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Author:  HBwarm-Cph [ Sun Nov 09, 2014 1:14 am ]
Post subject:  What to do next?
Hey Fellow PUAS!

I am on exchange at the moment and have my eyes on a beautiful girl (HB9) from my campus accommodation. It started some days ago when we went to see some music at a band society, where there was a lot of flirting and she was giving me many IOI's.

The last night when we were out, she was really into me and dared me to a tequila drinking competition and we ended up kissing, but then i got cock-blocked from some italien girls from the place i live, because one of them has a crush on me and I kind of let her on (this was before i met the HB9), so I had to sort them out which took a lot of time - Italien girls have quit a temper :P.

Today I invited the girl up to my room and we saw a movie and chatted but nothing special happened. She still gave me some IOIs like laughing at the worst jokes ever and smiling and holding eye contact with me. On the other hand she didn't give me good and open body language. She is though very shy and every time she gets a little bid to drink she seems very interested and wants to be close to me all the time. At this point it is properly a good idea to tell that we both have girl and boyfriend and that her boyfriend will visit her in 3 weeks. We talked about last night and agreed that it was our little secret, and that we weren't going to tell anyone about it (I lead the conversation). I had to say that because I need to stay good friends with the Italiens since all the parties and the social stuffs is around them and they will get mad i get with this girl.

She texted me again an hour after we saw each other and I am pretty sure she is into me but having a hard time figuring out what to do next? Do you guys think that she is into me or just made a mistake? Which approach should I take and how should i deal with the fact that she has a boyfriend and that he is coming to visit? I don't wanna seem needy, I don't wanna get caught since that would fuck my social life up. Bonus info is that she is quit shy so I have to be a bid gentle with her.

So far my own conclusion is that I have to keep showing her that I am the price, being unavailable but at the same time give her some attention. Then after the boyfriend has gone home again I will make my final move :)
Author:  oceanx [ Sun Nov 09, 2014 4:54 am ]
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She came to your room to watch a movie. Alone. Just the two of you. If anything is a signal to attempt to proceed with escalation etc., this is it. If you wait too long she will lose interest because she'll think a) you aren't interested in her or b) you don't have the balls to try to escalate the situation. Like you said, don't be too available, but when the two of you are alone together, attempt escalation. Unless you don't want to risk things because of what you said about the Italians.
Author:  HBwarm-Cph [ Sun Nov 09, 2014 12:20 pm ]
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She came to your room to watch a movie. Alone. Just the two of you. If anything is a signal to attempt to proceed with escalation etc., this is it. If you wait too long she will lose interest because she'll think a) you aren't interested in her or b) you don't have the balls to try to escalate the situation. Like you said, don't be too available, but when the two of you are alone together, attempt escalation. Unless you don't want to risk things because of what you said about the Italians.
Thanks for the reply. I will try to isolate her in the future and just go for it :-) But what if she just came to watch a movie with me to convince her self that she could be faithful to her boyfriend and that it was just a drunken mistake? Anyways I will properly go for it, the worst thing that can happen is that she says no :P If i'll run the "Can I kiss you" she will most differently say maybe and then I'll just say - let's find out and Kiss her' Do you think this would be the right approach?
Author:  fishnwomen [ Sun Nov 09, 2014 7:49 pm ]
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You should have escalated with her when she was on your couch, she wanted you to do that dude.
Author:  HBwarm-Cph [ Sun Nov 09, 2014 8:35 pm ]
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You should have escalated with her when she was on your couch, she wanted you to do that dude.
Damn I am beginning to realize that, but i got unsure because of her mixed signal body language... Hope that I will be able to isolate her again and go for it.
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Sun Nov 09, 2014 8:50 pm ]
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To be honest HB,

I don't think its worth it. I think and active social life on campus is far more important that a girl you may or may not feel the same about after you have sex with her. That shit happens bro, you like her one moment, bust a nut and then you don't feel the same thing for her afterward.

A lot more girls come around when you have the active social life and I think thats a bit more important.

It's not like the girl is single and you intend on having a relationship with her. You have to make the sacrifice, but if you actually see her as a candidate for a relationship the rules change up a bit. So i say maintain the friendship, enjoy the perks of an active social life, and see where it goes. Just don't go trying to make something happen with this girl. Let time play itself out. If you're as cool as you appear to be, she'l stick around you for as long as you want her to. Not need to rush this or force anything.
Author:  oceanx [ Sun Nov 09, 2014 9:53 pm ]
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If i'll run the "Can I kiss you" she will most differently say maybe and then I'll just say - let's find out and Kiss her' Do you think this would be the right approach?
If you're going to verbalize your intent to kiss, instead of "can I kiss you" (framing her as the prize) I'd run the tried and true Mystery line "would you like to kiss me" (framing you as the prize).
Author:  HBwarm-Cph [ Mon Nov 10, 2014 2:53 pm ]
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To be honest HB,

I don't think its worth it. I think and active social life on campus is far more important that a girl you may or may not feel the same about after you have sex with her. That shit happens bro, you like her one moment, bust a nut and then you don't feel the same thing for her afterward.

A lot more girls come around when you have the active social life and I think thats a bit more important.

It's not like the girl is single and you intend on having a relationship with her. You have to make the sacrifice, but if you actually see her as a candidate for a relationship the rules change up a bit. So i say maintain the friendship, enjoy the perks of an active social life, and see where it goes. Just don't go trying to make something happen with this girl. Let time play itself out. If you're as cool as you appear to be, she'l stick around you for as long as you want her to. Not need to rush this or force anything.
It's a different and interesting angel and I will differently consider to sacrifice it because she is not relationship material since she will leave in three months and lives in a different country than I... It's just a bit hard as she is really hot hahaha
Author:  CharlesFinley [ Mon Nov 10, 2014 3:22 pm ]
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If i'll run the "Can I kiss you" she will most differently say maybe and then I'll just say - let's find out and Kiss her' Do you think this would be the right approach?
If you're going to verbalize your intent to kiss, instead of "can I kiss you" (framing her as the prize) I'd run the tried and true Mystery line "would you like to kiss me" (framing you as the prize).

I wouldn't do this at all...

It's a fine routine, but just kiss her instead. No words required.
Author:  oceanx [ Tue Nov 11, 2014 2:35 am ]
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she is not relationship material since she will leave in three months and lives in a different country than I... It's just a bit hard as she is really hot hahaha
So don't suppress your natural instinct to want to fuck the girl.
Author:  HBwarm-Cph [ Mon Dec 15, 2014 2:54 pm ]
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she is not relationship material since she will leave in three months and lives in a different country than I... It's just a bit hard as she is really hot hahaha
So don't suppress your natural instinct to want to fuck the girl.
And update to close the case :-)

After the different suggestions, I chose to drop the girl for a little while and just have fun with everyone and don't get involved. It was going great for a couple of weeks with having fun and not doing anything to hit on her and I really improved my social status, but apparently that made her wan't me more (she later told me) so one night a couple of weeks after my last post we got drunk with the others and when we hit town we started making out, but i got some LMR because she has a boyfriend. I said i respected that and we split for the night but there were clearly good chemistry!

Then we had Winterball this weekend and she was dressed up and looking smoking! We flirted all night and it was hard not to show it to the others (both have boyfriend and girlfriend + it would damage my social status in my group)... Finally the Party ended and we all went home together. Then 5 minutes later i got an text where she was saying that she had realized that you only live once and that she wanted to come up to me... And then you can guess what happened next ;)

So thanks guys for all your advice it helped me on my way! I am still doing good with the group and I am banging a sweet and beautiful girl :P (sorry for bragging but can't help my self)
Author:  oceanx [ Tue Dec 16, 2014 3:36 am ]
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Congratulations sir. :)
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