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| Author: | urbangent [ Sat Oct 25, 2014 10:04 pm ] |
| Post subject: | When your homegirl becomes the FWB and stories |
I just wanted to share my journey to the forum, of how I changed by embracing the PUA lifestyle for 4-5 months, as my way of giving back. I heard about PUA from a friend of mine, who was attending some meetups and he told me to read "The Game", at first I dismissed him. I thought it was some hocus pocus, because in reality the majority of guys out there don't embrace the lifestyle and they will generally loose in the game of pick up. In fact I never read "The Game", but I did learn a lot online and of course from this very forum. Because of my failures which you can read about here in my first post she-asked-to-borrow-money-vt181989.html ... o%20borrow I took some major hits to my ego, in the end you should always value yourself as a man, which in terms you should always value yourself first before anyone. As men we have to quit the fucking chasing, while pursuing/leading on what we really want whatever that may be. As a man I believe we hold the power, for example if a HB10 goes into a club and she receives no attention from any guy, there may be millions of thoughts buzzing across her mind, her ego along with her confidence as a woman gets depleted. We have to be extremely careful of how we balance the power of investment in all of our relationships, or else you may lose your respect. It doesn't matter if its a date, call, or text; that all relates to my power which is who I invest my time with. For which now I am very selective. I stopped becoming outcome dependent and quit doing things to get some type of reaction from a woman. I've fully embraced the not giving a fuck mentality and all my interactions with women has become almost self-entertaining, rather than being the one trick pony to helplessly entertain a woman. I can further go on and on. But I don't want to write a novel as this may already me a long post within itself. After I took the L with my former oneitis, I fully embraced many concepts within this forum and other online blogs. I started hitting the clubs hard every night I had free because I was seriously down because of my past failures. I began approaching the hottest women in the club, which helped me to get over my fear approach. Had many dates after and was getting better results with what seemed to be with less effort because my mindset was self-enjoyment and not to wow any girl. The girls became an orbiter of my life not vice-versa. Anyway to the main topic.. So theres this girl HB8 who I consider a really good friend. I always knew she was into girls/guys herself so I never tried to game her, somehow I didn't put her as a prospect. However I started to hit the clubs with her myself and she became a good wing woman. I was going out hard with her after my oneitis and she was a great female ear to help me get over the BS. We've gone out so much together as friends I've lost count. One night after a long drunken night, we ended up making out, which then leaded to fun in a cab. After that night passed I didn't think about it too much. Then another night weeks later we went out again and I told myself what the fuck, make a move, ended up laying however things went bad on my part because of anxiety, despite we still had fun. I was too much into my mind because I couldn't believe it was happening. Also I didn't want to mess up the dynamic that I had grown with her. Well to my surprise after the lay things remained the same despite some awkwardness. Currently we are hanging out a lot, I honestly have the best times with her, hence the homegirl. Everything is great from a standpoint however we don't have titles on what we are at this point, she knows that I have my nights where I do my thing on my own. She cooks for me at her place and has taken me out for dinner. Can anything be better. I feel like I am emotionally attached to her. I prevented a lay with another prospect a few days ago, because of the guilt. She drunk texted me the other night and talked a bunch stuff and said i love you, which is a first because we never used those words before. I'm in a crossroads because I don't know if I should consider an actual relationship with her or stay FWB, I am not opposed either or, I just fear this may not last or even backfire on me. |
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