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| Author: | Shelikesme330 [ Wed Mar 04, 2015 8:29 pm ] |
| Post subject: | I want to like people more |
What do you do if you don't like people but you want to grow to like people? |
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| Author: | Eddie Fews [ Wed Mar 04, 2015 8:35 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I want to like people more |
You're off to a great start. Wanting it is the first step. Very easy man.. Just start saying to yourself " I love people" everyday and everytime you walk by someone mentally say to yourself " I love that guy".. You thoughts become your words, your words become your actions, your actions become your habits, your habits become your character, and your character becomes your destiny. You start with your thoughts the rest will follow. It'll probably be a 6 month process to actually get you there, but its worth it. You don't go from not liking people for 18 years to liking people in 3 weeks. You have to begin to work at it. Just as if a person that was 650 pounds would have to work hard to get down to 200 pounds. It wouldn't happen over night no matter how bad they wanted it. They spent their entire lives being fat. So right now you're about 350 pounds of anti social, you need to get down to 160.. Work at it and understand it takes time. And often it'll fell like no progress is being made.. Especially when theres no tangible scale you can measure yourself with. But with time, effort and diligence results will be undeniable. |
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| Author: | fudge_88 [ Wed Mar 04, 2015 9:17 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I want to like people more |
Agreed. There are things in the self hypnosis realm that will speed up the process. I discovered them not in efforts with women, but with money. Just like with liking people a person has a certain habitual comfort level with the amount of money they make. I had to transform being satisfied with just paying bills into the mindset of a millionaire. I would suggest "Reprogram your mind for success in record time" It's not just for money, you can wire up any personality trait you want. I like the stuff in that book because it relies on certain natural windows the mind goes through for the reprogramming. There are other methods such as gamma brainwave programming, but I don't like the idea of allowing another person to take control and implant thoughts into my mind. Can't trust people with that much power over you. For a simple trick. You can use something of a pattern interrupt. When you feel yourself starting to dislike someone snap your fingers (or something that is just as shocking to your system) which interupts the habit trigger then spike your emotions with good emotions. Think of something that makes you feel happy or good. Then tie those emotions to people. "I love talking to people." Do it every time and really soon the happy emotions will be tied to the trigger of talking to people. Don't stop after you begin enjoying talking to people because then you will regress back into your comfort zone. It takes time to build a new neuron path in your head that associates happiness with people. Habits aren't intangible. There are neuron networks in your brain that associate things for your survival. They are as physical and real as the fingers on your hands. You'll have to take time to allow the old path to atrophy and break apart. To do this the new path (action) has to be performed for a period between 18-256 days depending on how long you have been doing the old habit. LTP (long-term potentiation) the connection pathway in the network has to break apart. It's basically the cement on the roadmap of your brain. The longer you have been doing the habit the thicker the cement, and the longer it will take to break apart and the new habit to take over. |
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| Author: | FeaganMox [ Thu Mar 05, 2015 2:15 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I want to like people more |
Yeah I am sorta like that. I forced myself to start talking to people at work and found it everyone has their own story. That's what got me interested |
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| Author: | R.C [ Thu Mar 05, 2015 8:42 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I want to like people more |
I actually have this issue as well. I've forced myself over the last year to stop judging people and forming an impression too early, but I still struggle with it. What the guys above suggested is a good place to start. |
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| Author: | bartm [ Thu Mar 05, 2015 4:19 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I want to like people more |
if you hate other people, that's because you hate yourself. if you like other people, that's because you like yourself. you see your own image in other people. I didn't read this in some weird philosophy book, I discovered it on my own. to like other people more, you have to start liking yourself more. |
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| Author: | R.C [ Thu Mar 05, 2015 4:59 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I want to like people more |
Quote: if you hate other people, that's because you hate yourself.
That's a huge generalization. It's true to a very limited extent.
if you like other people, that's because you like yourself. you see your own image in other people. I didn't read this in some weird philosophy book, I discovered it on my own. to like other people more, you have to start liking yourself more. |
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| Author: | fudge_88 [ Thu Mar 05, 2015 5:23 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I want to like people more |
I dislike rapists. I've never rapped a girl. Am I masking some hidden hatred for myself there? Do you like rapists? |
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| Author: | bartm [ Thu Mar 05, 2015 7:06 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I want to like people more |
Quote: I dislike rapists. I've never rapped a girl. Am I masking some hidden hatred for myself there? Do you like rapists?
when someone says "l like people" or "I hate people" by "people" they are talking about "people in general"regular people you see on the street. they are not talking about rapists. "I like sales because I like working with people" does not equal "I like sales because I like working with rapists" |
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| Author: | hugge [ Thu Mar 05, 2015 7:54 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I want to like people more |
How about this? I don't have an opinion about people at all, but I am always curious about everyone. Even though they give me reasons to dislike them, I always give them a second change. And there is almost always a period of time I really like them. But when enough time has elapsed, I always end up either dislike them completely, or losing interest in them because they bore me with their predictable personalitites. Now, can you please give me an analysis of this? 
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| Author: | Eddie Fews [ Thu Mar 05, 2015 8:21 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I want to like people more |
Quote: Quote: I dislike rapists. I've never rapped a girl. Am I masking some hidden hatred for myself there? Do you like rapists?
when someone says "l like people" or "I hate people" by "people" they are talking about "people in general"regular people you see on the street. they are not talking about rapists. "I like sales because I like working with people" does not equal "I like sales because I like working with rapists" Haha you may wanna bow out of this one bart. And you might wanna consider reading that philosophy book this time around 
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| Author: | fudge_88 [ Thu Mar 05, 2015 10:55 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: I want to like people more |
Quote: How about this? I don't have an opinion about people at all, but I am always curious about everyone. Even though they give me reasons to dislike them, I always give them a second change. And there is almost always a period of time I really like them. But when enough time has elapsed, I always end up either dislike them completely, or losing interest in them because they bore me with their predictable personalitites. Now, can you please give me an analysis of this?
You are curious about yourself but then you give yourself a reason to dislike yourself. You always give yourself a second chance, and there is always a period of time were you really like yourself. But when enough time has lasped you always end up dis-liking yourself completely, or you lose interest in yourself because you bore yourself because you bore yourself with your predictable personality!
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