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Author:  elkohdi [ Thu Mar 05, 2015 7:18 am ]
Post subject:  How to go from the level of doing to the level of being!
Hey guys, i learned game but my problem now is go to the level of being natural because when i go out i can speak loud with girls and act confidently but when i'm with my friends or if there's a man he destroy me, i became the old mehdi who doesn't speak confidently and want to please anybody and niceguy. So how can i overcome this situation? Because i spent more than year in pu and until this day i can approache women but not man or being nice to please everyone.
Author:  CountRedRover [ Thu Mar 05, 2015 7:49 am ]
Post subject:  Re: How to go from the level of doing to the level of being!
I stole this from another post I commented on. I think it will help you out:
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You can change all this but you have to work on yourself, your inner game. One very important thing you have to do is, you have to learn to not care. Not care if she or any girl, doesn't reply. Not care what you say -you want to keep your thoughts words and actions aligned- and say what you think. Whatever the first thing that you think you should say, say it. It gives the girl a chance to experience the real you!

It's like when you step on a lego in the middle of the night. Some people just don't say anything, but they are saying "Aw f*ck" in their heads. Other people however just say "Aw f*ck" because they have their thoughts words and actions aligned. You want to be like that! The sooner that you do not care, the sooner you will rid yourself from that "I am needy" mentality. This sadly doesn't happen over night.
Oh and when you said:
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being nice to please everyone
You have to realize that is not going to happen. There is no way you can please everyone. When have you ever met anyone that everyone (and I mean everyone) has liked? Never. Not everyone likes the President or even God or RSD.
With this mentality I'm telling you about, you have to accept people will love you, and people will hate you. That's just the way the world is. If you see a girl that has a yellow dress and you think to yourself "You look like a god damn banana" and you tell her that, she might love you for that remark or hate you for that remark. You just have to roll with it and not care. Being a natural is giving everyone the real you! By being able to tell people what you think, no holding back!

"There is truth in beauty and beauty in truth." -The Alabaster Girl
^Think about that. Hope this helps. Also if you want more further info on this, I recommend you read the book The Power of Now or PM me. You got this.
Author:  fudge_88 [ Thu Mar 05, 2015 8:41 am ]
Post subject:  Re: How to go from the level of doing to the level of being!
So you don't know how to properly navigate a conversation when there is another male present.

Other males have different categories.

Pussies and players.

Pussies with bad game get ignored totally in my sets and I focus on the women. The pussy ass guy sits his ass back and observes proper game.

A player will chime in and speak up.

The players have different value systems.

6 - the nice player who wants to befriend and be liked by every one. I treat him by giving him a little validation. Telling him he's cool in some way, then ignoring him if he isn't part of the girl's set, or using him to help me game his friend by getting him to agree with everything I say like the nice guy he is.
7 - The combative player who used to be a 6 and now is overcompensating with his tough guy bravado, and will often try and pick a fight with you or get hostile with you. I show him respect for his strength with lines like. "I love how you speak your mind. I'm the type of guy who speaks his mind too and I respect that." Or some other thing that lets him know his strength is respected.
8 - The competitive player who used to be a 7 but then he kept running into other 7s and evolved into a competitive type after beating out the other 7s so he is genuinely confident in his strength, but likes to test himself against other men. These are the guys who try to take shit over and become the leader all of the time. With them I Show respect for their strength is implied ways. Or I make him feel like he's won something in order to disarm him so that he doesn't feel the need to compete, but also that he hasn't beaten me down into his beta buddy. Stuff like asking a guy if he was the captain of your football team. "Dude aren't you like the beer pong champion!" Then talk sports with him a few lines. Then switch over to the girl trying to isolate before he chimes in again. Then show him a little bit more love since he wants some attention, and switch back to the girl.
9/10 - the difference between a 9 and a 10 is a 9 believes there is room to improve themselves and is in constant search of another level never fully accepting that they have mastered themselves. 10s are satisfied at the level they have obtained and don't seek to improve themselves. Always better to be a 9 than a 10. These are the cooperative players. They are cool and enjoy bringing people up and spreading value as much as possible. When I get into a set and there is one of these guys there, he will usually help me get the girls. If you are a 9/10 and you meet another 9/10 you both get to feed off each other in an infinity cycle where each gets better and stronger. It's great.

I haven't met many active players like this. Mostly 9/10 people are cool married guys.

Not everyone will like you and even if you do the proper things to disarm someone they still might dislike you. So keep that in mind. It has nothing to do with you. It's all something in their own psychology so let it go.

This forum is full of a bunch of 6s and 7s. A few 8s. There are even fewer 9/10s.
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