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Author:  thatdude156 [ Tue Sep 09, 2014 10:16 pm ]
Post subject:  Recover from bad date
Took this girl out to a lunch date today and we were both very awkward. I talked but she didn't have any thing to answer to. She still showed interest by saying she wanted to watch a movie with me with her free movie tickets.

Post date text:

Me: You were terrible. But lets make it up to each other.

Terrible at what? Being me?

Me: Tell you what, lets use those tickets of yours.

No response.
Author:  LIFE PUA [ Tue Sep 09, 2014 11:23 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Recover from bad date
If she were a shy girl who was nervous, a hard tease like that may scare her off.

Girls like that need a lot more Rapport to be receptive to Game in my experience and a lot more leading. You may need to do more of the work.

I would put her on the back seat, send fun texts a couple times randomly and see if she hooks, and if not, lesson learned.
Author:  neo87 [ Tue Sep 09, 2014 11:44 pm ]
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Lol. You don't send a text saying she or anything was terrible unless the exact opposite happened and its a joke.
Author:  PeterJackhammer [ Tue Sep 09, 2014 11:45 pm ]
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Quote:
Took this girl out to a lunch date today and we were both very awkward. I talked but she didn't have any thing to answer to. She still showed interest by saying she wanted to watch a movie with me with her free movie tickets.

Post date text:

Me: You were terrible. But lets make it up to each other.

Terrible at what? Being me?

Me: Tell you what, lets use those tickets of yours.

No response.
damn, why would you think it was ok to tell her she was terrible lol, acting cool and being cool is completely different lol, I'd apologize out of principal tell her you didnt mean to hurt her feelings and that you were joking,
Author:  thatdude156 [ Tue Sep 09, 2014 11:51 pm ]
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Quote:
Lol. You don't send a text saying she or anything was terrible unless the exact opposite happened and its a joke.
We were both terrible, I couldn't escalate.
Author:  BrandonMarshall [ Wed Sep 10, 2014 12:31 am ]
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she was nervous.. you failed to make her feel comfortable... so you then tell her she's "terrible" after she probably went home wondering "does he like me??? omg"

Just think of what you just did lol... and don't do that shit again.


Seriously I think you should directly apologize and say you were just trying to joke with her.

and I don't think movies is such a good idea either because you really need the chance to connect. But I would work on flirting and physical escalation.
Author:  thatdude156 [ Wed Sep 10, 2014 12:52 am ]
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Just messaged her I'm sorry if I hurt your feelings it was a joke lol. I want to make it up to you and show you an awesome time :)
Author:  Rebooting [ Wed Sep 10, 2014 12:18 pm ]
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I swear, the damage Mystery did by introducing the concept of negs... Brah, this was just hurtful!

Other than that, don't worry, we have all been there. But I don't think she is likely to repeat the date if there really was no chemistry at all
Author:  CharlesFinley [ Wed Sep 10, 2014 1:35 pm ]
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She sounded nervous as fuck. You shouldn't have told her she was terrible.
Author:  thatdude156 [ Thu Sep 11, 2014 1:17 am ]
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Still no response, any opinions on what I should do?
Author:  PeterJackhammer [ Thu Sep 11, 2014 6:08 am ]
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Quote:
Still no response, any opinions on what I should do?
Yea move on

Scarcity mentality is a highly unattractive
Author:  Karlb [ Fri Sep 12, 2014 11:11 pm ]
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If the date sucked why would you want to see her again?
Author:  Danny55 [ Sat Sep 13, 2014 12:02 am ]
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You've messed up big time dude by telling her she was terrible. You are history to her now but well done for making her feel like shit. Learn from your mistake and move on. Don't harass her for any more dates either as she's probably gonna keep ignoring you like she is now and you'll look like a needy loser on top of being a heartless prick lol.
Author:  GamesSN [ Sat Sep 13, 2014 2:21 am ]
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Quote:

Seriously I think you should directly apologize and say you were just trying to joke with her.

and I don't think movies is such a good idea either because you really need the chance to connect. But I would work on flirting and physical escalation.
QFT.

The only time I would recommend telling a girl she was a terrible date is if she was a straight up bitch and you never wanted to see her again.
Author:  wilyone [ Sat Sep 13, 2014 2:55 pm ]
Post subject:  Re: Recover from bad date
I won't harp on you for the "terrible" comment. Live and learn.

In my experience, lunch dates can be awkward, especially for a first date. No alcohol, bright lighting, eating in front of a stranger, etc.

I prefer nighttime dates where I can have one or two drinks. Amazingly effective at eliminating awkwardness and self-consciousness. Some people are very outgoing and flirty without alcohol; many of us are not.
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