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Author:  cuffs.pua [ Sun Jan 25, 2015 3:25 pm ]
Post subject:  One-itis trouble
Hey guys

I know this is shameful...but i met this girl about 2 years ago and she became my girlfriend...we broke up last week and ive been so depressed, starting to actually feel suicidal....i know the immediate response to me asking for help is "start Sarging again" but is there anyone who has any advice so i dont feel so shit???
Author:  JackZero [ Sun Jan 25, 2015 5:07 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: One-itis trouble
It's normal to feel bad after a break up and it can take a long time to get over. The reason we always say go out and meet new women or GFTOW is because it really does make you feel better. The energy wasted on feeling sorry for yourself and missing her is removed because there are going to be new girls trying to qualify themselves to you. Just imagine how good that's going to feel compared to a girl who got to the point that she didn't even appreciate your company anymore.

As for feeling suicidal...people go through breakups every single day and they still go about their lives. Your ex didn't do anything special that no other girl can do, so you need to put those types of thoughts out of your head.
Author:  CharlesFinley [ Sun Jan 25, 2015 7:47 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: One-itis trouble
Wait (and I'm just trying to nail down the logistics here)... You met this girl 2 years ago and were dating her for 2 years?

I ask because your post history indicates you were single as late as October of last year... Was this a short relationship or an open one? (Or one you simply fucked up by cheating)?

Honest advice: Get on Tinder right now. The immediate ego boost of being matched with hot chicks will help... and if you find one you like, get out with her ASAP.
Author:  EnKay [ Mon Jan 26, 2015 1:52 am ]
Post subject:  Re: One-itis trouble
I wanted to reach out as you said you're feeling suicidal. And I know when I sent a message out like yours, years ago, I wish someone had said a few words.

I have been to that place. She wasn't my gf as such, it was a messy situation, but I lost her to another guy. It was such a messed up situation, she was torn and knew she had literally been having an unofficial relationship with me. Or both of us. I was young about 19. I hit depression, I was literally in my room listening to music. My health deteriorated so bad I was in hospital. I reached out to a friend who supported me. So reach out to one person. Even on-line. To vent. And talk to. If you're accountable to someone it helps. But I tell you what, time was a healer. A year later she wanted to be back with me. We dated for 5 years... I broke up with her. Not even joking.

Join the gym. It's not even a question, just do it 4x a week. Get a trainer if you can afford. It will help you be accountable to a trainer, even if you use them once a week then follow up weekly.
It is cliche but it is for a reason, cos it works,. Focus on you. Eat healthy, sleep healthy.
Pick up a hobby, anything you wanted to do in life but have never had the chance?
Write a list of things you wanted to do but haven't as you were tied down in a relationship. This is the time to do it, otherwise you never will because you will be in another relationship down the line.
Organise your life, your room, have and keep a schedule.
Don't sit in your room as tempting as it is. Sit outside as a minimum. But try and be out, with friends. If not possible just go to where there is people.
You can try some mild herbal products to boost mood: 5-HTP capsules boost serotonin, or Rhodioloa Rosea, or St Johns Wort. ONLY ONE of them not all. I'm a pharmacist.

The tinder idea is brilliant. Do that. Join some sites.

You aren't alone. You have this whole community to support you too.

And yeah describe the relationship, what happened, cheating, lack of interest, etc etc so ppl on here can give you tips if possible on what you can do next.

I'm not pro by any means. This is just my 2 cents. Stay strong.
Author:  cuffs.pua [ Tue Jan 27, 2015 9:46 am ]
Post subject:  Re: One-itis trouble
wow...thankyou guys...all of you have been amazing!

Im gunna get out today, i need to get out your right

Mornings and late nights are the worst, just dont want it to effect my work ya know?

Just reading that theres support here has made me feel so better

thankyou guys
Author:  dtrak [ Tue Jan 27, 2015 7:46 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: One-itis trouble
NO, sarging again is NOT the answer.

is not that simple.

Replacing a disease with another disease is never good.

Girls should be a cure not a disease that leads to suicide.

How to turn it around and make girls a cure?

Get your life together so that girls are a compliment to your life, not a "need" a "must" i "NEEEED" her.
Fuck that, do you see how fucking bad that sounds?

Get your shit so together that girls want to chase you and girls NEED you.

A guy who has a perfect girl friend and a perfect relationship is a man who has his shit together with or without a girl, which in turn makes alot of girls want to be with him. make sense?

be that guy.

Heres how

Here's a step by step how to get over a break up, i'm going to just copy and paste my old post about how i got over a very tough break up

-Gym
-Health
-Hobbies
-Expand my Social circle
-Purpose
-Career
-Cold approach
-Daygame
-Nightgame
-Growth
-Meditation

Results = Way hotter girls in my life, choice, freedom, happiness

Do all of the above and you can do the same

I still love her. But i love my new girl more and myself. ;)

and now she wants me back.

Get in line.

Hopes this helps you if you're having a tough break up !
Be patient, you wont forget her, you'll simply create better memories.

and i want to emphesize on the PATIENCE part and the YOU WONT FORGET HER part.

Dont expect to forget her, just have a life so good that she'll never pop up again, and if she does... cool man.. your life rocks.. get in line girl.

If you dont do that and get your life together you'll always be destroyed after a break up.

Become an artist of pick up.
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