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| Author: | Heavylifter [ Wed Nov 19, 2014 3:37 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Decisions and being flexible with women |
My girl in the past has categorized me as the most decisive person she has ever known. She has even complained that we always do what I want to do because I am so decisive. But I think it has gotten to the point where when we go out to eat, I'll say where I want to go "we are going to ________", "lets go to _______" ect. she will say "oh I don't want to go to ______, it is ________" or "lets go ______" Usually if I get this response most of the time, I will either ask her suggestion and be agreeable OR force my way and be like "put your shoes on lets go you'll love it" or just pretty much drive there with her in the car lol She will get a bit pouty but nothing disrespectful, then she gets in a better mood once we are there. however when I go to her ideas, I don't complain at all. How the heck do I deal with this? Sometimes when she agrees with me from the get go, there is harmony. Other times when we can't agree, I force my way. Other times, when she wants something that I don't I shoot it down too. I feel like I want one of those girls who is like "OK!" no matter what lol |
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| Author: | _Lothario_ [ Wed Nov 19, 2014 4:40 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Decisions and being flexible with women |
Address the issue with her. If she asks where you want to go and you are worried she'll argue about it, just tell her to get ready and surprise her. Don't leave it up for discussion. One of you should pick a place and just go. If she's in the mood to go somewhere, let that be her decision, and comply per usual. If she's just going to contest you, don't give her the power of the answer. Just have her get ready and go there. If you want someone who is different, she will have to change or you will have to find another girl. If you want to change someone, it's a sign that things are going in the wrong direction. In other words, she's the wrong girl for you, and your emotional attachment is trumping logic. Relationships should be logical first, and emotional attachment should set in when things get more serious, allowing for both parties to be independent. Your situation, however, seems both petty and manageable. It's a quirk of hers you just might have to accept and love her for. |
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| Author: | Eddie Fews [ Fri Nov 21, 2014 2:02 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Decisions and being flexible with women |
You don't want a slave man. Don't even fool yourself into believing you do because it will bore you to death. Your woman does that because she wants to feel you and love and your strength. She wants to know that you will be able to lead her your way even in the moments that she is convinced she is right and/or "knows what she wants". Stop wanting your woman to get easier because she is never going to. In all actually you should encourage her to become more challenging because evidently, this will enable you with the platform to become stronger. To become more decisive, to become more of a leader, and to become deeper rooted in your masculinity. What your saying is that you wish your woman was weaker so your life could be easier? I say embrace it and use her moods to become a greater version of yourself. |
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