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Author:  nophonegame [ Sun Mar 01, 2015 9:25 am ]
Post subject:  how to ask out girl when you're from out of town?
Almost a year after giving on how to be successful with women it's time to try again!

Tonight I went back to my college town to party with some of my boys (I graduated recently). So we're at this house party and I'm talking to this girl. I try to do some of the stuff I vaguely remember from reading articles here back in the day. So I kino her and she's cool with it but only reciprocated a little bit. At one point I ran out of things to say so I asked her what she did for fun. She actually said "I dunno, I guess I watch movies...and touch myself." LOL? She was dead serious too. I'm guessing that was a green light for me to escalate/kiss/whatever which I failed to do? Or maybe she's just a really sexual person.

Anyways I ended up getting her facebook. I didn't really want to take her number cause since I've talked to so few girls recently I'd probably get too nervous and sound retarded if I called her. I live a half hour drive away from the college town how am I supposed to ask her out without sounding like a desperate loser? Wouldn't it seem pathetic that I'd have to drive an hour there and back just to go on a date with someone I just met? Maybe I'm over-thinking it but it's just really hard for me to meet girls locally. Kino wasn't anything too heavy the farthest I got was my arm around her so I don't even know if she even would be down to see me. It's been almost a year since I've texted or facebook messaged a girl trying to get in her pants so I completely forget anything about text/facebook game, not that I was any good.
Author:  Rebooting [ Sun Mar 01, 2015 3:36 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: how to ask out girl when you're from out of town?
Nigga imma cap u for not escalating after she gave you the most sexual cue ever GIVE ME HER PHONE NUMBER NOW I WANT TO FIX THIS MYSELF. Phew, sorry. Guess I ought to go easier on the morning coffee.

First off, get your mindset right: You are not texting her to get into her pants (you creep), you are texting her because you had a great time and you want more of that.

So you decided you would rather not call her and went for facebook instead, that's OK. We are in the 21st century, and calling is in no way a must unless you want to (although it might be useful in some cases). Nevertheless, for future reference, still try to aim for a phone number if possible. Facebook has that "friend-ish" feeling to it and she will be less easy to get ahold of than when using, say, SPAM. But it's a minor thing, really.

You won't seem like a creep for driving for one hour (that's not even that much), but if it worries you, you can always make up some shit tier excuse, à la "hey, so I had a great time with you last week... I am going to be in town again next weekend for XYZ reason (although you don't even need to justify yourself to her. Maybe don't even do this, since it could backfire to make shit up), fancy hanging out/going for drinks/making some origami figures together?". Just get in touch with her and keep us posted, man.
Author:  nophonegame [ Mon Mar 02, 2015 2:32 am ]
Post subject:  Re: how to ask out girl when you're from out of town?
Since you asked for an update, I messaged her a horrible opener thinking I was being funny. Not even gonna say what cause it's just retarded and embarrassing. "Nice profile pic wanna fuck" would probably have been better. Says message seen, but no response.

I'm apparently really bad at trying to be creative. Saying ordinary boring stuff doesn't work, being creative doesn't work. Makes me afraid of taking risks whether it's texting or in person. I'm guessing this one is dead and I shouldn't even bother trying again in a couple days.
Author:  Rebooting [ Mon Mar 02, 2015 8:08 am ]
Post subject:  Re: how to ask out girl when you're from out of town?
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Since you asked for an update, I messaged her a horrible opener thinking I was being funny. Not even gonna say what cause it's just retarded and embarrassing. "Nice profile pic wanna fuck" would probably have been better. Says message seen, but no response.

I'm apparently really bad at trying to be creative. Saying ordinary boring stuff doesn't work, being creative doesn't work. Makes me afraid of taking risks whether it's texting or in person. I'm guessing this one is dead and I shouldn't even bother trying again in a couple days.
It does sound a bit dead to be honest lol

But as an aspiring PUA, that is the last thing you should care about. Abundance mindset and all that.

If you want a tip, cut it with the creativity: If it doesn't come naturally to you, you will just seem try-hard. God, looking back, I hate thinking about when I was a newbie myself and I would be clueless about what to say and would try to sound cool with openers I would read and overthink 100 times before hitting "enter". For real, just stop that shit and say whatever comes naturally to you without overthinking too much.

As in why "ordinary" stuff doesn't work, I guess it is case specific, but you can always ask over here. Just don't give up and soldier on, bro. Practise enough and rewards will eventually follow.

Edit: For an example of an ordinary thing to say, see the opener I gave you! Why the fuck would you disregard it and use some fucking pseudo-funny line instead!! Not that I claim to be a fountain of wisdom, but still. It was an ordniary thing to say that would clearly have communicated what you want and quickly put you out of doubt about the result. Don't try to lie your way into her pants with funny jokes and ambiguous lines; it won't work, mate. If ordinary stuff fails, it is either because you did something wrong during the pick-up (likely) or because you simply aren't a man of enough quality (unlikely, as then the pick-up would not have worked in the first place).
Either way, reading your posts... Mindset, mindset, mindset, mindset. Work on your inner game, bro. It seems to be a weak-ish aspect of your game right now.
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