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Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Sun Jan 18, 2015 6:04 am ]
Post subject:  How to handle girls who mention other guys want them?
It has happened a few times...usually the girl isn't relationship material and there are red flags but anyway...

girl from work:
example

"mhm are you not gonna snap me"

"okay hold on & that frank kid from our work is trying to talk to me"

me: "haha. alright"

her"isn't that weird, he's weirder than you, he said I'm sexy"

Me: "eh, not my business"

her : "i just made it your business"

me: "um, riight"

her: "ok you're being weird, and I snapped you"


Now, it's not just her doing it. Girls have been asking me what do i think if they go out with other guys...even when i told them where i stand, which is can't promise them anything right now...still, i get the "come to the opening premier of 50 shades" and I am like "eh, i don't know" and they are like "eh, fine i will go with someone else" and i am like "ok".

Ha.

And then they are like "you don't care??"

blahhhh, the life.

EDIT: I think I just want some reassurance I am on the right track is all... :twisted:
Author:  JackZero [ Sun Jan 18, 2015 6:45 am ]
Post subject:  Re: How to handle girls who mention other guys want them?
They're trying to get a reaction to gauge your interest in them. You shouldn't react. You shouldn't be dragged into games. Keep a superior frame.
Author:  Juh Boi [ Sun Jan 18, 2015 7:52 am ]
Post subject:  Re: How to handle girls who mention other guys want them?
Quote:
They're trying to get a reaction to gauge your interest in them. You shouldn't react. You shouldn't be dragged into games. Keep a superior frame.
How do you suggest he not react? It seems to me that any way handled, positively or negatively, could be seen as a reaction. How would you go about not reacting, or reacting neutrally I suppose?
Author:  JackZero [ Sun Jan 18, 2015 8:29 am ]
Post subject:  Re: How to handle girls who mention other guys want them?
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They're trying to get a reaction to gauge your interest in them. You shouldn't react. You shouldn't be dragged into games. Keep a superior frame.
How do you suggest he not react? It seems to me that any way handled, positively or negatively, could be seen as a reaction. How would you go about not reacting, or reacting neutrally I suppose?
It's easy. She mentions another guy, you don't comment on it but at the same time you don't stop speaking to her.

What you need to understand is that she is off balance, meaning she doesn't know how you feel about her and this is her way of figuring it out. When OP said it wasn't his business, she pushed more. If he said nothing, she couldn't push and she would not get the balance that she wanted and the result would be her continuing to qualify herself.
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Sun Jan 18, 2015 2:16 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How to handle girls who mention other guys want them?
Quote:
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They're trying to get a reaction to gauge your interest in them. You shouldn't react. You shouldn't be dragged into games. Keep a superior frame.
How do you suggest he not react? It seems to me that any way handled, positively or negatively, could be seen as a reaction. How would you go about not reacting, or reacting neutrally I suppose?
It's easy. She mentions another guy, you don't comment on it but at the same time you don't stop speaking to her.

What you need to understand is that she is off balance, meaning she doesn't know how you feel about her and this is her way of figuring it out. When OP said it wasn't his business, she pushed more. If he said nothing, she couldn't push and she would not get the balance that she wanted and the result would be her continuing to qualify herself.

That's what I thought kinda. So I should have just changed the topic then? After that she kept talking to me but you know maybe it lost some steam...this little issue is tricky for me. Maybe I'm over thinking it.
Author:  Clocks [ Sun Jan 18, 2015 2:25 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How to handle girls who mention other guys want them?
her"isn't that weird, he's weirder than you, he said I'm sexy"

I would've said: yeah that is weird... ;)
Author:  Juh Boi [ Tue Jan 20, 2015 12:46 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How to handle girls who mention other guys want them?
Quote:
It's easy. She mentions another guy, you don't comment on it but at the same time you don't stop speaking to her.

What you need to understand is that she is off balance, meaning she doesn't know how you feel about her and this is her way of figuring it out. When OP said it wasn't his business, she pushed more. If he said nothing, she couldn't push and she would not get the balance that she wanted and the result would be her continuing to qualify herself.
Hypothetically, that would be my PUA instinct. But I suppose I would have thought "ignoring" it (acting as if she never said it) would still be a reaction psychologically, which is why I asked how you suggest he not react to it. That definitely makes a lot of sense, though. Good explanation.
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Tue Jan 20, 2015 7:17 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: How to handle girls who mention other guys want them?
When chick would do this I would encourage them to get with the dude.

" frank likes me" .... Me: " I think you guys would look cute together"

Now, its not a "game" tactic for me.. I just genuinely could careless.

A woman power is in your fear of what she might do. So they will only do the things that they know could potentially get under your skin. They have intuition 10x stronger than ours. So you have to train yourself. I haven't had a girl say something to me like that since i was about 19.. Because I genuinely wouldn't care..and they could sense that. So it never came up.
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