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| Author: | PhantomAve [ Sun Oct 12, 2014 2:47 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Should I follow up or wait ? |
Hi, I have been trying to set up date with this girl, whom I number-closed during day games, for weeks now. In the beginning she'd literally not reply back to my messages. I had thought of given up on her then, but decided to get back in touch with her after officially no respond after a week or two. When I reached back to her, it seems she was surprisingly warmer. She apologized because she was busy with loads of assignments for university. So a week when by, I waited till semester break before reaching back and setting a date with her, but unfortunately she's already had plans for vacation overseas. After university started again, I connected with her again, but she says the study week is coming and she has to prepare for the exam. So in response to that, I follow with: Me: Ah, that's totally understandable. Shall we grab ice cream/drinks together when you schedule clears up? Let me know when is good and we'll schedule it up Her: I'm not sure when is good, because is really busy recently Me: it's okay, no drama:) when your schedule opens up a bit Her: I will let you know when my schedule is ok Me: Awesome, looking forward till then!:) So far my texting with her is considerably good. Her responds are fairly quick (2-5min). I keep my messages short and direct, normally 4-5 text forth and back. I only message her once a week. It's been almost a week now, what should I do during this time? Should I wait till she get back to me or reach out to her first? If I have to wait till she reach back. Do I have to open and warm her by pinging(chat) a little. Feelings that she may have forgotten about it ... |
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| Author: | Dragula [ Sun Oct 12, 2014 3:54 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Should I follow up or wait ? |
The more you text, the more you push her away. Just let it be and chase more girls in the meantime. if he she texts you - then you know it's solid. |
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| Author: | fishnwomen [ Sun Oct 12, 2014 6:22 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Should I follow up or wait ? |
From what it sounds like, she's not into you. Her texts aren't very warm, and she is playing the "busy" card every time you hit her up. If she was into you, she'd be a lot more responsive to your texts, and maybe counteroffer with a specific time she is free. I have been here before man, the easiest thing to do is just move on and meet other people. If you want to create attraction with this girl, I suggest really working on your inner game, body language, and maybe even create a jealousy plotline by showing you are with other chicks- maybe post some facebook pictures or whatever. I'd wait for her to contact you. |
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| Author: | puaninja [ Sun Oct 12, 2014 6:47 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Should I follow up or wait ? |
An analogy would be like holding a someone by a string over a cliff. If you pull too hard it will break. If you do nothing they will keep slipping further away. Only they have the power to pull themselves closer to you, but you have no control over it. I love girls (sarcasm). They are the busiest people on the planet. I can't imagine how they get by with only 24 hours in the day. I'm sure she sleeps 4-6 hours, then studies everyday for 10 hours a day, then goes to classes, then repeats the process tomorrow. It's amazing she even has time to eat or use the bathroom! So much for taking an hour out of her day to go get some icecream ONE time. How could she? She's got some studying and traveling to do! |
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| Author: | oceanx [ Sun Oct 12, 2014 11:48 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Should I follow up or wait ? |
If any girl really wants to she will MAKE TIME to see the guy. Move on to other girls. Maybe ping this one again with the exciting shit you're doing to see if she warms up but move her to the back of the line. |
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| Author: | Stenic1 [ Mon Oct 13, 2014 12:46 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Should I follow up or wait ? |
If you got her number during day game imagine you didnt spend long getting to know her. I would text her get to know her more and build it that way... have a phone call with her talk for a bit and then schedule a date. It sounds to me the busy card is code for i dont know you well enough to be interested or not. So personally i would have general chat a bit of teasing her over the course of a few days so her your a social guy always out doing things etc... I dont believe text should be used as 'straight to the point get the date' I use it a social tool to get to know them better and show my other sides. Not just hey how you doing want to grab food sometime? most girls will be like wtf i spoke to you for 3 minutes and i dont even know your second name ! thats my opinion dude - Hit her up once a day draw more interest from her make your texts interesting not so direct shes getting scared off. Some guys on here think texting is a one way street but i disagree... she was obviously interested enough to give you her number so id try something different- dont be so direct and have general conversation with her. |
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| Author: | Stenic1 [ Mon Oct 13, 2014 12:46 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: Should I follow up or wait ? |
If you got her number during day game imagine you didnt spend long getting to know her. I would text her get to know her more and build it that way... have a phone call with her talk for a bit and then schedule a date. It sounds to me the busy card is code for i dont know you well enough to be interested or not. So personally i would have general chat a bit of teasing her over the course of a few days so her your a social guy always out doing things etc... I dont believe text should be used as 'straight to the point get the date' I use it a social tool to get to know them better and show my other sides. Not just hey how you doing want to grab food sometime? most girls will be like wtf i spoke to you for 3 minutes and i dont even know your second name ! thats my opinion dude - Hit her up once a day draw more interest from her make your texts interesting not so direct shes getting scared off. Some guys on here think texting is a one way street but i disagree... she was obviously interested enough to give you her number so id try something different- dont be so direct and have general conversation with her. |
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