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This is what happened you did something nice for her then called her after she took that for weakness its fucked up, but been there 1st hand. She got distant on you, you walked away like a man must don't fool yourself she was seeing someone else on the side he fucked up, and she started thinking maybe you weren't so bad after all. You acted like a guy that percieves himself as a catch as opposed to guy who chases when the girl gets distant.

Now whenever a girl reaches out to you you should assume its because she wants you naked in her bed again so what you do is set up definite plans for her to come to your place don't meet her out don't spend money on her she has to put effort into seeing you. If she wants to meet you out say nah I'm not really feeling it I just wanna stay in tonight with draw the offer and tell her to text you when she's free and wait for her to hit you up she will. When she does do the same thing get her to come to your place you don't pursue someone that blew you off. Wait for her to contact you when she does make definite plans if the plans aren't suitable to you ie: her coming to your place withdraw the offer. Rinse and repeat until she caves and agrees to come to your place.

Author:	brian.fritz1 [ Mon Oct 27, 2014 11:52 am ]
Post subject:	What to do when she apologizes after she flaked???
Ok met this girl a while back, fucked her a few times then she started flaking on a few dates. I went no contact for three weeks and today I receive a text at 2:00am in the morning saying that she is truly sorry, and that I was always there for, and that to please forgive her, bla bla bla etc... She was a good lay HB8 and I really don't mind fucking her again. Plus I never expected her to call or text back, especially after only fucking her 3 times over a month ago. Also why would she text at 2:00am is what baffles me.

Author:	CharlesFinley [ Mon Oct 27, 2014 12:28 pm ]
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She may have been drunk. Up to you - if you want to give her another shot, it would seem you certainly have an opening... Depends how badly/how many times she flaked on you, honestly... if it was like, once... then who cares... but if she flaked a half dozen times she's a waste of effort.

Author:	Cool Hand Luke [ Mon Oct 27, 2014 1:05 pm ]
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She's been thinking about you all this time. Looks like she may have made a power/control grab on the relationship and she miscalculated how you would react. Why she text at 2:00am. Deniability, she if she would wake you and you would text back, also like has been said could have been drinking. A girl told me once that when girls drink and text (not a general rule) the truth comes out. Also when she texts at 2:00 am it minimizes your rejection for her to the absolutely minimum if you don't text her back. Women are more afraid of rejection than men. If you want to pick up the relationship text her back and ask her out on a normal date... Then do what you want from there. Also Peyton Kane, one of the godfathers of PUA says if your going to have a relationship with a woman you have to break up with her.

Author:	brian.fritz1 [ Mon Oct 27, 2014 1:15 pm ]
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It's not that she flaked a lot of our dates it's just that last time she flaked was just after I help her out of a bad situation. Her car broke down last month and it was pouring rain. And she said to please help her because she had no one else that could help her. I drove like 10 miles at 1:00am in the rain just to help her. I called AAA and had her car towed to her house and I paid a taxi to drive her home because it was real late and I had to work in the morning. So like 3 hours after this all happened and I get home I called her just to make sure if she got home ok. To my disbelief she did not answer her phone or my text. But I knew she was fine because I saw she was online in whatapp. I confronted her about it and her excuse was that she was just tired. I just told her that it was pretty fucked up what she did, sent her a dick pic, and told her not to fucking call me ever again. 3 weeks pass and I get 3 text at 2:00am with the I am sorries. I am sure it was probably because she meet someone new but I could not prove it and she always denied it. I really didn't care to much because I have a main chick that I date that is also a HB8 to which I can fuck any day or time of the week and actually sleeps in my house once or twice a week. Regardless i think it would be nice to fuck her again.

Author:	CharlesFinley [ Mon Oct 27, 2014 1:23 pm ]
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Quote: I just told her that it was pretty fucked up what she did, sent her a dick pic, and told her not to fucking call me ever again. This is fantastic.

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Author:	Gunfighter28 [ Mon Oct 27, 2014 2:35 pm ]
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This is what happened you did something nice for her then called her after she took that for weakness its fucked up, but been there 1st hand. She got distant on you, you walked away like a man must don't fool yourself she was seeing someone else on the side he fucked up, and she started thinking maybe you weren't so bad after all. You acted like a guy that percieves himself as a catch as opposed to guy who chases when the girl gets distant. Now whenever a girl reaches out to you you should assume its because she wants you naked in her bed again so what you do is set up definite plans for her to come to your place don't meet her out don't spend money on her she has to put effort into seeing you. If she wants to meet you out say nah I'm not really feeling it I just wanna stay in tonight with draw the offer and tell her to text you when she's free and wait for her to hit you up she will. When she does do the same thing get her to come to your place you don't pursue someone that blew you off. Wait for her to contact you when she does make definite plans if the plans aren't suitable to you ie: her coming to your place withdraw the offer. Rinse and repeat until she caves and agrees to come to your place.

Author:	brian.fritz1 [ Mon Oct 27, 2014 2:52 pm ]
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Quote: This is what happened you did something nice for her then called her after she took that for weakness its fucked up, but been there 1st hand. She got distant on you, you walked away like a man must don't fool yourself she was seeing someone else on the side he fucked up, and she started thinking maybe you weren't so bad after all. You acted like a guy that percieves himself as a catch as opposed to guy who chases when the girl gets distant. Now whenever a girl reaches out to you you should assume its because she wants you naked in her bed again so what you do is set up definite plans for her to come to your place don't meet her out don't spend money on her she has to put effort into seeing you. If she wants to meet you out say nah I'm not really feeling it I just wanna stay in tonight with draw the offer and tell her to text you when she's free and wait for her to hit you up she will. When she does do the same thing get her to come to your place you don't pursue someone that blew you off. Wait for her to contact you when she does make definite plans if the plans aren't suitable to you ie: her coming to your place withdraw the offer. Rinse and repeat until she caves and agrees to come to your place. Sounds real good, only problem is that she has no car now, how do I work around that? How do I go to her house and make her put all the effort???

Author:	Gunfighter28 [ Mon Oct 27, 2014 3:08 pm ]
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how far does she live from you?

Author:	neo87 [ Mon Oct 27, 2014 3:13 pm ]
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I don't understand... You help a girl out, call her and she doesn't pick up... So you explode on her? I could see if she ignored you for a while but it sounds like it was immediate.

Author:	brian.fritz1 [ Mon Oct 27, 2014 3:24 pm ]
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She lives 20 minutes away. Oh btw I called her because I was worried she got home ok plus I had her car towed to her under my AAA account. So yes I think It was reasonable to call her and the least she could have done was text back yes I am ok. She texted me 2 days after that's when I went off on her.

Author:	Gunfighter28 [ Mon Oct 27, 2014 3:58 pm ]
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Ok I misunderstood this thread the 1st time I read it. Dude you should not have gone off on her like that the fact she didn't text or call right away should have made you happy why? Because she likes you that was a straight up test and most likely she was emotional over what happened. When a girl is interested in a guy she'll purposely not return his text or call right away to see how he acts if he gets needy and acts out of irrational fear or if he takes it in stride and waits for her needy weak insecure guys are the type of guys that turn into stalkers or abusive biyfriends. The fact she contacted you is quite astounding, but it even though yiu fucked up royally you acted appropriatly afterward, and she appears to have a high enough interest in you to reach out to you. In this situation its ok for you to put effort in meet her out somewhere and act like its the 1st date slate is now clean the past never happened however you need to build comfort she likely won't agree to you coming to her place just me opinion so meet her out treat it like a 1st date aka fun filled romantic opportunity for sex to happen afterward don't call or text wait for her to hit you up. You showed major weak behavior previously you need to act coinsistantly strong for her to see past your previous behavior.

Author:	neo87 [ Mon Oct 27, 2014 4:27 pm ]
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This thread is confusing. She's flakes a few times.. How? Also it seems like details are being omitted. There may have been another guy and you confronted her about it?? I don't know if she's a flake or if you turned her off or were needy. Granted you were checking on her on SPAM sounds like a lot of stuff. If she was flaking why help her like that? And if it was to be nice why blow up like that? Either way she was rude and a bitch for not appreciating what you did.

Author:	brian.fritz1 [ Mon Oct 27, 2014 5:49 pm ]
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Ok I wanted to keep this as short as possible that's why it's kind of confusing. This shit happend over a weekend at 1am. What the fuck was she doing at that time out on a weekend miles away from her home I did not even asked or wanted to know. All I deducted was that she called me because I was her last option because no one else would help her out. Before that day she had flaked the whole previous weekend saying she was busy and shit when she does not even work. I don't think that would have been the appropriate time to shit test me after I could have been spending my weekend relaxing or gaming chicks in a club somewhere. Because of her I had to cancel a date I had with my main chick and didn't get laid the whole weekend because of her little stunt. I think the least she could have done was text me when she got home. Realistically now that I think about it she was probably sitting on a dick right after she got home and is the real reason she didn't call or text for 2 days. After she contacted me 2 days later was when I went off and sent her the dick pic.

Author:	Gunfighter28 [ Mon Oct 27, 2014 6:07 pm ]
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In that case I gave you the two best options I personally would employ the 1st one I gave you. Don't worry about how she'll get to your place if she really wants to she'll find away afterall she has to get out for groceries work etc she can use the same mode of transportation to get to your place as she does to do that. However if it were me I'd be gone, and onto the next girl simple rule to go by rejected twice walk away. Do whatever you think is best it sounds like you have options so put your time and effort somewhere where it will be reciprocated. If you decide you want to give the other girl another try employ the 1st method a gave you.

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Author:	brian.fritz1 [ Tue Oct 28, 2014 12:16 am ]
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You are absolutely right. These bitches always find a way when they want to. Shit I had a chick almost kick my front door in because I would not answer her calls. She didn't have a car neither, god knows how she got there.