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It was a girl from online, this is our whole interaction

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Women flake on guys who A. They didn't build enough rapport with before being asked out and who B. They feel like they can flake on the guy and he'll still want them anyway.

The trick to not being flaked on is to just not tolerate it. If you keep sucking up the the people that treat you like shit they'll keep treating you like shit. Women can feel the difference between a guy who has options and one who doesn't. And your willingness to still contact her after a flake just provides the physical proof that you don't have options. There are no special girls. There's more of her and she knows this. Why don't you?

Practice cutting off flakes after one flake, even if they come back begging and you'll develop the character over time of a guy that never gets flaked on

The subject line of this thread isn't the greatest description of what occurred in the linked thread because it wasn't a typical flake; it was a girl from online dating where the poster got her # but then messaged more online instead of escalating the venue to phone or text. I think she noted this and said to herself "i'm out." Just meet more girls; meet girls on the streets/in the clubs too if you can.

My Guess is she flaked because you jumped in and went for the date like everyone was telling you to do where as i said dont, build up mystery and rapport and be something different.

Online game is totally different to day game/club game/ you have already met the person.

To make sure they dont flake you have to create this ideal guy in their mind that they really have to meet. So jumping in and going straight for a date is BS in my eyes.

Best thing for you to do is to ignore them and dont bother with flakes. If you want any help atall dude everyones here to help

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I'm starting to thing that location may be an issue. I live in Los Angeles and if you don't go for the number and then date quickly, you will lose out because there are guys here that will get the date quickly and you'll just get lost in shuffle of her endless emails.

A girl with GOOD options doesn't go online.

Author:	GhostRider777 [ Tue Oct 28, 2014 7:20 pm ]
Post subject:	How long to wait before contacting a flaky date, if at all?
It's been three days since, should I text or call? How can I maintain persistence without acting needy? And if I contact, should I just completely ignore that fact she flaked and pretend it never happened or address it?

Author:	Eddie Fews [ Tue Oct 28, 2014 7:25 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: How long to wait before contacting a flaky date, if at a
Women flake on guys who A. They didn't build enough rapport with before being asked out and who B. They feel like they can flake on the guy and he'll still want them anyway. The trick to not being flaked on is to just not tolerate it. If you keep sucking up the the people that treat you like shit they'll keep treating you like shit. Women can feel the difference between a guy who has options and one who doesn't. And your willingness to still contact her after a flake just provides the physical proof that you don't have options. There are no special girls. There's more of her and she knows this. Why don't you? Practice cutting off flakes after one flake, even if they come back begging and you'll develop the character over time of a guy that never gets flaked on

Author:	JackZero [ Tue Oct 28, 2014 7:26 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: How long to wait before contacting a flaky date, if at a
I wouldn't contact her anymore. I wouldn't even agree to meet up with her if she contacted me, but I may be a little more extreme when it comes to respecting my time.

Author:	neo87 [ Tue Oct 28, 2014 8:18 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: How long to wait before contacting a flaky date, if at a
Obvious question... How did she flake?

Author:	breedlove465 [ Tue Oct 28, 2014 8:42 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: How long to wait before contacting a flaky date, if at a
Go no contact. Also, if you met this girl online and she flaked, it's probably because either she isn't the girl in the pictures, maybe even a dude. You're just going to get tons of flakes online. Consider it a punishment for not going out and engaging real girls in person. If you did meet this girl and got her number in person you should evaluate the interaction and see if you built enough report, was she actually interested etc. Sometimes girls flake for something you can't help. She has a boyfriend she didn't tell you about, and she was enjoying you flirting with her but isn't willing to actually meet up with a guy behind her bf's back etc.

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Author:	GhostRider777 [ Tue Oct 28, 2014 10:14 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: How long to wait before contacting a flaky date, if at a
It was a girl from online, this is our whole interaction need-help-with-an-online-sh-t-test-vt184827.html

Author:	breedlove465 [ Tue Oct 28, 2014 10:17 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: How long to wait before contacting a flaky date, if at a
Quote: It was a girl from online, this is our whole interaction need-help-with-an-online-sh-t-test-vt184827.html Yea, get used to flakes online. It's just reality. Unless you video chat or get them to send very specific pictures you never know who you're talking to.

Author:	CharlesFinley [ Wed Oct 29, 2014 12:59 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: How long to wait before contacting a flaky date, if at a
Quote: Women flake on guys who A. They didn't build enough rapport with before being asked out and who B. They feel like they can flake on the guy and he'll still want them anyway. The trick to not being flaked on is to just not tolerate it. If you keep sucking up the the people that treat you like shit they'll keep treating you like shit. Women can feel the difference between a guy who has options and one who doesn't. And your willingness to still contact her after a flake just provides the physical proof that you don't have options. There are no special girls. There's more of her and she knows this. Why don't you? Practice cutting off flakes after one flake, even if they come back begging and you'll develop the character over time of a guy that never gets flaked on Bam. This.

Author:	oceanx [ Wed Oct 29, 2014 1:35 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: How long to wait before contacting a flaky date, if at a
The subject line of this thread isn't the greatest description of what occurred in the linked thread because it wasn't a typical flake; it was a girl from online dating where the poster got her # but then messaged more online instead of escalating the venue to phone or text. I think she noted this and said to herself "i'm out." Just meet more girls; meet girls on the streets/in the clubs too if you can.

Author:	neo87 [ Wed Oct 29, 2014 2:01 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: How long to wait before contacting a flaky date, if at a
Quote: The subject line of this thread isn't the greatest description of what occurred in the linked thread because it wasn't a typical flake; it was a girl from online dating where the poster got her # but then messaged more online instead of escalating the venue to phone or text. I think she noted this and said to herself "i'm out." Just meet more girls; meet girls on the streets/in the clubs too if you can. Yeah.. Or is it the other girl who set up the date for Sunday but you pushed for Saturday? I think a flake is considered when the girl disappears or cancels the date out of the blue. When you do something and she loses interest it's not really a flake.

Author:	Stenic1 [ Wed Oct 29, 2014 3:12 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: How long to wait before contacting a flaky date, if at a
My Guess is she flaked because you jumped in and went for the date like everyone was telling you to do where as i said dont, build up mystery and rapport and be something different. Online game is totally different to day game/club game/ you have already met the person. To make sure they dont flake you have to create this ideal guy in their mind that they really have to meet. So jumping in and going straight for a date is BS in my eyes. Best thing for you to do is to ignore them and dont bother with flakes. If you want any help atall dude everyones here to help

Author:	JackZero [ Wed Oct 29, 2014 3:26 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: How long to wait before contacting a flaky date, if at a
Quote: My Guess is she flaked because you jumped in and went for the date like everyone was telling you to do where as i said dont, build up mystery and rapport and be something different. Online game is totally different to day game/club game/ you have already met the person. To make sure they dont flake you have to create this ideal guy in their mind that they really have to meet. So jumping in and going straight for a date is BS in my eyes. Best thing for you to do is to ignore them and dont bother with flakes. If you want any help atall dude everyones here to help I'm starting to thing that location may be an issue. I live in Los Angeles and if you don't go for the number and then date quickly, you will lose out because there are guys here that will get the date quickly and you'll just get lost in shuffle of her endless emails.

Author:	Stenic1 [ Wed Oct 29, 2014 3:29 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: How long to wait before contacting a flaky date, if at a
Quote: Quote: My Guess is she flaked because you jumped in and went for the date like everyone was telling you to do where as i said dont, build up mystery and rapport and be something different. Online game is totally different to day game/club game/ you have already met the person. To make sure they dont flake you have to create this ideal guy in their mind that they really have to meet. So jumping in and going straight for a date is BS in my eyes. Best thing for you to do is to ignore them and dont bother with flakes. If you want any help atall dude everyones here to help I'm starting to thing that location may be an issue. I live in Los Angeles and if you don't go for the number and then date quickly, you will lose out because there are guys here that will get the date quickly and you'll just get lost in shuffle of her endless emails. I agree i was thinking the same as alot of guys on here saying the quick date are from USA and im from the UK. This could be down to mannerisms etc... I can go for the quick date and get it but there is more of a chance of flaking. In Online game though you definitely have to build some sort of distinction to yourself I mean you could get the number arrange a date and then someone much more attractive starts messaging her. I'll stick to what i know lol

Author:	neo87 [ Wed Oct 29, 2014 4:17 pm ]
Post subject:	Re: How long to wait before contacting a flaky date, if at a
You guys are overdoing the online stuff. Let's be real, have a decent profile, send a good message and arrange a date. You'll stand out. Waiting or playing the text game longer than necessary isn't going to help. Most of the guys online have lame profiles, send hey or what up Sexy or let me eat you out. Then they say some creepy or needy stuff. Plus, these girls are usually average or cute at best and come with baggage a lot of the times. Texting and too much is overkill. You aren't gaming scarlet Johanson at the emmies. You're gaming a 7 who's ex cheated on her and she is bombarded by creepers all day. A girl with GOOD options doesn't go online. So why overcame these chick's?

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Author:	oceanx [ Wed Oct 29, 2014 4:40 pm ]
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Quote: A girl with GOOD options doesn't go online. I love this mindframe. I don't game much online anyway, but it gives yet another reason to stick to gaming on the streets.