So I've had my eye on this girl for around 6 months, literally. Just one of those people you meet that you connect with etc. but she's had a boyfriend the entire time. I met her through one of my friends and instantly demonstrated high value by inviting her to my house party (had 100+ people at my house all fucked up etc. - was one of the best parties of the year.) Anyway, I did my thing and planted the seed and she finally broke up with her boyfriend a few weeks ago. I was in Melbourne this weekend on holiday to play poker and she co-incidentally came up the same weekend. Myself, a mutual friend, herself and her friend went out both Saturday and Sunday.
I had built extremely high value throughout the trip as I had won over 15k playing poker. I shouted all the drinks that night and just looked like a general baller. I was also staying in a very nice hotel. We went back to the hotel on Sunday night and did a bit of coke, smoked a bit of weed and just talked shit. She eventually went to sleep in my bed (her friend was already passed out in my bed). I came to bed an hour or so after.
We ended up sleeping together, to be honest it wasn't what I had in mind for my first experience with her as I really wanted to blow her mind but couldn't as her friend was in the bed next to us. I mainly ate her out / fingered her.
The next morning I felt really weird about the entire situation. It's clear she is not over her boyfriend (2 year relationship) - you could tell from conversations during the day and after that this was the case. It felt like a massive rebound and I have 0 desire to be a temporary rebound for her to feel better about herself. In the morning I was very distant / quiet (due to thinking about what I had just mentioned). She left to the airport and messaged me the following text conversation:
- Thanks for letting us crash and taking care of us! Enjoy the rest of your trip and see you at ASOT
xx" - All good. Glad you came out, was fun. See you at ASOT. (I'm assuming she felt like a bit of a slut because I was being so cold and messaged me a few hours later saying)
- Also would appreciate if you didn't tell anyone as I don't want people thinking Im jumping from guy to guy.
- I'm not going to tell anyone. I think you should take time to work things out or gain some closure from your relationship as it's clearly troubling you.
- Not so much troubling me - just need my closure because things ended on a rocky note. Thanks, means a lot
I haven't spoken to her since then (4 days ago). I was planning to call her when I get back in Sydney tomorrow but want a few more opinions on what exactly to address. I have some things in mind but will mention them later in the thread.