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Author:  Straightforward [ Tue Sep 30, 2014 4:04 pm ]
Post subject:  I am generally not interested in a meeting, I think
Had a long conversation with a good-looking girl, 19, skinny and desired by a lot of men.

When I talked to her, I did everything I could based on my knowledge. Kino as often as possible, letting her invest, telling stories, being dominant, having a deep voice.

Anyways I got this text from her after sending her this:

Me: Hey <nickname>, what about tomorrow at <time> at <location>?

She: Hey! Unfortunately, I'm drawing a blank on that one, my mother is visiting me. But, as much as I regret it, I am generally not interested in a meeting, I think. But that doesn't mean that I didn't find our conversation interesting. Best wishes.

I did my very best to do everything right, so this hits me, especially the neutral, non emotional tone.
I even learnt that I don't touch her on her arms but on her stomach, face and upper part as it portrays me as a lover.

So what do I do now? I don't want to next again.
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Tue Sep 30, 2014 4:15 pm ]
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Sorry pal, sometimes there just isn't any attraction.
Author:  Heywood Jablowme [ Tue Sep 30, 2014 4:15 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: I am generally not interested in a meeting, I think
Sorry pal, sometimes there just isn't any attraction.
Author:  Straightforward [ Tue Sep 30, 2014 4:17 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: I am generally not interested in a meeting, I think
This does not help me get better next time, pal.
Author:  breedlove465 [ Tue Sep 30, 2014 4:31 pm ]
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This does not help me get better next time, pal.
There's nothing to tell you to make you do better. You described what you did, and if you described it honestly and impartially, then you did good. You performed kino, tried to build attraction, were interesting etc...

And sometimes, even if you do everything perfect, it doesn't work. Part of life.

You gave a very brief description of the encounter.

Did you ever get one on one time with her? Did you ever try to move locations with her? I don't know where you were but say you're in a club, if you can grab her hand and move her to the other side of the bar with out any protest it's like a compliance test and it means that she is interested enough in you to allow you to do this. Keep escalating, then get her to go to another place, say another bar, with you, and see if she's up for that. It builds report etc.

You say you used kino, exactly what did you do. Hug? held hands? kept putting your arm around her? There's alot of differences in kino and exactly what you did matters. Maybe you didn't calibrate it correctly, you came on too strong, maybe you didn't come on strong enough. Impossible to tell from your post.
Author:  younglady [ Tue Sep 30, 2014 4:34 pm ]
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I don't know why you expect a normal girl to meet you after a "long conversation". Sure, there are girls who would do it. After all there are these crazy girls everywhere who will meet a total stranger on Tinder, and just go to his house and have sex with him. But bear in mind, that is not normal behavior. Normal girls will not rush to meet you after a convo. Dude I don't even know you. You could be a serial killer. :!:

She's probably not sure if she wants to go to some new level with you. Doesn't matter how much you spoke, she doesn't know you.
Author:  Dragula [ Tue Sep 30, 2014 4:36 pm ]
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This does not help me get better next time, pal.

What do you want from him?

A personal one on one bootcamp you fucking tit?

We all get flakes. Do the same again with 10 different girls and a couple WILL meet you. So there is an answer for you even if you don't deserve one.
Author:  TheFury [ Tue Sep 30, 2014 4:46 pm ]
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Had a long conversation with a good-looking girl, 19, skinny and desired by a lot of men.

When I talked to her, I did everything I could based on my knowledge. Kino as often as possible, letting her invest, telling stories, being dominant, having a deep voice.

Anyways I got this text from her after sending her this:

Me: Hey <nickname>, what about tomorrow at <time> at <location>?

She: Hey! Unfortunately, I'm drawing a blank on that one, my mother is visiting me. But, as much as I regret it, I am generally not interested in a meeting, I think. But that doesn't mean that I didn't find our conversation interesting. Best wishes.

I did my very best to do everything right, so this hits me, especially the neutral, non emotional tone.
I even learnt that I don't touch her on her arms but on her stomach, face and upper part as it portrays me as a lover.

So what do I do now? I don't want to next again.
You don't have a choice. She straight up told you she was not interested. This is as black and white an answer as you are ever going to get from a girl.
Author:  Dragula [ Tue Sep 30, 2014 4:55 pm ]
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I wish more girls were like this. She was very respectful with you.

Straightforward- Surely a girl not responding is more of a kick in the teeth?

I am willing to bet. You were too friendly with her and got a friendly number close which would explain the polite rejection despite your 'kino'

Touching her stomach incidently is not game, all you're doing is touching her belly, that is it. Try a more romantic type of kino like hand holding or kissing
Author:  Straightforward [ Tue Sep 30, 2014 8:31 pm ]
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Did you ever get one on one time with her?
Yes, right from the start.
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Did you ever try to move locations with her?
No.
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I don't know where you were but say you're in a club, if you can grab her hand and move her to the other side of the bar with out any protest it's like a compliance test and it means that she is interested enough in you to allow you to do this.
Okay, I was in the pedestrian precinct.
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Keep escalating, then get her to go to another place, say another bar, with you, and see if she's up for that. It builds report etc.
Okay.
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You say you used kino, exactly what did you do.
I hugged her, which she didn't reject(there were women who rejected even that). We hold hands for a greeting(who are you, who am I) then she left my hand and I said, hold my hand again, which she did, then we hold them longer while I commented about the way she hold my hand and what it looked like.

I rather touched her on her stomach and hair when a bug flew in or when I wanted to make a point.

I kept hugging her, but no putting my arm around her walking left and right.

Given the text I presume I was by far not strong enough.

I realized, I did not want her to leave. It was a "this time that shit has to work"-moment.

Thanks.
Author:  Straightforward [ Tue Sep 30, 2014 8:33 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: I am generally not interested in a meeting, I think
younglady, that's not helping me. What's "I am not sure" to me?
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You don't have a choice. She straight up told you she was not interested. This is as black and white an answer as you are ever going to get from a girl.
Go fuck yourself with your useless post.
Author:  TheFury [ Tue Sep 30, 2014 9:26 pm ]
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younglady, that's not helping me. What's "I am not sure" to me?
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You don't have a choice. She straight up told you she was not interested. This is as black and white an answer as you are ever going to get from a girl.
Go fuck yourself with your useless post.
SMFH.
Author:  Dragula [ Wed Oct 01, 2014 6:17 am ]
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Fact is, you're so burr hurt about this one girl just screams needy.

I can imagine this was multiplied X20 in person to her
Author:  Jay (Majik) [ Wed Oct 01, 2014 8:12 am ]
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She just doesn't like you man.

Be happy she atleast told you like that instead of lying to you and flaking on you.

FYI, Come on here and tell people trying to help you "Fuck off" and you're not going to get any more help.
Author:  n2thevoid [ Wed Oct 01, 2014 8:23 am ]
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Not much info to go by. And sometimes no matter what you do there's just no chemistry. If there was everybody would be compatible with everybody which clearly isn't the case
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