Hey everyone. So there's this girl in my class. We had a couple of bar nights the last couple of weeks which gave me a chance to get to know her a bit other then the small chit chat in class. There were indicators of interest on her end (kino, wanting to dance) etc. Today during a break in class we were talking and she asked me what i was doing this weekend and she also said that she had nothing planned as of yet for tomorrow night. I was going to ask her to hang out but before i could the class started back up. Class ends (we were sitting pretty far from each other), we make eye contact and smile at each other and then she leaves. About 30 min after class she messages me on facebook "What you told me officially ruined my day. I'm so creeped out. Text me ######" which was in reference to me telling her that one of our friends asked to join him for a hockey game and i said he was trying to get to me so that he could pry from me one of her class marks that she was unwilling to tell him (she told me). It wasn't creepy at all, and the way i perceived the message was that it was a way for her to give me her number. Anyway, i texted her back with a joke and then messaged her asking her to hang out. Her response was "I got invited to a birthday that I'm debating.. But if it falls through it sounds like a plan." What do i text back? help!

Come on man...it ain't rocket science. She's willing...be cool about it... my favorite line is...."If not, don't worry about it, we can do it another time".

That's it lol....

Mr Assertive,

lol. I just kind of thought that maybe she was making up some excuse and that was her nice way of pretty much saying no. Anyway, I messaged her with "ok. Have a good night." Now come tomorrow, do I message her at some point to ask her if she wanted to hang out, or do I wait for her to message me (if she messages me)?

Umm, if she wants to hang out she will let it be known. Sometimes my girls do this and give me a heads up. I appreciate it and I always make a plan B. You actually can ask her again, how her birthday party is going, what kind of present she is getting the person (if you're sneaky like me)...at this time she will either confirm she is going or she will tell you that she isn't going and you can go in for the swoop. I think you're on a good track...unless she flakes the first time...then you come back here and tell us about it. Us the community.

Ok so here's an update. I texted her a couple of days ago about hanging out again and she told me she had to work. Last night she texts me and asks me if anyone from the class asked me about going out after class for drinks. I told her no one had, and then she asked me to come out. I said i personally wanted an invite from the person that's organizing the hang out and she said "I'm inviting you! I want you to come!." Is she stringing me along, or is there still an interest there and she feels more comfortable in a group setting?

Ok so here's an update. I texted her a couple of days ago about hanging out again and she told me she had to work. Last night she texts me and asks me if anyone from the class asked me about going out after class for drinks. I told her no one had, and then she asked me to come out. I said i personally wanted an invite from the person that's organizing the hang out and she said "I'm inviting you! I want you to come!." Is she stringing me along, or is there still an interest there and she feels more comfortable in a group setting?

Just go, dude.

There's a big, green light on her forehead.