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Author:  Angelo Da Silva [ Sat Dec 06, 2014 12:00 am ]
Post subject:  my current obstacle.. please help
HI
So I have been gaming a friend (we go way back) of mine for a while now. At first I failed to game her properly so I have failed miserably, only now I do I realise the errors of my AFC ways. So I went on with my life and improved certain areas of my game. Went back and made huge progress so now we are currently close, everything is going great we often kiss so I assume we are like friends with benefits which is nice but this is not what I want. I want for us to be a couple but she is not so keen on the idea(she says she likes how things currently are). Maybe I am not gaming her properly?
Author:  Versalis [ Sat Dec 06, 2014 3:34 am ]
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You want to lock this girl down, because you're insecure and think she's this amazing girl who's better than what you ought to get.

It's this very mindset that will ensure she will not stay in a LTR with you.

FWB means actively fucking, and it sounds like you haven't done this. Considering this chick as a girlfriend when you haven't even fucked her, tells me you're extremely inexperienced, and are most likely idealizing this girl.

You really don't know this girl. You never really know a woman before you've had sex, and even afterwards, it usually takes quite a while.
Author:  Angelo Da Silva [ Sat Dec 06, 2014 11:46 am ]
Post subject:  Re: my current obstacle.. please help
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You want to lock this girl down, because you're insecure and think she's this amazing girl who's better than what you ought to get.

It's this very mindset that will ensure she will not stay in a LTR with you.

FWB means actively fucking, and it sounds like you haven't done this. Considering this chick as a girlfriend when you haven't even fucked her, tells me you're extremely inexperienced, and are most likely idealizing this girl.

You really don't know this girl. You never really know a woman before you've had sex, and even afterwards, it usually takes quite a while.
I have longed for this speclfic girl for a while. Even though there are plenty of ladies out there, this one however is different she is not like other girls.
And nah i am not extremely inexperienced even though i am fairly young.
I see you patronising me? Maybe you just having a rough day..
Holla back when you in a better mood and have some actual advise.
Author:  Versalis [ Sat Dec 06, 2014 2:38 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: my current obstacle.. please help
My advice is to meet other girls. This one is most likely a dead end.

If you must chase only this girl, then you at least need to have sex with her, before you get into a relationship. So my secondary advice is to be a lot more sexually aggressive.

I'm pretty confident that would be the consensus opinion on this board.

If you want advice on how to convince a disinterested girl you've never slept with, to be your girlfriend, go hit up Mark Manson's forum. They love offering such advice(rarely works out, but you'll get lots of positivity!).
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I have longed for this speclfic girl for a while. Even though there are plenty of ladies out there, this one however is different she is not like other girls.
It's like you looked up the definition of "oneitis" and copy pasted it into this description.
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Oneitis, is that social malady that results in a feeling that this person is totally special and unique and therefore one must not mess up anything with them. These confused "messed up" feelings then often mess up the chances of a person seducing their romantic victim
Go see how often this works out for other guys. I've seen it enough times. Your odds are bad. I'm sorry you don't like this answer, but it's the truth. I have no reason to be mad, and I'm trying to help, but I'm not into sugar coating things.
Author:  Style981 [ Sat Dec 06, 2014 2:49 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: my current obstacle.. please help
Some people say tht some girls take time to reach that level where they get intimate wid u, mostly with the passage of time.For some people it even worked..Building attraction for a sufficiently long time (while remaining as friends) n then one day the they'd get so close that they'd had sex.

However, from my personal experience, thts very rare. Wat ive seen so far is once a girl makes an image of u its almost impossible to change that in future. So only chance u have is in the beginning few days (about first 2 weeks). By JEFFY's words (JEffy from RSD) these 2 weeks are like a window. N soon its gonna close. U dont do it in this short window, u lose it.

U can still keep trying though. Nothing is impossible :)
Author:  Jay (Majik) [ Sat Dec 06, 2014 4:04 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: my current obstacle.. please help
She already sees you as a friend bro. What's done is done. It's more effort than its ever worth to try and get a girl who is your friend sexually interested in you.

Honestly, it may happen naturally over time. But I know that's not the answer you want to hear.

It's not about your "game." It's the man that you are that she's not sexually interested in.
Author:  Angelo Da Silva [ Sun Dec 07, 2014 12:30 am ]
Post subject:  Re: my current obstacle.. please help
Fine... Seeing that I am currently single I will rather meet other chicks to shift my focus. Its really hard to give up completely because I think that I am making progress with this chick, and giving up is not the Alpha way. I am still in my late teens so I am pretty sure theres more to life then just this one experience with her. I will see how this plays out and go with the flow of things.
Author:  Versalis [ Sun Dec 07, 2014 1:34 am ]
Post subject:  Re: my current obstacle.. please help
That is an excellent sign of maturity ;)

There's no need to completely give up. If you like spending time with her, continue to do so. But don't pass up on other chicks for her sake.
Occasionally this works out and you end with the girl. It's just that in most cases that doesn't happen. Oddly enough, by pursuing other women, your odds with this particular girl will actually rise(though it is still unlikely).

You WILL meet another girl that is at least comparable to her. I don't doubt that she's special, but there are more special girls out there than you realize.
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