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Author:  trader213 [ Tue Nov 04, 2014 8:04 pm ]
Post subject:  I need to know what to do here
started messing with this girl nonexclusive she is really fun and we have a good time together but I seen her phone and I know she is banging someone else which sucks for my ego. so I brought it up over text and she never said she did but I know. Anyway she got way heated over it and basically said that I told her I didn't want anything serious and blah blah and what is she supposed to do wait until I figure out what I want to do? So I ended up dropping the convo then met up with her and we really got the chemistry going I mean like something you wouldn't forget for a while. So I just get this text from her that says:


Just want to let you know...as much as I was trying to not really like you...i do! :D

What type of shit is this! How should I respond to that? I mean she just gave me a compliment but said she wasn't trying to like in the same breath. should I just ignore that she sent that?
Author:  JackZero [ Tue Nov 04, 2014 8:10 pm ]
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She is complying with you. You don't want to be exclusive, so she's not holding you to that. But you are like most men and you want her to be exclusive to you when you've already set the parameters. She's trying to tell you that she really does like you regardless if she is fucking other dudes. If you want her to be exclusive, she is willing to go that route. She's waiting on you.
Author:  trader213 [ Tue Nov 04, 2014 8:22 pm ]
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Yea when I told her that I knew she was seeing someone else I basically said that I liked her more then I let on and that one of the main things I am attracted to her by is the way she makes me feel and I let her know that if I feel she is giving that attention to someone else she would lose that attractive quality I find in her. So even though I gave away my feelings I think I did it in a way that didn't make me look too weak. But how should I reply?
Author:  JackZero [ Tue Nov 04, 2014 8:30 pm ]
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Yea when I told her that I knew she was seeing someone else I basically said that I liked her more then I let on and that one of the main things I am attracted to her by is the way she makes me feel and I let her know that if I feel she is giving that attention to someone else she would lose that attractive quality I find in her. So even though I gave away my feelings I think I did it in a way that didn't make me look too weak. But how should I reply?
First off, I love how you explained that to her.

To your question...you don't have to reply. Treat that text as a response to what you've already told her.
Author:  Jay (Majik) [ Tue Nov 04, 2014 9:35 pm ]
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She is complying with you. You don't want to be exclusive, so she's not holding you to that. But you are like most men and you want her to be exclusive to you when you've already set the parameters. She's trying to tell you that she really does like you regardless if she is fucking other dudes. If you want her to be exclusive, she is willing to go that route. She's waiting on you.

Bingo.

You "don't want anything serious"... So you want to fuck other girls. But she can't fuck other guys? Nah bro. That's not the way the world works. Sorry.
Author:  Eddie Fews [ Tue Nov 04, 2014 9:48 pm ]
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You're overthinking bro. Just stop it.

Overthinking + Overemotional = Oneitsis.. You're but one amazing fuck session away from it.

Now, Let me let you in on a secret.. When a QUALITY girl really likes you, she isn't going to be sleeping with anyone but you despite what the pretense of the relationship is. So I would just beware. Either that or you just aren't banging her out the way she needs to. Either way you'll grow and learn from this. One love
Author:  trader213 [ Tue Nov 04, 2014 11:32 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: I need to know what to do here
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You're overthinking bro. Just stop it.

Overthinking + Overemotional = Oneitsis.. You're but one amazing fuck session away from it.

Now, Let me let you in on a secret.. When a QUALITY girl really likes you, she isn't going to be sleeping with anyone but you despite what the pretense of the relationship is. So I would just beware. Either that or you just aren't banging her out the way she needs to. Either way you'll grow and learn from this. One love

Excellent point I do believe that this had to do with me leaving the state for a few weeks as well because my mother was very sick. During that time I obviously didn't stay up with keeping contact and I didn't really know when I was coming back. As soon as I got back we spent 4 days together but you how how it is. However I wasn't sleeping with anyone else so I don't really think the double standard applies. I also think your right about me not giving it to her correct maybe the first 1 or 2 times but I was a champ this week. As for Oneitsis I totally have that. I just been dropping contact and talking to other girls and keeping it light ..you know.
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