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Author:  dorkley [ Wed Dec 31, 2014 10:55 pm ]
Post subject:  Pulled a number off a dating site, how to proceed
She responded to my message and very basic talk back and forth for like 15 messages.

I then said i dont like talking on this app, give me your number and il text you tomorrow for a time/place for a date friday (we work in the same city and will meet up there on a mutual day off)

She said awesome, smilies and said cant wait to get to know you better.

The point is we didnt talk much, should i contact her today to get the first text out? Any tips? She is college student 19
Author:  JackZero [ Wed Dec 31, 2014 11:07 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Pulled a number off a dating site, how to proceed
Follow through on what you said you're going to do.
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Thu Jan 01, 2015 2:03 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Pulled a number off a dating site, how to proceed
you told her what you were going to do...as Jack said...do it. She gave you her number with the knowledge that you would follow through with what you said.
Author:  Versalis [ Thu Jan 01, 2015 3:42 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Pulled a number off a dating site, how to proceed
She already agreed to a date. Doing "text game" is going backwards and can only mess you up.
Author:  Jay (Majik) [ Fri Jan 09, 2015 2:43 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Pulled a number off a dating site, how to proceed
Just get her to meet up. Keep it simple.
Author:  detox75 [ Fri Jan 09, 2015 4:11 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Pulled a number off a dating site, how to proceed
less is more in this case, her interest level is high, don't over-text her trying to build some phoney rapport and then proceed to lower it. Go for the meet up with good logistics sooner than later.
Author:  Stenic1 [ Fri Jan 09, 2015 2:22 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Pulled a number off a dating site, how to proceed
I bet she forgets about it if you dont text her and follow up with some form of text game or she flakes on you.
Author:  kalata23 [ Sat Jan 10, 2015 10:13 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Pulled a number off a dating site, how to proceed
I have read somewhere that when you get the number of a girl you DON'T call her the next day. If the girl is interested in you you wait about 4 days, then you call her. If she is not that much interested you wait 2 days.
The reason of doing that is maybe the cat-string theory. When you get her number she expects to call her next day, and if you really do it, it would be easy and predicted, so her interest is not going to grow but may be lower. If you make her wait for 3-4 days, she will start wondering why you are not calling her and you will drive her crazy. So when she looses any hope that you will call her... Ring-ring-ring... Hello? OHHH, HI :) ......
and all that hope is now going back.
I dunno guys, were you in situation where you wait someone to call you. It doesn't matter if it's girl,boy, some important call or even when you're waiting delivery. And you know that they will call you these days, today - nothing, next day - nothing, next day-nothing. And when u lost any hope, Ring-ding-ding all of sudden a great joy is coming to you and all the happiness and all the hope is coming back to you.
I dunno what PUAs here think about this.
Author:  Versalis [ Sat Jan 10, 2015 2:00 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Pulled a number off a dating site, how to proceed
Attractive women have so many guys chasing them, that waiting 4 days is a good way for her to forget about you.
Yes, if she's super into you, she may still be interested 4 days later. But you're missing opportunities. It certainly doesn't build interest in any case.
Women typically have very short attention spans with men(especially strangers). Moving quicker is always better.
Author:  Dragula [ Sat Jan 10, 2015 4:44 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Pulled a number off a dating site, how to proceed
Quote:
I have read somewhere that when you get the number of a girl you DON'T call her the next day. If the girl is interested in you you wait about 4 days, then you call her. If she is not that much interested you wait 2 days.
The reason of doing that is maybe the cat-string theory. When you get her number she expects to call her next day, and if you really do it, it would be easy and predicted, so her interest is not going to grow but may be lower. If you make her wait for 3-4 days, she will start wondering why you are not calling her and you will drive her crazy. So when she looses any hope that you will call her... Ring-ring-ring... Hello? OHHH, HI :) ......
and all that hope is now going back.
I dunno guys, were you in situation where you wait someone to call you. It doesn't matter if it's girl,boy, some important call or even when you're waiting delivery. And you know that they will call you these days, today - nothing, next day - nothing, next day-nothing. And when u lost any hope, Ring-ding-ding all of sudden a great joy is coming to you and all the happiness and all the hope is coming back to you.
I dunno what PUAs here think about this.

Remove from brain
Author:  Mr. Assertive [ Sat Jan 10, 2015 6:34 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Pulled a number off a dating site, how to proceed
Quote:
Quote:
I have read somewhere that when you get the number of a girl you DON'T call her the next day. If the girl is interested in you you wait about 4 days, then you call her. If she is not that much interested you wait 2 days.
The reason of doing that is maybe the cat-string theory. When you get her number she expects to call her next day, and if you really do it, it would be easy and predicted, so her interest is not going to grow but may be lower. If you make her wait for 3-4 days, she will start wondering why you are not calling her and you will drive her crazy. So when she looses any hope that you will call her... Ring-ring-ring... Hello? OHHH, HI :) ......
and all that hope is now going back.
I dunno guys, were you in situation where you wait someone to call you. It doesn't matter if it's girl,boy, some important call or even when you're waiting delivery. And you know that they will call you these days, today - nothing, next day - nothing, next day-nothing. And when u lost any hope, Ring-ding-ding all of sudden a great joy is coming to you and all the happiness and all the hope is coming back to you.
I dunno what PUAs here think about this.

Remove from brain

I second the removing from brain portion...
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Sat Jan 10, 2015 9:07 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Pulled a number off a dating site, how to proceed
Call her.
Author:  brandnew2 [ Sun Jan 11, 2015 7:00 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Pulled a number off a dating site, how to proceed
I wonder if the date actually happened on Friday. OP, let us know how it turned out!

In general, the longer you plan out dates in advance, the greater the chance that the girl will ditch you. Why? I suppose it's because meeting a stranger from the internet is generally out of their comfort zone. The longer they have to mull it over, the more excuses they will be able to devise in their minds. I haven't yet found a good way to counter this problem. Usually on the day of the supposed meet up I'll send an assumptive text like, "see you at 6!" or "Pumped for tonight? You should be!" and a lot of times the girl will just choose to simply not respond at all. Online dating girls have no problems with burning bridges because they have so many other options.

In your situation, Friday was a mutual day off so it made the most sense. But what would have been stopping you from meeting up on Tuesday evening briefly? Hopefully the date did go through and it's a moot point.
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