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Author:  NoName861 [ Mon Jan 05, 2015 1:19 pm ]
Post subject:  what is the right thing to do?
As the title of the thread says I am writing to the PUA community in order to try find an answer and see what is the right thing to do.

Long story short, I was out with a good bro of mine and few drinks later he was talking to a girl (in best case 7); turns out she recognized me from the previous weekend. Anyhow my bro called dibs on her in a really weird manner and I didn't really get it to be honest, so I kiss closed her and got her number. Two days later we worked things out and created a better system of communication in order to avoid situations like these. What I didn't tell him was that I set a date with that chick which I later cancelled.

Anyhow, she seams eager to see me again, I am really not into dating at the moment to be honest but somehow wouldn't refuse the action if it would come up. With that being said, what is the right thing to do?

a) go out only once with her and see what happens
b) forget about everything
c) ...i dunno *open for suggestions*

thanks y'all
Author:  Stenic1 [ Mon Jan 05, 2015 2:04 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: what is the right thing to do?
Go out on the date gain experience at dating.
If you gain experience with these 7's it will make the 10's much easier to date :)
Author:  NoName861 [ Mon Jan 05, 2015 3:38 pm ]
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Go out on the date gain experience at dating.
If you gain experience with these 7's it will make the 10's much easier to date :)
will that make me look like a douchebag if my bro ever finds out?
Author:  Stenic1 [ Mon Jan 05, 2015 3:59 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: what is the right thing to do?
Not atall, he may have put 'dibs' on her but you pulled her and got her number.
Plus you dont need to tell him. My Mates know very very little about who i date because frankly its none of their or anyone else' business.

So its totally upto you to tell him or not. personally i wouldnt because you dont plan on seeing this girl for a long time its only experience.
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Mon Jan 05, 2015 4:06 pm ]
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You can't do something behind someones back. Whether or not they know consciously, they will know subconsciously and this will interfere with the authenticity of you guys relationship in the future. Everything we do in life leaves a mark on our auric body so he will know. There is no hiding anything. Once again he may not know in his mind, but you will be giving off an energy to him that will cause him to treat you a little differently.

I say if you truly want to go out with the girl call him up and let him know. That way there air is clear.
Author:  NoName861 [ Mon Jan 05, 2015 7:55 pm ]
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ok so one pro and one con...anyone else?
Author:  neo87 [ Mon Jan 05, 2015 9:42 pm ]
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Tell him you're going to meet up with her, fuck her then get her to bring a friend for yours.
Author:  Stenic1 [ Tue Jan 06, 2015 11:22 am ]
Post subject:  Re: what is the right thing to do?
dont understand why you would tell the guy, you have already kiss closed her and got her number the night he wanted her.

He couldnt do it and you could, why would you want to rub it in his face even more. BTW DUDE I'M TAKEN THAT CHICK OUT THAT YOU WANTED AND I STOLE.

personally i would just do my own shit :) i always emit the same energy anyways when im with my friends so its no problem to me. I'm just a very closed person i dont tell anyone my feelings and have a very strong barrier up.
Author:  Rebooting [ Tue Jan 06, 2015 1:17 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: what is the right thing to do?
You could benefit from the dating experience, so definetly do it. But let's set all this PUA stuff aside for a moment -bros before hoes-.

Show a little bit of respect, call your friend, and say that you want to date this girl but wanted to make sure he's OK with it beforehand. I don't see why he would say no, and at least you wouldn't have put a strain on your friendship and have shown that you are someone to be trusted.
Author:  Jay (Majik) [ Wed Jan 07, 2015 11:35 am ]
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He doesn't "own" her nor do you need his permission to do anything.

Do what you want to do. And grow some fucking balls man... Tell your "bro".... "Dude, she likes me. What do you want me to do about it?"

If he tells you not to see her cause he likes her... either he's a bitch for being such a love struck pussy over some chick he doesn't even know. Or you're a bitch for letting him (or anyone for that matter) hold you back from doing something you want to do. What's it gonna be?
Author:  Stenic1 [ Wed Jan 07, 2015 3:29 pm ]
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He doesn't "own" her nor do you need his permission to do anything.

Do what you want to do. And grow some fucking balls man... Tell your "bro".... "Dude, she likes me. What do you want me to do about it?"

If he tells you not to see her cause he likes her... either he's a bitch for being such a love struck pussy over some chick he doesn't even know. Or you're a bitch for letting him (or anyone for that matter) hold you back from doing something you want to do. What's it gonna be?
Great but even at that i dont understand the guy 'seen' her on a night out and did EFF all about it so OP has nothing to justify to his mate in my opinion. Prime example me and my buddy at new year to HB9's he dibs one i took the other no problem turns out the one he dibs wasnt that into him and one he didnt was so i let him have her no problem thats what bro's are for, he doesnt have to justify shit to me.
Author:  neo87 [ Wed Jan 07, 2015 4:01 pm ]
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Its not justifying to let your friend know what you're up to. It's not about permission. This is why PU guys end up losing friends, then say they've outgrown them. If you go out with the guy to meet girls and you don't talk about how things are going, that's not a friend.. It's a wing. If it's a friend, let him know your successes and failures.
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Wed Jan 07, 2015 6:06 pm ]
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Its not justifying to let your friend know what you're up to. It's not about permission. This is why PU guys end up losing friends, then say they've outgrown them. If you go out with the guy to meet girls and you don't talk about how things are going, that's not a friend.. It's a wing. If it's a friend, let him know your successes and failures.
+1

Although I would add that you have to stop trying so hard to "separate yourself from the pack" - you're here just like the rest of us. If you're different and not a pua let that speak through your wisdom, not your parading it around.

much love.
Author:  neo87 [ Wed Jan 07, 2015 7:52 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: what is the right thing to do?
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Its not justifying to let your friend know what you're up to. It's not about permission. This is why PU guys end up losing friends, then say they've outgrown them. If you go out with the guy to meet girls and you don't talk about how things are going, that's not a friend.. It's a wing. If it's a friend, let him know your successes and failures.
+1

Although I would add that you have to stop trying so hard to "separate yourself from the pack" - you're here just like the rest of us. If you're different and not a pua let that speak through your wisdom, not your parading it around.

much love.
I mean nothing by it. Hopefully in describing what I've seen what most guys who do PU do, some can realize they're doing it and stop making things worse for themselves. Some weird ideas about how to be a friend are circulated in PU community so I have to state that they are PU ideas. Saying their are some harmful body building techniques doesn't mean I'm not a body builder. Hope that clears it up for you

To the op if this is a good friend as you say and you talk to him about chicks just tell him. If he's a wing treat him as such.
Author:  fudge_88 [ Wed Jan 07, 2015 8:02 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: what is the right thing to do?
I like wings because you don't have to sugar coat shit with them. If they don't like something they can kick rocks. With friends I feel more invested and will be even more brutally honest, but with a tone of sincerity because I actually care about my friends. The honesty stems from my golden rule of treat others the way you want to be treated. I don't give a fuck about wings just to let you guys know.

I've experienced 8 wings off this forum 2 of them came close to becoming my friends until they showed tendencies I didn't want to be exposed to long term.

My observation, your thinking patterns are a bit on the chumpish side. Is your buddy your leader or something? Just tell him and laugh about it then tell him to step his game up. Real friends find this shit hilarious.
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