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Author:  Lafayette [ Sat Nov 01, 2014 7:35 pm ]
Post subject:  saying no but meaning yes?!

Today, I had a girl come over who I've been talking to for awhile, she's bi, and has a girlfriend
So today we cuddled and watched tv for abit, she kept pulling hair, biting her lip, and once bit my neck,
So I went to her hair, and said it smells nice, and we met eyes, she said " I can't do this I have a girlfriend "
And so I said " I agree its wrong. " And l moved to the other couch. But a few minutes later she came over and started doing the exact same thing. This time we actually made out abit and I got rubbed off abit. But than after awhile she said " what are you doing I said this isn't right?! " And she got mad at me.

What could I have done to either make her keep going with what we were doing?
My fault or is it just her?

-Tristan.

Jan/1st/2014

Author:  JackZero [ Sat Nov 01, 2014 7:54 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: saying no but meaning yes?!

I read somewhere that women want to hand the responsibility to you when it comes to a questionable situations. I have since taken that to heart and it has never failed me. How I have interpreted this is that she told you it was wrong and instead of letting her know it was okay...you agreed and moved away from her. So she ended up chasing you to continue what she wanted to happen. So after she gives you pleasure, she realizes that she did something wrong and you already confirmed that it would be wrong. If you would have taken responsibility for what she wanted, she would have rationalized it as being in the moment. Instead you allowed her to be the aggressor and that's what she's really blaming you for.

Author:  Lafayette [ Sat Nov 01, 2014 8:07 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: saying no but meaning yes?!

That completely makes sense, when I walked her to work I realized she kept saing " why would you kiss me? Why would you let me cuddle you, can you at least say sorry? " And so I figured she wanted to hear a sorry so I did appolagize, I said " I'm sorry I came on to you. " And than I left. But awsome answer bud thank you

-Tristan

-jan/1st/2014

Author:  JackZero [ Sat Nov 01, 2014 8:36 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: saying no but meaning yes?!

Quote:
And so I figured she wanted to hear a sorry so I did appolagize, I said " I'm sorry I came on to you. "
Get away from apologizing for things that you want to happen just to make her feel better. Look her in the eyes and tell her that you are happy that it happened and if she wouldn't have said that it was wrong you would have wanted even more than that. You apologize for breaking dishes or running over her cat, but not for getting what you want.

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