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Author:  SadSmile [ Mon Oct 06, 2014 5:05 pm ]
Post subject:  she is my chance to recover from deppresion

hello
sorry for my english, i will try to introduce my self little bit and then tell you guys what is my problem.
my name is Danny im 21 and i have major depressive disorder that affected my youth. never had a girlfriend and in general i missed a lot of things. not a geek but i did spent my years in gaming.

i take care of myself and have enough confidence to approach randoms in public. also very friendly person although i dont have friends to go out with.

in my workplace i met a new girl that associate with me very fast. i make her laugh and she want more. she always hugs me and do a lot of kino. just imagine yourself inactive guy that a girl is always hugs him and touch him, play with him and compliment him. thats me.

in one of our conversations she began to talk about her ex friends, i understood very fast that im going to her friend zone but was idiot and DIDNT stop her to keep talk because was afraid she will think i cant listen...

in one intimacy moment i decide that i going to kiss her and when i gave her my hand to hold, got rejected (with the hand thing).
i was so sad and so confused that i ignore her for a while. just add it to my depression...
i dont get where is my mistake, i did hookups in our first conversation that lead her to attraction. its a fact because im the only guy there that she got close to. she is very beautiful, she is one of that girls which surrounded by men want to bang her. i even dont think about sex and got myself to be her gay friend.

i dont understand it, if she make me feel that she want me then why she behave like this? how could i do better when she tried to make me jealous (ex friends) and what i did wrong and more important than that,
how i going to fix it?

thank you very much for reading and understanding. im not a pickuper, i just talk to people to improve my skills

Author:  Versalis [ Mon Oct 06, 2014 7:31 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: she is my chance to recover from deppresion

You don't try to fix it. You meet new girls.
And you need to understand that a girl is either sexually attracted to you, or she isn't. If there is sexual attraction, you are not "friendzoned". If there is no sexual attraction, then you are "friendzoned".

It doesn't matter what you talk about, or what you do. You must have sexual attraction. And that isn't something you can be sure to build all the time. No matter what you do, the majority of women will not want you. That's why you need to meet more women.

No matter how good you get, your odds of being with any one girl is bad. The more girls you know, the better your odds of finding one.

Author:  Jay (Majik) [ Mon Oct 06, 2014 10:47 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: she is my chance to recover from deppresion

You need to handle your depression first before ANY girl will want to be a part of your life.

Nobody wants to be with someone who's miserable.

Author:  sonic172 [ Tue Oct 07, 2014 1:18 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: she is my chance to recover from deppresion

Quote:
You need to handle your depression first before ANY girl will want to be a part of your life.

Nobody wants to be with someone who's miserable.
Glad someone else posted this first.

1. You get your state, good feelings etc from within and then you get to a point where you can share those with others and make them feel good.

2. If you are needing other people to feel good they are very perceptive of this (more of a subconscious thing) but drives people away.

Funnily enough 1. will get people liking you even though you don't need others to like you to feel good it's just more of a bonus.

Author:  Eddie Fews [ Tue Oct 07, 2014 2:22 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: she is my chance to recover from deppresion

She'll want you up until she knows she has you.

Truth of the matter is that women are more attracted to the men that are likely to bang them and never talk to them again than they are to the men who are willing to stick around for a life time. This happens because opposites attract. Women are attaching in nature. Men are SUPPOSE to be detaching in nature. We have to leave our homes to hunt and go to war. Women have to stay home and attach to the home, children etc.

So when you're all attaching she naturally detaches because you're going against your own nature. Its beta and largely a result of low levels of testosterone.

Are you getting proper sunlight? 20 mins of direct sunlight to the testicles a day can increase testosterone levels by 200% after 30 days. Look this up.

I'd work on upping my masculinity if i were you which will make your more attract to the opposite sex on a nature level. It doesn't seem like confidence is your issue; its more a emotional imbalance thing. You can tackle that by getting a proper diet.

P.S. Put my effort into your post. Reread them, fix the mistakes etc. Take pride in everything you do. That'll make you more attractive as well.

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