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Author:  Dutchman-010 [ Tue Dec 09, 2014 12:11 pm ]
Post subject:  PLEASE HELP ME OUT!! Friendzone question
Dear guys,

I come from the Netherlands, so my apologies for my poor English. I now have currently a female friend. She is a very pretty lady (HB9 I would say). I try to follow the process in which I try to ignore her for the next two weeks aware (Gambler). I do this so that they realize what kind of value I have for her. The idea is that I can get her into bed off course. This procedure, I have seen more often on this forum. The problem is (is it a problem?) that she is now beginning to talk on SPAM, asking me why I ignore her for two days. It does not feel good as I am now aware of ignoring her on purpose. Because she gets a lot of attention, I'm afraid that she will start ignoring me when I would start talking to her again. It is also true that she is in a common circle of friends, making it difficult to keep the process of ignoring her in progress. I do notice that her message, asking me why I ignore her, making her a little bit insecure, because of the fact she isn’t used boys to be ignoring her. What is your advice on this? She is also currently dating with another boy. I saw this as a perfect moment to let her feel the loss.

Thanks for your help!

Dutchman
Author:  CharlesFinley [ Tue Dec 09, 2014 1:43 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Friendzone
Quote:
Dear guys,

I come from the Netherlands, so my apologies for my poor English. I now have currently a female friend. She is a very pretty lady (HB9 I would say). I try to follow the process in which I try to ignore her for the next two weeks aware (Gambler). I do this so that they realize what kind of value I have for her. The idea is that I can get her into bed off course. This procedure, I have seen more often on this forum. The problem is (is it a problem?) that she is now beginning to talk on SPAM, asking me why I ignore her for two days. It does not feel good as I am now aware of ignoring her on purpose. Because she gets a lot of attention, I'm afraid that she will start ignoring me when I would start talking to her again. It is also true that she is in a common circle of friends, making it difficult to keep the process of ignoring her in progress. I do notice that her message, asking me why I ignore her, making her a little bit insecure, because of the fact she isn’t used boys to be ignoring her. What is your advice on this? She is also currently dating with another boy. I saw this as a perfect moment to let her feel the loss.

Thanks for your help!

Dutchman



Let's start with this: She's already dating someone else.

Now:Has she given you any kind of indication she's interested in you, or is this ALL you that's interested in her?

If she has - then what? Has she been flirting with you? It *SOUNDS* as if this is all you just deciding you would like to date/sleep with this girl. And if that's the case, you have a very nice uphill battle on your hands.

Ignoring her isn't going to get you very far if she's not invested in you or interested in you.

Think about it this way... you know that ugly girl in school that really liked you and always tried to talk to you, and once in a while you'd give her the time of day just to be nice? Would it have bothered you at all if she decided to ignore you? Probably not...
Author:  Dutchman-010 [ Tue Dec 09, 2014 3:25 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Friendzone
I told her that I got a childhood friend of hers in the bed (which is true). I noticed that she was very shocked. She then said that she thought she would not be so easy blablabla. I would see that as an IOI. When going out I noticed a month ago that she cockblocked me when I was with other women talking. That I would see as an IOI as well. The problem might be that she is the ex of a friend of mine (not so close), so we immediately had something like that it would be no option (unconsciously). It's been two years with him, so I'm like, if I did not fuck her, someone else will do it (believe me she is hot!!). I certainly feel that she sees something in me, especially now she asks me why I deliberately ignore her and all other IOIs. I feel that if I go through, I do not see any progress, so that is why I want to try something new. Her ignore aware among other things based on the following:

(breaking current patterns) --> video youtube Gambler (getting out of the friendzone)

It remains difficult, because when a friend would ignore me for two weeks, then I would say after two weeks: "Fuck you."

It's complex :(
Author:  CharlesFinley [ Tue Dec 09, 2014 4:04 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Please help me!! Friendzone qustion
I feel like there are a lot of details missing here...

What you're describing (ignoring) is called a freeze out... They're sort of effective sometimes... Getting out of the friendzone only works if you are there to begin with though... I'm not sure if you are or not.

What you've described sound like moderate indications she may be passively interested in you - but she's got a boyfriend already... It could have simply just been flirty and fun.

Is the boyfriend in your social circle as well? She's probably not gonna cheat on him if you're all friends...
Author:  Dutchman-010 [ Tue Dec 09, 2014 4:28 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Please help me!! Friendzone qustion
Quote:
I feel like there are a lot of details missing here...

What you're describing (ignoring) is called a freeze out... They're sort of effective sometimes... Getting out of the friendzone only works if you are there to begin with though... I'm not sure if you are or not.

What you've described sound like moderate indications she may be passively interested in you - but she's got a boyfriend already... It could have simply just been flirty and fun.

Is the boyfriend in your social circle as well? She's probably not gonna cheat on him if you're all friends...
To get things clear:

She is only dating someone, so it's not her boyfriend. Telling me she's likes him, but is not capable for falling love blabla..I think my game is on point. Playing hard to get makes me interesting for her, but I came to a point where there is no progress at all.

This was the underlying thought (read it on the forum as well):

1. Keep away for the girl for as long as possible, cut off all contact, the longer the better, at least a week, but the longer you leave it the better it will work (I did a month), you can use any excuse, holidays, internet breaking and busy, anything. Just do it, and don't talk to her at all unless you absolutely must, and make it quick.

But now she sees me online, and knows I'm ignoring her on purpose. So my question is therefore whether deliberately ignoring her is going to bring me closer to her, or she just has something like(after a week for example), I've no need for you anymore like I did not have for her?
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Tue Dec 09, 2014 5:06 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: PLEASE HELP ME OUT!! Friendzone question
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Keep away for the girl for as long as possible, cut off all contact, the longer the better, at least a week
If you keep fishing with the same bait, and your not getting any bites, it's time to change bait!

Get sexual with her.
Author:  Versalis [ Tue Dec 09, 2014 6:37 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: PLEASE HELP ME OUT!! Friendzone question
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Get sexual with her.
This.
Author:  BruhMann [ Tue Dec 09, 2014 7:18 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: PLEASE HELP ME OUT!! Friendzone question
I don't understand why you ignored her fully ! Because when you ignore girls fully they ask why there being ignored and then you have no reason, and you look like the jerk... But instead you should of just talked to her when she talks to you then make her jealous with an equally as hot HB, this would drive her crazy then, slowly stop talking to her more and more,
Author:  Dutchman-010 [ Tue Dec 09, 2014 7:46 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: PLEASE HELP ME OUT!! Friendzone question
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I don't understand why you ignored her fully ! Because when you ignore girls fully they ask why there being ignored and then you have no reason, and you look like the jerk... But instead you should of just talked to her when she talks to you then make her jealous with an equally as hot HB, this would drive her crazy then, slowly stop talking to her more and more,
It's to break the pattern of being in the comfortzone I guess. Making her jealous? I already did by fucking her old friend. She's asking me why I ignore her for two days? I guess this belongs to the process, because now the comfortzone is gone and it's possible for her to blaiming herself for this. In the meanwhile she will hopefully start missing the friendship. When I'm with her next time, I have to break the pattern in real life by being sexual with her and fuck her in the end.

This is the way I think it is by the shit that I'm reading on the Internet.
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Wed Dec 10, 2014 12:21 am ]
Post subject:  Re: PLEASE HELP ME OUT!! Friendzone question
First things first and thats you can't live in fear.

A woman power over you is in your fear of what she's going to do. If you aren't scared of her leaving she won't leave. If you aren't worried about her not fucking you; she will fuck you. If you're afraid she won't respond to you when you reach out she won't. They get there power from your insecurities.

This is why the guys who seem not to care get the most play. Women have no power over a guy who isn't in fear of what she could possibly do.

You're ignoring her is obviously making her emotional. Which is a good thing. HB9's don't care about all the attention they are getting from a bunch of guys - All those guys are the same. They care about the ONE guy who isn't giving them attention.

That right there is you my friend.

Just be cool.. You can reply " I didn't think I was.. whats up? "
Author:  oceanx [ Wed Dec 10, 2014 6:20 am ]
Post subject:  Re: PLEASE HELP ME OUT!! Friendzone question
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Just be cool.. You can reply " I didn't think I was.. whats up? "
This.

And yes get her out and escalate.
Author:  BruhMann [ Wed Dec 10, 2014 8:38 am ]
Post subject:  Re: PLEASE HELP ME OUT!! Friendzone question
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It's to break the pattern of being in the comfortzone I guess. Making her jealous? I already did by fucking her old friend. She's asking me why I ignore her for two days? I guess this belongs to the process, because now the comfortzone is gone and it's possible for her to blaiming herself for this. In the meanwhile she will hopefully start missing the friendship. When I'm with her next time, I have to break the pattern in real life by being sexual with her and fuck her in the end.

This is the way I think it is by the shit that I'm reading on the Internet.

She needs to miss you - then you game her like any other chicken
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