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| Author: | sgooder [ Sun Nov 16, 2014 9:25 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Make out in club and at my place, then she left. What next? |
Hey guys. Met a very hot girl online. We had coffee and vibed well. Fast forward a couple weeks of texting, flirting, etc, and she invites me to a club night with her friends. She was into me and stoked that I was coming. Met her there, made friends with her friends who loved me and eventually was making out with her on the dance floor. Tons of kino - hand holding, guiding her through the club, heavy grinding etc. At the end of the night we were both very drunk, and due to cab logistics, her and I went to my place while the rest went to one of their places. This is where it gets weird, because I was so drunk that I'm not sure how she was feeling. We hung out, but her intention the entire way through while at my place was to take her own cab and rejoin her friends. I obviously was trying to get with her, but all we did was make out before she ended up leaving, after saying she wasn't that kind of girl etc. Now all of this has me feeling like I made my move and failed, and I'm typing this while hungover with the scent or her perfume on my pillow. I feel like she isn't as attracted to me now, but I'm thinking I definitely have to wait it out and see if she contacts me to gauge where we're at. What does this seem like to you guys? Any similar experiences? What should I do now? |
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| Author: | Hunter_Foxe [ Sun Nov 16, 2014 10:12 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Make out in club and at my place, then she left. What ne |
You should always tell the girl on the way back to her/your place "Just so you know, we're not having sex tonight. I'm not that kind of guy". This simple sentence was a game-changer (epiphany) for me. |
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| Author: | sgooder [ Mon Nov 17, 2014 3:26 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Make out in club and at my place, then she left. What ne |
Quote: You should always tell the girl on the way back to her/your place "Just so you know, we're not having sex tonight. I'm not that kind of guy". This simple sentence was a game-changer (epiphany) for me.
Excellent idea.
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| Author: | sgooder [ Mon Nov 17, 2014 6:26 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Make out in club and at my place, then she left. What ne |
Any advice for me on this one? |
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| Author: | Hunter_Foxe [ Mon Nov 17, 2014 6:42 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Make out in club and at my place, then she left. What ne |
Next time you're gonna be out, casually hit her up with a text saying where you'll be if she wants to join you. Otherwise move on to the next girl and make sure you say the golden sentence on the way home. |
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| Author: | Eddie Fews [ Mon Nov 17, 2014 7:34 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Make out in club and at my place, then she left. What ne |
Stop underestimating yourself. She didn't come to your house while drunk after a club not to have sex with you. She was hoping she would comeand you would make her feel comfortable about being sexual with you. "I am not that kind of girl " in chick lingo means " You're going to think I'm a slut if i sleep with you". She was worried and had to protect herself from possible judgment. I think you're feeling a whiplash of emotion because you are currently hungover and alcohol is a depressant. I don't think this is half as bad as your emotions are making it out to be. Just chill. Call her tomorrow and talk about it in a cool way. She would be down for that man. Chicks just want us to communicate bro. If you would of asked her " What? You think I'm going to think negatively of you if we have sex? "as she said " I'm not that kind of girl" it would of introduced the conversation that would of made her comfortable opening up sexually with you. And just on a second thought.. I believe the root of her fear stemmed from her really liking you and not wanting you to lose respect for her by sleeping with her so soon. I've had girls that wouldn't sleep with me for a week just because they were afraid of losing me. They liked me too much and hear too many stories about guys who kick women out and lose passion from them right after sex. Just chill man. Get yourself some fresh fruits and veggies; and deal with this until you emotionally come back up from the alcohol. One love. |
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| Author: | sgooder [ Mon Nov 17, 2014 10:59 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Make out in club and at my place, then she left. What ne |
Thanks Eddie. Not enough comfort at my place, absolutely. You were right on this one. She texted me today and we talked about our night - she said she felt uneasy at my place. The convo turned flirty pretty quick (who kissed who first at the club, etc) so it looks like I'm still in. |
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| Author: | Eddie Fews [ Mon Nov 17, 2014 11:14 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Make out in club and at my place, then she left. What ne |
Quote: Thanks Eddie. Not enough comfort at my place, absolutely. You were right on this one. She texted me today and we talked about our night - she said she felt uneasy at my place. The convo turned flirty pretty quick (who kissed who first at the club, etc) so it looks like I'm still in.
No problem man. P.S. Looks like she's still"in".. She wants to fit into your life, not the other way around. Lucky her 
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| Author: | _Lothario_ [ Tue Nov 18, 2014 12:24 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Make out in club and at my place, then she left. What ne |
I agree with Eddie here. When girls tell me "I'm not that kind of girl," I get guarded about it. Why? Because I am that type of guy. There is nothing wrong with going with the moment, sexually, especially if you use protection. Also, GABAPYCO. Get a boner and pull your cock out. She is going to want it. If she says no, it's your own cock. She got it hard. She's the bad guy. In that case, freeze out all sexual activity unless it ends up in sex. Perpetual makeout sessions are worse than masturbation. It's a female power move. It's not about the power. It's about the moment. Turn her on, and if she's not ready, freeze her out. She'll come back to making out with you to get turned on, and your dick will come out again, and she will not resist a second time. |
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| Author: | JackZero [ Tue Nov 18, 2014 12:45 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Make out in club and at my place, then she left. What ne |
Quote: You should always tell the girl on the way back to her/your place "Just so you know, we're not having sex tonight. I'm not that kind of guy". This simple sentence was a game-changer (epiphany) for me. This gave me a flashback to my AFC days. I used pretty much this same statement with the purpose of gaining a specific girl's trust so that she would consider me for an LTR later. She initiated sex that night and I didn't realize until this moment that's what put me over the top...LMFAO.
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| Author: | Stenic1 [ Tue Nov 18, 2014 11:10 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Make out in club and at my place, then she left. What ne |
Quote: Quote: You should always tell the girl on the way back to her/your place "Just so you know, we're not having sex tonight. I'm not that kind of guy". This simple sentence was a game-changer (epiphany) for me. This gave me a flashback to my AFC days. I used pretty much this same statement with the purpose of gaining a specific girl's trust so that she would consider me for an LTR later. She initiated sex that night and I didn't realize until this moment that's what put me over the top...LMFAO.Works a treat. I've never really agreed with the whole pull your cock out hahaha. Only time i would consider that is when her tits are in my face ! |
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| Author: | sgooder [ Tue Nov 18, 2014 7:19 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Make out in club and at my place, then she left. What ne |
Another update... She herself suggested we meet up again. This time will be in better circumstances, ie. we won't be completely fucked up. I'm picking the time and place. I'm thinking a bar with just the two of us. I'm not sure if that line will work all too well for me, given that I already took her home and went for it, but I'll definitely go for that frame and make her feel special. I do think she's special, coincidentally. My question now is what do you guys do to build up her anticipation for the meetup? The frame is already very flirty - "better bring your A game", "she's gonna put my in my place for the other night" etc. But what should I do to keep it going over the next couple days? Or is it good to leave it for a while, or build more comfort? Cheers. |
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| Author: | sgooder [ Wed Nov 19, 2014 8:53 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Make out in club and at my place, then she left. What ne |
She flaked. Sick. A day in advance but she didn't offer to reschedule. Told her no worries and to feel better, but I'll treat it like it's done, which it probably is. |
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| Author: | _Lothario_ [ Wed Nov 19, 2014 9:31 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Make out in club and at my place, then she left. What ne |
Quote: Another update... She herself suggested we meet up again. This time will be in better circumstances, ie. we won't be completely fucked up. I'm picking the time and place. I'm thinking a bar with just the two of us.
Invite her over. Skip the middle man AKA the bar. You already have comfort via previous meet up. As long as she doesn't feel like she's going to be chopped up and stored in the freezer, you're fine. Call her over tonight. Right now. Call her and have her over for a "movie" at your place. You will already be alone and you can escalate and make an actual move.
I'm not sure if that line will work all too well for me, given that I already took her home and went for it, but I'll definitely go for that frame and make her feel special. I do think she's special, coincidentally. My question now is what do you guys do to build up her anticipation for the meetup? The frame is already very flirty - "better bring your A game", "she's gonna put my in my place for the other night" etc. But what should I do to keep it going over the next couple days? Or is it good to leave it for a while, or build more comfort? Cheers. |
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| Author: | Jay (Majik) [ Fri Nov 21, 2014 7:51 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Make out in club and at my place, then she left. What ne |
Yeah... Not only did you not set the tone the right way. But dude.. You didn't even try and make a move. You said you guys made out and she left. How much more fucking making out were you planning on doing? Should I buy stock in chapstick? Make a move next time dude. Otherwise they are going to get bored. |
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