I was talking with my girl about an upcoming review i have at work, the fairness of the criteria they will use, and how as long as it's fair and the manager pays attentionit will be fine. My girl says well dont take it too personally because you tend to be sensitive to criticism.

I Basically say as long as its fair, unlike her job, it is fine but i wont stand for a lack of acknowledgement from a boss.

I think she might have gotten this idea from the other night when during an argument with my mom she said 'dont take this the wrong way but ur mom cud be right, you do have a tendency to ---. I talked to her after this about how she should support me instead of come at me like that in a serious argument with someone else.

Keep in mind i pass her shit tests about comments designed to make me insecure like "did you wear that to look muscular" ect, but i dont let disrespect fly.

Who is right here? Am i being too sensitive or am i just standing up for myself like a man who wants his girl to support him and to be treated fairly in my review at work? Its true i dont like critiscism because i amconfident in my abilities and i do a good job.

This is my gf of nearly 3 years btw, and she wants sex all the time and not just a random chick

In this situation, who is right and who is wrong really doesn't matter. Your girlfriend perceives you as being sensitive. You have given her reasons to believe that in the past.

IMO, based on a very vague description you've given, you are taking the emotional role in your relationship. Usually it's women that need support after arguments or disagreements with people that they work with. Men fix things and make problems go away, so we don't normally complain about those problems. If you feel the need to talk about disagreements or problems, just leave it to what was said but don't say how you feel about it if it is a negative emotion.

Ya, real men don't have feelings...

So keep perpetuating societal stereotypes that are actually more harmful to men.

Where did I say that real men didn't have feelings? You being a man that works in the mental health field understands that evolutionary psychology plays a very important role in relationships. It's nature vs. nurture rather than a societal stereotype.

Not speaking about negative emotions may have served its purpose in the past, but by no means does that mean it is a healthy way of dealing with things. Some people may feel a need to vent, or use another as a sound board to process through the emotion, others may simply quietly reflect onto themselves and that in and itself is enough. The 'fixer' role for males has its down-side; the 'fixer' mentality usually creates more distress for men in that they try, for example, to own someone else's problem(s). This can actually disempower somebody and even be counter to what the person needs. Yes, these roles are culturally learned and passed down generations. This doesn't mean they are necessarily healthy.

Not speaking about negative emotions to your woman serves a purpose now too. It keeps your girl from losing respect for you as a man. There are plenty of healthy ways to voice how you feel. You can talk to family and friends. You can get a therapist. You can simply write out your problem in a form of a letter to the person you have a problem with and then toss the letter. You just have to be smart enough to know that there are better options other than unloading them on your girl because you need a sounding board.

I've never had the issue you're speaking of with ANY woman I've been with.

If my partner can't serve as a soundboard because I'm worried they'll lose respect and dump me than that's quite reflective of how low I think of myself. It's one thing to brood and ruminate over 'negative' emotions, its another to talk about them with your partner (should you feel the need) and move forward together.

So if OP asked the question this way "My girlfriend called me too sensitive for expressing how I feel about things, what should I do?" What would your advice be to him?