considered a long-term relationship with two or more women I'd suggest other sites. TL;DR: Come here to find out how to get multiple chicks, go there to find out how to make it all work together as an actual relationship. |
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| Author: | Mr. Assertive [ Tue Mar 17, 2015 1:35 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: How do you handle running into targets in a small city |
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I am getting to a point where the girl assumes I am seeing other girls.
Obviously not. Quote:
I try not to do long term things...
But you are trying to do "Multiple long term relationships."Plus you want that whole "relationships" part too. So, here's my guess as to what's going on: You only see each girl a couple times a week. When you see them, you act in a manner that communicates _more_ than just casual sex. Girl starts to assume you're developing feelings towards a relationship (which you claim to want, but with more than one woman.) Most women assume the growing relationship part goes along with the monogamy part. Now, you need to figure out what you really want. Do you want actual loving, caring relationships with multiple women? Or do you want several fuckbuddies? If you want the former, you need to communicate and be up-front. If you want the latter, you need to make sure you're keeping things casual and not unintentionally communicating any deeper feelings. Also don't expect that to be long-term, they'll eventually find a guy who wants more and go for him. Quote:
such as seeing them more than 2 times a week. There are some guidelines I am following right now that I found on this forum. This place isn't a single serving thing. Some of the guys here are in multiple long term relationships. That's why I post here...But I should check those forums out
No, this place isn't "single serving." However it is focused on attaining sex. There's a relationship forum because, surprise, many of us end up in relationships... but that doesn't mean most of this community is in any way an expert on relationships.Then there's all the differing viewpoints on what things mean... like MLTR. That's why the first part of my reply is basically trying to get you to clarify what you're actually going for. One guy here might think of MLTR as having a dozen fuckbuddies that stick around for more than a month each. Another guy, who might actually be more polyamorous, might think MLTR is having three women living with him for years. Meanwhile, there are forums specifically dealing with polyamory... these tend to lean towards the relationship side of things more so than the getting laid part. Here you'll see advice mostly geared towards fucking lots of women. Nothing wrong with that, but if you want anything that can be considered a long-term relationship with two or more women I'd suggest other sites. TL;DR: Come here to find out how to get multiple chicks, go there to find out how to make it all work together as an actual relationship. I am guilty of acting like a boyfriend. I don't do it on purpose and I try not to disclose too much about myself either (but that's natural for me). I just have to be more aware, but it's tough when you're in the moment. I don't expect these girls to stick around if they seek more. So I don't have any hang ups there. I am unsure of what I want. I like the multiple girls but the reason I don't want to get an exclusive one is for one, I broke up with my ex couple months ago, I am in my prime, 23, and trying to get this area down in my life pat down. I have to find a new roommate to replace my ex , got to get back into school, got to juggle social and work life...too much to just commit to one girl.. I have tried the fuck buddy route but that shit sucks. Just bang bang and no substance..which is why I do the multiple girls thing. Maybe I have to figure it out more..just don't know. |
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