You don't go no contact if you live with someone. It doesn't work because she knows exactly where you are and what you are doing. Your girl has essentially broken up with you.

Your best bet is to get out of there as fast as you can. Stay with a friend or family or just get your own place. Get out of the mentality of having to get her back and have fun with your new single life.

Should of listened to me in the last post. I knew you would end up here with the way you were talking. Me and my girl are still going strong

But on a serious note..

Any friends you can stay with?

And who is paying for the rent man?

I would NEVER let a chick make me sleep on the couch! NEVER! The fuck? This is my bed too. If she wants she can sleep on the pullout but I am going to sleep on my fucking bed. Stop being a wimp dog. Don't let her push you onto the couch. Keep that up and she'll be bringing another man into the bed

I i'll help you with this..

Text her back

" Shell on 256 Clarmont Street(A real place of course). and I'm sleeping on my bed (her name). If you want to sleep on the pullout or at a friends feel free, but thats my bed too and I am sleeping on it. Ttyl "

If you keep letting her pushing you around and lead you like this she will be out. You're playing tough,but inside you're all mushy and you have to cut it out. I also wouldn't drink if i were you. Alcohol is a depressant. When you're dealing with oneitisis it can help emasculate you. It builds unnecessary estrogen in the body as well. So it will only contribute to the body chemicals causes your current condition.

To be honest.. She just wants you to be the man she met in the beginning. And by giving you SPACE she will be giving you time to learn to stand on your own two feet again just like you were when she met you. So push back. Stop caving into her demands. You're falling right down the slippery slope that led her to want space in the first place.

What im noticing here, is you have a "Outward" external validation thing going on, girl for girl
seeing girls blah blah hoping someone will close the gap you're feeling in your life, thats wack son.

Look INWARD, take time for yourself, forget about starting a new relationship right now or fucking girls, unless is coming from the right place inside you.

That feeling of NEED needs to go away, replace it for a feeling of WANT, but dont NEED it.

Feel contempt on your own, be the GIVER in any interaction, not the TAKER.

Enrich Your life.

This world goes beyond your petty little self, and your petty little issues. Grow as a man. See beyond that external need for girls and bullshit.

Center yourself and of course you will inturn get everything you want out of life but it needs to be coming from the right place.

Honestly i havent been keeping up with this thread, and i barely read your stuff because it just seems as if your trying to fix a symptom enstead of curing the whole virus and looking at the bigger picture

forgive me if im off the topic, if this helps ,good, if not ,carry on, my apologies

How to no contact if we live together? Basically this girl decided that we needed a break from each other but the problem is that we live together.

Her exact words were that she feels broken, she has lost herself blah blah, she is getting cold feet (because I started to get serious about relationship) and wants to have some fun and dance with other guys with her girls....enjoy herself. You get the point.

I am to blame for this, I completely went oneitis on this girl and did all the wrong moves, I still love her, and it will be tough to no contact with her if she lives with me. What do you guys recommend? I feel like I am starting all over again? I want her back now but she isn't feeling it, what should I do guys?

She just texted me today (while in the next room lol) if I know of any good places to get an oil change and added that if I needed a bigger bed i can take the pull out...

I haven't responded...is that too cold?

~Assertive

You need to be ok with the fact that it's highly unlikely that you two won't get back together.

Don't view it as a loss, view it as a natural progression in your life.

Personally, I would say, don't freeze her out. It's not going to be helpful to you, or to her. This may have gone to the point of "no return". If so, "freezing out" won't help to bring back that passion that she once had for you.

Mutually speak to your landlord. Tell him/her that you think that your relationship is has changed and that you think you will be better off in different accommodation. See if you can get out the lease, or pay some negligible fee to get out of it.

When you do get out of it, relax. There's no rush. Meet new people, but in your own time. If, after a few months, you still feel like getting back together with her, then you two can discuss. Maybe by then you would have moved on, maybe not. But you will feel better about things, at least.

First off, stop blaming yourself. From this and your other threads, this girl was not relationship material and you try to take responsibility for her actions. Recognize that alpha or not, this chick was probably seeing and talking to other dudes and will continue to do so. If you keep thinking her wanting to see other guys and be single was due to your actions, you will still be clinging to being with her. She shouldn't be your girlfriend.

Second, you're on the right track. Take it as a wake up call, not for what you did wrong to lose her, but for what you were doing wrong in your own life. Continue to get your shit handled. In love or not, relationship or single, never forget that you are your top priority in life and never forget to keep improving yourself everyday. You must be looking for outside validation if now after she ended things you can finally get your life back on track. This means that when you were with her, you were letting the things that actually benefit your life slack for the relationship. Dont worry about chicks because all that's gonna happen is you'll get back with her again, you'll find someone else and will go back to slacking. So focus on getting the habit of always improving yourself, physically, socially and career wise. Once you have the correct habits instilled, and you will never let a relationship hold back other areas of your life, then if you want to, find a girlfriend.

PS it shouldnt be about whether this is temporary or whatever happens happens. Your thoughts should be "this girl has good qualities but isn't gf material." Do you really want a girl who wants other dicks? Do you really want a girl who you have to worry abt her ex and her? Great qualities does not = gf material.

You need to be ok with the fact that it's highly unlikely that you two won't get back together.

Don't view it as a loss, view it as a natural progression in your life.

Personally, I would say, don't freeze her out. It's not going to be helpful to you, or to her. This may have gone to the point of "no return". If so, "freezing out" won't help to bring back that passion that she once had for you.

Mutually speak to your landlord. Tell him/her that you think that your relationship is has changed and that you think you will be better off in different accommodation. See if you can get out the lease, or pay some negligible fee to get out of it.

When you do get out of it, relax. There's no rush. Meet new people, but in your own time. If, after a few months, you still feel like getting back together with her, then you two can discuss. Maybe by then you would have moved on, maybe not. But you will feel better about things, at least.