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| Author: | Zeru [ Wed Dec 10, 2014 1:02 am ] |
| Post subject: | Why I have trouble with escalation/isolation. Is it fixable? |
A bad challenge I have been having for quite some time is worrying. A lot of the time, I worry that the girl doesn't want my escalation and I also worry that if I isolate, she won't want to be alone with me. I know this is a shitty mentality to have, but I had a negative experiance a while back that affected me with this. I'm not sure what I'm asking, but I think it's along the lines of asking some adive on how I could get over this. Or anything that could help. |
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| Author: | KiwiPUA [ Wed Dec 10, 2014 10:51 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Why I have trouble with escalation/isolation. Is it fixa |
I know that this may seem difficult, but just be confident! If you go in with a pessimistic attitude, that pessimism will project out from you onto the girl and it will create the vibe that you are trying to avoid! Just be confident. Stop worrying about whether or not you may "creep" a girl out. If its meant to be, it will work out. Good luck! |
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| Author: | unknownpoet [ Wed Dec 10, 2014 10:58 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Why I have trouble with escalation/isolation. Is it fixa |
no. it's not fixable. you'll be like that until the rest of your entire life. or... until you decide to change. if you think like that and have that mentality then you'll never succeed. you have inner issues you need to solve first to avoid all those fears and anxieties. once you get rid of it you'll have no trouble in escalation/isolation. What you need to realise is that you need to fix things inside yourself and not from your behaviour. |
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| Author: | oceanx [ Fri Dec 19, 2014 7:36 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Why I have trouble with escalation/isolation. Is it fixa |
If you persist in feeling this way it could become a self fulfilling prophecy. The woman will feel that you feel unworthy of escalation and may cut off the escalation. By the way, the opposite also applies. |
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| Author: | CharlesFinley [ Fri Dec 19, 2014 1:50 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Why I have trouble with escalation/isolation. Is it fixa |
Quote: A bad challenge I have been having for quite some time is worrying.
A lot of the time, I worry that the girl doesn't want my escalation and I also worry that if I isolate, she won't want to be alone with me. I know this is a shitty mentality to have, but I had a negative experiance a while back that affected me with this. I'm not sure what I'm asking, but I think it's along the lines of asking some adive on how I could get over this. Or anything that could help. This one is a toughy... Might take you some time to learn it, too... Cause you'll probably fail a few times before you get good at it. Don't get discouraged if you get rebuffed while trying to isolate and escalate... Just smile and change the subject. Here's the thing to remember: If you've succeeded in isolating her, she's at least comfortable enough around you to go with you... She's a girl, you're a guy... and there's a good chance she WANTS you to escalate. Just don't be creepy, and don't go overboard or do anything inappropriate. If you've got her on a date already and you're trying to escalate that's WAY easier to wrap your mind around... She's on a DATE with you. She likes you, stupid... Escalate! |
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