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Author:  Jwatt [ Wed Nov 12, 2014 12:34 am ]
Post subject:  Need help with bartender.
So I'm a regular at this bar by my house, a lot of the girls know me, the managers know me so there's a lot of social proof when I'm there. I have most the girls numbers but never really gone any further with them.

I was there yesterday to a new to me bartender HB7. We chatted introduced ourselves kinda, "names are overrated, let's remember each other's face, your Angelina Jolie I'm brad Pitt." I was wearing a work polo that she got my name off of and still referred to me as brad all night.

Said she was bored so I told her to grab a pen and paper. We played 2-3 games of tic tac toe (made sure they all tied) then said wow were pretty evenly matched let's water on the next game. I win I get a free beer, you lose you get my number. She says hopefully you win then, with a smile.

Btw eye contact and smiling like crazy, I usually sit right behind the taps and she was staring me down every time she poured a beer.

Needless to say I got my beer and she got my number to which she immediately texted to make sure it was good. Her phone was going off periodically and she said she wished that guy would leave her alone and looked aggravated when she said it, I touched her forearm and said what if I could make u look forward to your phone going off. She smiled, so a few minutes later I texted, "whose that cute guy you were just talking to?" She read it and made eye contact and smiled and blushed. The. Says I hate these shirts they do no justice, I responded we'll how about I take you out sometime and you show me a shirt that does you justice. She agreed. I got her schedule and said I'll pick u up Thursday.

All this was Monday, today is Tuesday and I went there on my lunch break. I usually go after work and she was there.

We chatted, eye contact, smiling between taps everything. Told me she got drunk last night with friends. Then tells me she has a fuck buddy, I responded "only one, what an amateur"

I think his is where I went wrong here. She still interacted all night and seemed just as interested as the night before. Now she's sitting beside me on my side of the bar, I've got my arm on the back of her chair and my hand on the small of her back and hips to which she does nothing about. We talk a little more and told me she got off at 4. "Cool, how about we go somewhere, I'm sure u wanna run home change into a different top first tho right". She said yes and she would text me when she got changed.

I texted at 6 saying. "My roommate rented x movie, how about I bring that and a 12-pack to your place. (She referenced she was out of beer and a 12 pack was cheaper than the bar)

She texts back saying she going out with friends and lives with her ex, I ignore the going out part and say "I'm not coming over to see him" she responds with "lol not gonna happen"

I hate text game cause idk if she's saying just not tonight (she's moving out this weekend supposedly) of if she's saying it'll never happen. What do you guys think? Did I fuck this up or should I pursue the Thursday date still?
Author:  oceanx [ Wed Nov 12, 2014 1:28 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Need help with bartender.
I think her buying temp went down from when you went from being the mysterious stranger (to her) to the regular and when you became more available (inviting her to hang out on Tuesday night as opposed to the originally agreed upon Thursday night).

Even though the "not gonna happen" thing I think was referencing tonight only, I would still flake on the Thursday thing and pretend you forgot about the whole thing if she brings it up if you go back in there next week or whatever. Be busy, be a man in demand, and her interest level should go up again.

UNLESS she was just playing her role as a hired gun and never intended to go out on Thursday or at any other time, which is a possibility.
Author:  neo87 [ Wed Nov 12, 2014 1:59 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Need help with bartender.
Next time don't invite yourself over to a girl's place. Better to invite her over or meet and bring her to yours. Plus she lives with her ex so your pushing her into a corner even if she does like you. Pretty shitty of her for flaking though. As to the Thursday date, I'd just wait to see if she texts you again. I won't bring it up if she's just not texting you.
Author:  Jwatt [ Wed Nov 12, 2014 3:00 am ]
Post subject:  Re: Need help with bartender.
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Next time don't invite yourself over to a girl's place. Better to invite her over or meet and bring her to yours. Plus she lives with her ex so your pushing her into a corner even if she does like you. Pretty shitty of her for flaking though. As to the Thursday date, I'd just wait to see if she texts you again. I won't bring it up if she's just not texting you.

Ok. Only reason I invited myself to her place is that her car is down so I would've had to pick her up for whatever anyway and would've been there already. And the fact that the wife wouldn't like to come home to me pounding another girl on our bed lol.
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Next time don't invite yourself over to a girl's place. Better to invite her over or meet and bring her to yours. Plus she lives with her ex so your pushing her into a corner even if she does like you. Pretty shitty of her for flaking though. As to the Thursday date, I'd just wait to see if she texts you again. I won't bring it up if she's just not texting you.
Ok. I'll flake on Thursday and she if she brings it up. If not I'll just assume she was doing her hired gun thing. I usually only go there Thursday and Saturday evenings but this week I'm kinda on vacation but had to come in today so I just swung by there on my break.

Should I contact her between now and Thursday or freeze her and see what happens. I'll probably be there either Thursday or Friday with my brother (wing) regardless but she's off Thursday anyway and works day on Friday.
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