Hi all!
I'm new to this community and I hope people will be helpful here in my quest for personal change so I can later give something back to the community!
What I want to ask/ tell you guys in this thread is that I have this massive problem with people in general, so not with girls only.
My problem is that after I met someone and had one or multiple good conversation(s) with them (where both of us are talking around 50% of the time; I ask them questions to get to know them a little better and talk about myself as well enthusiastically), when I see them again I simply can’t find anything decent anymore to talk about with them…
Let’s say I know a person since a week, all I can still talk about with them is how their or my day was/ what still happened since the last time I saw them. If any decent conversation is going on, it’s them talking almost all the time and me giving short replies or asking them open ended questions so they can tell things.
But I always feel like that momentum from the first (few) conversation(s) is gone and I can never get back in that initial mood again that I was in when we first talked.
The truth is though that I feel like I also need to be talking (at least to a certain extent) to enjoy having the conversation. If I could establish this then I’m 100% sure that I could pretty much become a people’s person.
When I translate this problem into the few short relationships I’ve already had with girls since I’ve been travelling through Australia (in a few months I’m going to New Zealand as well for a year), I notice that after a few days they simply lose (sexual) interest in me because I cannot cope anymore with entertaining them with conversations.
I have always had this problem (I have the same thing with my group of friends back home) but it’s time to actively do something about it! Travelling gives me plenty of time and opportunities to work on it and solving this problem would open gigantic doors for me!
A step of action I’ve already taken is signing up for Chief’s Seductive Introvert program but this might not be the perfect solution for this specific problem.
I was wondering if you guys have any idea what I am doing wrong and what I can do to change this?
Thanks,
End0rphine
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