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| Author: | slashrfnr [ Wed Aug 27, 2014 9:16 pm ] |
| Post subject: | More success with warm approach |
What is it that makes a warm approach more successful than cold approach? Before people think that I am anti- cold approach...I'm not. I think its one of the best places to learn. But I've noticed that a semi-warm approach works for most people. Obviously, they aren't practising warm approach game conciously. But from my experience, and observing others, it seems hooking up with a friend of a friend, someone you share a mutual friend with, someone who knows the host of a party you are at, or even someone that works in the same office as you, brings a good success rate. Hell, a lot of my friends have started relationships that way? Why is this case? I thought it might have something to do with social proof and comfort i.e the host invited guy X to this party, so he must be alright. By the fact that you already have some shared connection, she is more open to you. Anyway, this is just what I thought might be the case, but I'd like to hear what other people think about this subject. There isn't an awful lot about warm approach (I guess because warm approach has too many variables, and you can't practise it on as many women as you can cold approach) so I haven't been able to find much stuff on it. |
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| Author: | neo87 [ Wed Aug 27, 2014 10:21 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: More success with warm approach |
I think social pressure and wanting to avoid awkwardness plays a big part. So a guy gets more leeway to make mistakes. In cold approach, a girl has no consequences for ignoring you or blowing you off. If she is a friend of a friend, or someone you work with, if she blows you off or flakes she has to go through awkward situations whenever she sees you. For eg, you meet a girl at a bar (cold approach) and go on a so so date. When you go for the second, she thinks well it was ok but not great so she ignores or flakes. You never get a chance to game her again. Game over. However, if you meet a girl at work and you go on a so so date, she knows that if she ignores you or flakes, you're gonna be seeing each other = awkward. So instead of flaking she continues to see you and you get an oppurtunity to win her over. |
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| Author: | breedlove465 [ Wed Aug 27, 2014 10:30 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: More success with warm approach |
warm approach appears to work better because most guys don't have the balls to go up and cold approach girls. Attraction either happens or it doesn't. Whether you have a mutual friend or not isn't part of the equation. |
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| Author: | Rebooting [ Thu Aug 28, 2014 8:47 am ] |
| Post subject: | Re: More success with warm approach |
Also, it takes the "shit, what if this guy is some psycho? Can I really trust him to go with him?" part out of the equation. But hey, neither this nor none of the other points are something that cannot be rebutted if your game is tight enough. |
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| Author: | hugge [ Thu Aug 28, 2014 1:26 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: More success with warm approach |
Quote: I think social pressure and wanting to avoid awkwardness plays a big part. So a guy gets more leeway to make mistakes. In cold approach, a girl has no consequences for ignoring you or blowing you off. If she is a friend of a friend, or someone you work with, if she blows you off or flakes she has to go through awkward situations whenever she sees you. For eg, you meet a girl at a bar (cold approach) and go on a so so date. When you go for the second, she thinks well it was ok but not great so she ignores or flakes. You never get a chance to game her again. Game over. However, if you meet a girl at work and you go on a so so date, she knows that if she ignores you or flakes, you're gonna be seeing each other = awkward. So instead of flaking she continues to see you and you get an oppurtunity to win her over.
Let's turn things around. Cold approach invites you to to "play the game" completely wrong (and the feedback on when you do it wrong is when you get rejected), since you can get away with it. Warm approach on the other hand forces you to play it right. How about that view?
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| Author: | hugge [ Thu Aug 28, 2014 1:28 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: More success with warm approach |
Quote: warm approach appears to work better because most guys don't have the balls to go up and cold approach girls. Attraction either happens or it doesn't. Whether you have a mutual friend or not isn't part of the equation.
If you approach girls you have the wrong mindset, which is the reason why you have AA. If you on the other hand just talk to girls, not approaching, you have the right mindset.
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| Author: | breedlove465 [ Thu Aug 28, 2014 1:34 pm ] |
| Post subject: | Re: More success with warm approach |
Quote: Quote: warm approach appears to work better because most guys don't have the balls to go up and cold approach girls. Attraction either happens or it doesn't. Whether you have a mutual friend or not isn't part of the equation.
If you approach girls you have the wrong mindset, which is the reason why you have AA. If you on the other hand just talk to girls, not approaching, you have the right mindset.I think you're trying to be too philosophical. |
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